Dear all, i lost my virginity to a bad guy, it never felt special cos he treated me like meat. i didnt enjoy sex with him i just let him have his way cos i was scared to loose him, he was my rock. I was 19 i am now 20, i want my virginity back because i feel bad and dirty , being brought up a christian. I liked this other guy who though i was a virgin, so he was keen, i was persuaded that i suld loose my virginity and when the guy who liked me found out he lost interest. It really hurt me cos he said i was a slut like all the other girls, depite the fact that he isnt a virgin himself. Very hurt, can i get sugery, i really wuld like surgery.
2006-06-22 11:20:13 · 15 answers · asked by janeysmithster 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
They do indeed have a surgery to replace the hymen, which is what is broken ("popping the cherry") when a girl/woman loses her virginity, unless it is ruptured before that due to an accident or tampon use, etc........ Obviously you have stopped having sex, so just continue the abstinence and research the surgery. I watched it done on TV and it appeared to be a very low risk, almost outpatient surgery. Good luck and I am sorry about your bad experience. Don't let this one jerk turn you off to being intimate with a guy who is really special to you. Sex is a beautiful and wonderful thing as long as it is done when you are in love and it is done to enhance your relationship and take it to the next level. When you are not ready for sexual activity it can cause emotions that you may not be ready to handle or deal with. It takes alot of maturity to deal with the emotions that accompany being sexually active. I think you are right in your decision to not have sex until you find the right guy, but don't be scared of it, embrace your sexuality when you think you and your guy are truly ready. As far as the surgery, that is a personal decision so do whatever makes you feel good about yourself. Don't do it for a guy. Do it for yourself. Good luck and God bless.
2006-06-22 11:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion atleast, virginity isn't something you can get back using fancy plastic surgery methods. Those were devised to give older women or women who've had children etc...the tight feeling back.
Virginity itself is a state of mind and a state of being. Personally, I think loosing your virginity is when penetration with a penis happens, others think that types of foreplay mean you've lost your virginity. It depends on what you believe. I mean once you've had sex that's it. It's like saying that you've had vanilla ice cream before but you hated it, so you want to have your tast buds replaced. It doesn't make any sence because the memory of it is still there. Virginity is something that is untouched and hasn't been subjected to the outside world, and that goes for all things, not just sexual virginity either. Unfortunately, since you've had sex that means that no matter what you do, someone has already been there and you are no longer "untouched".
I really do hope you can move on from this bad experiance and come to think of it as just that, an experience. We all live and learn. That's the beauty of life.
2006-06-22 18:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany_XVIII 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. I went through the exact same thing. Maybe it was the same guy?? LOL. Any way, I beat my self up about it for the longest time until I finally realized that I can't get it back but I know, through rationalization, that in my mind, I am still a virgin. I'd like to think that when I have sex for the first time that means something, I will lose my emotional virginity.I know a lot of people will tell you that you're full of it and go have surgery, but I liken it to being born again. I am not religious so I realize what i just said is probably blasphemous, but that's how I feel. I hope, in time, you'll realize the best decision for you.
But honestly, would you really want your hymen to break ALL OVER AGAIN? I know I'm glad that pain's over with (even if it was with a total jerk).
*hugs*
2006-06-22 19:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by california_gurl16 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all the guy you like is a hipocrit. You are not a hoar just because you have slept with one guy. He doesn't deserve you. It's fine that you regret sleeping with the other guy. I think alot of us can all say "Been there, Done that". You can be "born again" though. First you should figure out why you want to be a virgin. Are you holding out til your married or are you just wanting every other guy you meet to think you are? After you figure this out the solution will be alot easier. Having surgery for this is completely unnecessary. Having sex doesn't change a woman's vagina that much anyway!! Actually it hardly changes at all. You should find someone who understands that you made a mistake and they aren't going to hold it against you. Good luck!!
2006-06-22 18:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by myranda_nycole 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find somebody who makes you FEEL like a virgin I would suggest. Emotionally and religeously its complicated for you to deal with. Physically, its just some skin in there that gets broken I think. Probably easier physically next time for you. Maybe see a psychologist for the emotional issues. I a guy left you for not being a virgin, he isn't worth getting either. You probably just need good therapy, and a guy who is nice to you, don't pick the other kind like most girls do, and then get therapy too.
2006-06-22 18:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop beating yourself up about it. Seek forgiveness from the Lord and you shall be forgiven. He understands your regret and sorrow. Nothing can replace your lost virginity I'm afraid, but you just have to put it down to a poor error in judgment which you will try to avoid in the future. Chin up!
2006-06-22 18:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by pulsatron69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can be done. Hymenoplasty is a surgical procedure designed to repair and reconstruct the thin, ring-like skin membrane partially covering the opening of the vagina, known as the “hymen.”
2006-06-22 18:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dennmann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie we all make mistakes in our lives. There is no way to get it back but you can be more caucious now after something like this has happened you will be more careful trust me or then again alot of girls go wild because they crave sex don't be one of them ok hun
2006-06-22 18:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you lost it you can't get it back. If I guy is only interested in you becuase he thinks you are a virgin is not worth it. Their are plenty of other decent guys out there. I wish you luck.
2006-06-22 18:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by RedCloud_1998 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, it's gone, your not getting it back. I think this guy is very hypocritical, maybe you should find someone else. Someone who will love for who you are, regardless of what you have already done.
2006-06-22 18:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋