Negative Friend. What should I do?

Question

My friend is so negative and she seems accident & drama prone. She always has something going on and comes to me to tell me about it or solve it. She is draining all my energy?

How do I tell her?

Answer 1

Hi sweetie here to help. It is so hard being around negative energy. It is draining to one's own energy and it does make us tired!
It sounds as if your "friend" just uses you as her dumping ground for all of her problems. That is not really fair. Most of us like to have a friend that we can go to when we have problems, but it is different if you are complaining to them every single day.
It takes more energy to be negative than positive. Unfortunately, you will have these friends that only want to talk to you when something negative is going on in their lives. The reason for this is that they are looking for attention (but are doing it in the weirdest ways!).
You have to decide whether you want to listen to this friend ALL the time. You have a little control too. When she calls you and proceeds with her drama, "Say, sorry, can I call you back? I am in the middle of something right now." Blow her off for a little while, and see how this works... Don't call her back right away, wait a few days.
If blowing her off does not give her the hint that you do not want to listen to her drama all the time, you may have to be totally upfront with her, and you probably are going to hurt her feelings for a little while. She will eventually get over feeling hurt, but maybe she needs to think about her actions.
You could go about confronting her in person. After you have blown her off and that did not work, you need to tell her that you want to get together to talk in person. Say something like this: Look Jennie, I know that we have been friends for a while, and I am always here for you. But lately, it seems like the only reason you call me is to talk about some new drama in your life. I am not saying that you can never come to me with a problem, but I want to be able to have a conversation besides your problems all the time.
I know that sounds harsh, but sometimes you need to lay it on the line for these people or they will never get the hint. Maybe you should ask her why she does this to you, and why she runs into a llot of drama. I hate to be a jerk, but I bet your friend is the cause of her own drama that is in her llife.
Good luck with things. You don't have to let her talk to you about her problems all the time. Just know that you have control too.