Do any of you have a friend that gets on your nerves because they act like somebody else around others?

Question

What do they do or how do they act that gets on your nerves? How do you deal with it?

Answer 1

This really hits me close to home because I have gotten on peoples nerves by pretending to be something I am not to be well liked well received as well as to get attention.

I have "put up a front" because I have been hurt or I wanted to impress someone or be accepted and popular.

Take your friend aside speaking the truth in love and ask him/her why they are acting differently? Encourage them to be themselves, there is nothing more refreshing or more genuine than a person who chooses to be themselves and be comfortable with who they are as a person.

People have taken the time to speak with me privately and because of that I am learning just to be the person God made me any more or less would be a step out of His plan.

I don't know who old you and your friend are but as a teenager young people want to be secure and feel special and accepted by their peers and sometimes people will try to the ends of the earth to impress people, but the bottom line and I am learning this in my mid 30s id not everyone in life is going to like you and you are not going to be well received by God.

Encourage your friends to work with what they have and use the resources that God gives them. There is an old saying bloom where you are planted. Be encouraged

Answer 2

Yes, I do have a friend that sometimes acts like someone else when around others. It is my best friend who acts like someone else.
She is never mean to me when she acts like someone else, she is just really different. When I worked with her in the grocery store while in college, I would see her outside on break. I would talk to her. She had this friend that she used to basically "mimic" her personality. This woman acted like she was all that and a miserable witch.
I would sit down with my best friend at the break table, and that miserable woman would be there. My best friend would hardly say anything to me and she would act like she was in a bad mood all the time and would not smile. Sometimes she would even talk like that miserable lady.
Even one of my coworkers pointed out to me that my best friend acted different around that lady...A witch... I was thinking the same thing, when my coworker came out and told me "Your best friend acts very different when she is with that lady." And I am glad that she said that because I thought maybe I was crazy or reading the situation wrong.
Unfortunately, the people who try and mimic someone else are followers. They will never have a mind of their own. These are the types of people who are afraid to be their own person. They go through life trying to escape their fears (which is basically themselves). These types also have a low self esteem. They can't feel good about anything that they do.
I actually met another girl at the place that I currently work. I liked her a lot but then I could tell she was a follower. She would hang out with this one girl...This girl is basically been around the block, partier, tries to be a beauty queen and so forth. This girl that I met at work also talked like her friend. She even went so far as to dressing like her and keeping herself up. Then my acquaintance started to be friendly again with this other girl. She totally changed her look again. She got a chin ring, started packing on the pounds and looked like she hadn't taken a shower since last Halloween.
It was an unfortunate case because when she was hanging around the beauty queen she took care of herself and was attractive. But then when she started hanging around this other friend again she started not to care about herself.
There is always a healthy degree when friends pattern their styles after one another. But its another thing when you do not have your own personality and you just take whatever shape of who you are currently hanging out with. These people are like cameleons. They are just afraid to use their heads and think for themselves. My ex boyfriend was also like this.
The people that I have in my lives that were cameleons are no longer my friends. How did I deal with this? Well with my best friend we have always done best by hanging out one on one. It was always better for us that way. That way I knew she was being herself. She is not as bad though as other people
The other girls, and ex boyfriend, I just dumped because who wants someone who is constantly changing and is inconsistent? I like friends that think and act for themselves and who do not have to have other people tell them how to act, talk, behave, or dress.
Hope this helps!!

Answer 3

My wife. Shes confident and puts up a front with others. Very complaining and needy with me.

Answer 4

Sweetie no i don't.if i would to have a friend like dat i would of tell dem how it is if they can't be themself then we can't be friends why be sumbody else when u even better then da person u actin like.

Answer 5

OMGOSH yes!!! its so annoying... like she acts normal and awesome around me, and then once we are around others ugh shes like a completely different person... its so annoying.. and theres nothing i can do about it. i try to tell her but she doesnt get it

Answer 6

Yes i do.....I cant stand it.....whenever we are around the goodi goodi's she acts like a goodi goodi....but when she's around the rest of us she tries to find trouble!

Answer 7

yea yea many of my friends get on my damn nerves but i dont care i let them do wat eva they want i just go chill with my otha plzz (people )