My friend is going to do somethign she knows is wrong. I keep trying to tell her not to do it but she won't listen. Her boyfriend has convinced her into doing it and has comepletely changed her as well. I miss my old friend... What can I do to get her back?
2006-06-22 11:00:55 · 21 answers · asked by queenofnightmares2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her parents. She may hate you know but in 10 years she'll understand.
2006-06-22 11:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by JENNIFER L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have given her advice and that's all that is left for you to do. It's a difficult situation, because as a friend, if she suffers serious consequences from her actions do you 1. Say I told you so? or 2. be there for her when her world comes crashing down. Hopefully you would pick #2. Until she gets some bad consequences from her actions, she isn't going to realize that she is making wrong choices. Her boyfriend has a lot of influence on her and unfortunately its nothing good. Hopefully she realizes this guy is bringing her down and gets rid of him. If she is young and what she is going to do is going to put her in danger, then you need to make her parents aware. I'm sure they will be willing to leave you an anonymous person and won't let her know that you went to talk to them.
2006-06-22 18:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is underage, maybe talking to her parents will help.If it is dangerous for her, that may be the right choice.If it is bad, then she dosnet need to be around a boy that is going to talk her into things like that.Talk to your friend some more.Let her know whats wrong with it and what could happen because of it.Then, if all else fails, and she is in a dangerous situation, talk to her parents.
2006-06-22 18:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything. people are going to do what they're going to do.
She obviously feels insecure and that's why she's allowing herself to be convinced to do something. She feels that if she does it, he'll like her more when in reality, men (and women) lose respect for people who can't stick with their convictions. there are followers and there are leaders. She's a follower.
The only thing you can do is try and be there when she starts to feel bad about herself after the fact-because she will. Don't say "i told you so" just be yourself and be someone she can look up to.
2006-06-22 18:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Jennifer, tell her parents, and if you can't tell them, tell your parents, and if you can't tell them, tell a teacher or a coach or an aunt or uncle. You need help on this one. I know from experience.... I had a friend who was pregnant when I was 13 and I never told anyone, and then she had the baby, and it was really sick and her parents didn't know because she hid it so well, and they were shocked, and they all still haven't gotten over it.
2006-06-22 18:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters if ur friend has changed u need to get her and her bf broken up. that will make her lean on her closest friend which is you . this might sound a little harsh but it really isnt. this is just showing her how much she has changed and how much she really needs u as a friend. believe me it works just dont let her know u caused it.
2006-06-22 18:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by javalava_09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her parents even tho she will probably hate u for that, but l8er on she'll understand what u did was right and what shes gonna do is wrong. tellin them is the last thing u can do to help her, after that shes by herself to make her own decisions.
2006-06-22 18:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by hott dria chikk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody likes to be nagged, if she doesn't know right from wrong then you can't do much about it. Be there for her when it's time to pay the consequences but don't say 'I told you so' or she will beat you up.
2006-06-22 18:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by Zacko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on her, she will need you soon by the way its sounds. I take it her boyfriend is not a good person. stay in touch with your friend and make sure she knows that you will always be there for her.......Good Luck!!!
2006-06-22 18:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by ras4_us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can't change a person-- you can tell her she's not the same and you want the old girl back, but it's kind of up to her-- sorry
2006-06-22 18:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by if you could would you? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋