I feel stupid...?

Question

I let other people judge me for who I really am. For example, the other day, I was at the mall with my friends, and as soon as we saw a prep from our school walk by, we try to hide so that she doesn't see us!!! I am such a loser, and just want to get through life! I am not even pretty, and all the guys at school think so too... A little help please?

Answer 1

you should really talk to someone in person about how you feel. you're not a loser, you're just going through life like many of us do. insecure and uncomfortable with ourselves. over time you'll find confidence and learn to love yourself for who you are.

Answer 2

I know you are not stupid. Otherwise you wouldn't notice what other people think about you. First of all, those preps don't pay your bills, worry about what your parents think of you because they know how hard it is to raise kids now in days. Parents will never tell their kids that if they had a second change they wouldn't have come to this world, but parents are optimistic and they know they have to continue living. I wish there would be a way of telling others that every little thing parents do to raise you right, is just for our own good. My parents where very strict-ed. They would even let the police go to bed without dinner if I would call them for protection. When I was young I thought they did not love me but now that I live on my own I really know what was the deal.

In the other hand if you see yourself Little how can I say this, well maybe not develop ted all the way, try to bring out that sunshine that hides behind your dislikes. You know what I'm talking about. Fix yourself Little better, not for them just for you. People still say bad things about other even if you change, so it is up to you how far they get. The coward is a Coward until he wants to. Only you can prevent fires.

Answer 3

Well, you're not letting anyone do anything. people judge period. Everyone judges. It's the innate human trait that we use to distinguish a safe situation from an unsafe situation. The problem is that it's gotten completely out of hand. Now we judge everything from people;s eye shadows to people's relationships.

the BEST thing for you to do is to understand that being who you are is a "leader" quality, not a follower. And the prep is a "follower" mentality, not a leader. Someone who has to "fit in" to a category, like a prep, is a follower. Be proud of the fact that you are who you are and you're not having to be a follower. that's actually a real honorable trait, you should be proud, not ashamed!!!! Have you been defined as a loser? By whom? Cause as far as I know, there isn't a person in a profession who is qualified to diagnose someone as a "loser"!! :):)

Answer 4

Well, I think the problem is self esteem not that you're stupid. You need to be more confident in yourself and stand up to those "preps" its also not very nice to label people like that because I get labled a "prep" a lot. But anyways, don't think of yourself as a loser! If you have confidence in yourself it'll adjust your attitude towards life and eventually you'll love it and it won't be something that's just "ugh lets get this over with" Guys at your school will change their minds once they see the other side of you, if you're the type of person that's always kinda hating life and looking down on yourself they won't like you, they probably want someone with a good positive attitude so maybe an attitude adjustment will help! =]

Answer 5

So you let others decide who you are? Best advice I can give, be who you are and be proud of it. Throughout your entire life people will say mean things about you, but these are the people you avoid. You will never be friends with everyone, but try forget the labels of prep and jock etc... accept that the people in your school all have their own problems and most of them feel like losers at times too, and most of them have people trying to make them into someone they are not. Look at the person, and how they act, that is where you will find true beauty, within yourself and within others.
You may want to read the book "The Skin I'm In" by Sharon Flake, it deals with this exact issue.

Answer 6

Don't be discouraged about some of the remarks that i just read.You are who you are,and for that you are special in your own way.If you felt pretty on the inside i know it would shine on the outside.As far as preps,they are to be pitied,they are the most loneliness of all.Most of the time,they wish that they weren't so popular,because people like that are fake and have to keep up the guard of pretend at all times.As far as yourself,try changing your hair style and maybe your fashion of clothes alittle.Do this only to make you feel better,not anyone else! The boys are dime a dozen,you just be patient and hang in there,there is someone for everyone.You are truly judging yourself harder than you realize,learn to relax and have some fun,so you see prep's from school,stop and say hello and then walk away.Find your positive points and be strong and let it shine threw.Take care,and Good Luck!

Answer 7

Kid...you shouldn't feel stupid. It's teenage angst. We all go through it. Best part is, you're already on the road to change. The first thing is to realize that you are growing out of childhood and beginning to learn how to deal differently with your emotions and feelings. This you've just admitted and recognize your problem.

Next...begin to work on your looks. Not everyone can be ravishing but start experimenting with clothes and hairstyle. If you wear makeup use it to accent. not to look like a raccoon. Wearing properly applied makeup looks natural and not phony. I assure you. You'll catch someones eye. That's when you'll start to learn how to communicate. This is the tough part but we have all weathered it.

Your friends will either see you start to change and do the same or stay behind another year before they get the same feelings you have now. Want to take a bet? I'll bet one or more of your friends you were with feel the same way you do. They just haven't asked for help or discussed it with anyone.

You'll do fine. Keep up your determination. Kids are cruel. As an adult you don't have time for this stuff. You're too busy working and raising a family. Or young, single but on your own and working to pay your rent.

So you're not stupid. You'd be stupid for not asking your question.
Hope this helped. Good luck to you kid. I assure you. You'll do fine.

Answer 8

Don't let people make you feel bad, it doesn't matter if you don't think you're the most beautiful person in the world, the only that matters is that you have to stand up for yourself, you don't even have to say anything, just don't hide, they'll make you seem much more of a dork, I'm pretty sure at one moment or another everyone feels ugly or stupid, trust me I have, but you don't have to, so what if the guys don't like you, someone out in that world does, Eva Longeria, was called the Ugly Duckling in spanish, when she was growing up, now look at her, if this message doesn't help, try seeing a psychologist, it could really help. E-mail me at [e-mail], I hope you don't belittle yourself, just b/c of what people think.

Answer 9

look darling, this is coming from someone who has a few years on ya. i to was not all that popular growing up. all that really matters is that you need to love yourself and who reall gives a crap what everyone else thinks. let me tell you, i thought i was a loser in school too! now 25 years out of school, i'm successful, happy, and have a wife who loves me. i see some of the people who were popular in high school and they ended up being the real losers. some turned to drugs, ended up in jail, have no were jobs, etc. just enjoy your friends and have a great time, i'm sure you'll grow into a wonderful and pretty woman, in the mean time don't worry about what other people think, in otherwords screw them they are the real losers for being so shallow!!! take care!!!!

Answer 10

I am not entirely sure what you are asking considering that you are just stating how you feel, hate to give you the bad news but here is the truth, don't worry about it 10 years from now this won't be a concern of yours in the least bit, just worry about going to school and getting good grades and getting yourself a degree or an education in something so you don't have to work really hard for crap wages all of your life have fun and enjoy being yourself and have fun with your friends, your only a teenager once, and now that I am in my thirties I can say I am glad that I had those years and they were wonderful memories to me, make the best of those years, good luck to you

Answer 11

Your not a loser, trust me as u get older in life u realize dat da things dat were ez b4 are much harder now dat ur old. dunt let ppl put u down in life becuz if u listen 2 dem all den it will b hard 2 get through life and like u said u just want 2 get through life. nowadays every damn person cares about da way day look, FYI looks r not everything if da guy likes u let him like u and talk 2 u becuz of ur personality becuz once he likes u den he will start 2 c u pretty. how do u no all dem ppl tellin u dat ur not pretty are not jealous of u? u got to think a little but not get 2 deep wit it. LIVE UR LIFE TO THE FULLEST AND DUNT LET ANYONE TELL U THAT YOUR NOT PRETTY!!!!! PROVE DEM WRONG I NO U CAN! whatever u do keep ur head up and trust me once school is done none of this crap will matter anymore. just hang on a little more and u will make it through ur life, trust me!