I have a 5 year old daughter--i am a single mom--her dad is not around and has not been around for 3 years--she is starting to ask questions about him and why we were never married--the truth is that he cheated and i caught him in the act and have not spoken to him since--he has made no effort to see her--no phone calls, no birthday cards, or christmas presents--she deserves to know but i dont know what to tell her. help!
2006-06-22 11:20:40 · 11 answers · asked by cutie_1016 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell her a simple way that a little girl would understand. say that daddy lied to mommy and you didn't love eachother anymore but that you will always love her. say it simply
2006-06-22 11:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her Daddy is on a job and can't be around. Tell her the truth when she is grown enough to understand. While she is growing keep telling her the stories of him cheating on you and all that. After a time she will be able to understand and probably would not ask you anything lke that. If you want to tell her the truth wait til another 2-3 years.
2006-06-22 18:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by 360 degree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont make up lies, tell the truth.
You and daddy didnt get along, so he left, its sad that he doesnt see your daughter, but sometimes grownups do things without realising that it might hurt someone.
I think its best to be honest, because you never know if the dad will get in contact in 10, 15 years time or your daughter might trace him when she is older, and she will be angry with YOU if she find out you lied.
2006-06-22 18:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I went through something similar. My ex didn't cheat on me (that I know of), but he became a drug addict. I left when my daughter was about 2 1/2. When she started to ask questions i just told her we couldn't get along anymore. I did tell her some of the good things her father did, but I stuck with the "We just couldn't work things out" story.
Good Luck :(
2006-06-22 18:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by music lvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is always the best. and no matter what age, she deserves to know it. how her father is or was. tell her, so she knows. that is what i would do. i see no point in lying about ne thing at all! it just causes more problems all the time in the end ne ways. and the father has not contacted you?did you move? if so, that's probably why
2006-06-22 18:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kasey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me the TRUTH is always key in a healthy relationship i know your daughter is only 5, i don't expect you to tell her every detail but let her know that you are her mom and dad and that's all she needs.
2006-06-22 18:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by QUEEN OF LOS ANGELES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard one my daughter is 14 and he has never seen her dad.your daughter is still young does she even remember him?what was she 2 .when she aske about him change the subject you will be amazed as she gets older she want ask much about him its hard to miss someone you don't know
2006-06-22 18:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by dede2772 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i th9ink that you should not tell her that he dont love you guys or hes a p.i.m.p tell her that hes away in work and when she grows like ten or 11 years tel her that he didnt wanna be aman for da family and he couldnt do anythin' so you broke up but my advice for you dont you ever tell her that hes a cheater or anythin' like that.tell her that he loves her and tell her the good things about him not the bad things
2006-06-22 18:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by lillyshamshom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had also bad father just keep her mind & soul strong futeur will show the real life
2006-06-22 18:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by arash a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her atleast when she's young like right now.The sooner the better she should understand.....BEST OF LUCK!!!!!
:)))
2006-06-22 18:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by Nohemy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋