my best friend is haveing issues at home with her mom. her mom is picking this guy who steals from her mom and her. like money and cds. she picks him over her own daughter on everything even though he has a rap sheet and hes 20
2006-06-22 11:08:44 · 14 answers · asked by pickleB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she has called the police before and they dont do anything she tried to get a restraining order but the mom has to agree but does she... NOPE.
2006-06-22 11:23:01 · update #1
they need to talk, tell yur mom about it and see if yur mom can help there mom
2006-06-22 11:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by soccersweetie982005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that is happening to her dear. The best thing you can do right now for your friend is be there for her. The truth is that the decision to get that idiot out of her life is up to her mother and there is little she can do about it. My suggestion would be does your friend have a dad, grandparents, or relative she can go live with? Ask her. In the meantime, stay close to your friend. She needs you more than ever right now. Explain to your mom so she knows and at least maybe on the weekends something can be worked out so she can stay with you just to get away from that mess if its possible.
The truth of the matter is (I will talk to you like an adult because you sound like a mature young lady to me), your friends mother is sick and has problems. There is no excuse to have somebody in the house with you who steals and acts like an idiot when you have children living there. She may stay with him for a long time too. If he is doing things like that it will eventually lead to other things that are even worse, much worse. I really feel sorry for her and you because I experienced the same thing myself and went to live with my grandmother. I was lucky. It is very important that she gets out of that house as much as possible. Good luck to you, and your friend.
2006-06-23 03:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This mom clearly has self esteem issues and thinks she needs a man to validate her. And this chump probably is a jerk who doens't want to be put second and has told the mom this - I think if I were the daughter, i would pack up some things and go stay at a friends for a while. it doens't sound right... and this young lady does have the right to call the police on this man if he is stealing.
2006-06-22 18:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to be strong because the day is coming when her mom will see the thief for what he really is. Don't take it personal that mom is being blind slided right now, parents make mistakes just like anyone else. Try and get some proof that she can show her mom. I know it's hard for her but she has to hang in there!
2006-06-22 18:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by browneyes517@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The daughter needs to talk to the mom and if she doesn't listen maybe she should move in with her dad or another relative. Doesn't sound like she's in a very good place now. Tell her to be careful around this guy.
2006-06-22 18:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by ras4_us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor kid. Does she have anyone else in her family she can turn to for help? Grandparents? An aunt or uncle? Or perhaps even a trusted family friend, clergyperson or someone at your school? Tell her she should go to one of these people. If she doesn't have any other loving, responsible adult figure she can go to, could you ask your parents to help you out? You need to get her help from an adult who can intervene and make sure nothing bad happens to her or her mother. You sound like a good friend. Offer to go with her to talk to these people. She's going to need your support so keep giving it to her. Good luck.
2006-06-22 18:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mom is grown my mother is the same way will save someone elses life before she saves her own child, but she has to let her mom learn the hard way shoot my mom got the crap beat out of her many times and still hasnt learned. some people are just stubborn
2006-06-22 18:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by babygirlmysterious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to talk to another adult in the family. Her mother is making a fool of herself. If it gets worse she should contact Child Protective Services. This man should not be in the house with a young girl.
2006-06-22 18:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because lust is stronger than blood,I guess. She should tell her Mom how she feels and see what her Mom says. It's hard for someone to see the bad in someone they are with. I hope you will stay her friend, so she will have someone to talk to.
2006-06-22 18:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there isn't much your friend can do. Her mom is an adult, and should be making better choices, but she isn't. Telling her so won't help. Unfortunately she just has to live with it.
2006-06-22 18:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend's mom(if it's not really YOUR mom) is going through a mid-life crisis. Get her some help, pronto.
2006-06-22 18:12:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋