I am married with kids and have strong feelings and attractions for another woman. I would not say I am in love with her, more like an infatuation. She feels the same for me. We have been friends for a long time, but I have removed myself from any situations where we would have any contact because I don't want my marriage to suffer. I still think about her all of the time. How do I not? Is it just a time thing? Thanks for any advice.
2006-06-22 09:33:32 · 8 answers · asked by mtndydreamer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Infatuations are a hard thing to get over. Good for you for seeing this for what it is and keeping your distance from this woman - not many people would have that kind of control. I honestly think you're doing all that can be done right now by limiting your contact with her and trying to focus more on your marriage. Maybe you can try a romantic weekend getaway with the wife to spice up your love life a little. Even if you can't affford to get away, turn off the phones, lock the doors and spend a weekend alone with your wife.
Good luck to you babydoll - I wish you all the best!
2006-06-22 09:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's excellent that you kept yourself from straying and doing something wrong. Now, you say you are not in love with this other woman, but you recognize it as infatuation, and that my friend is just what it is. You're wondering if the grass is greener on the other side. It's never greener there. Take a good hard look at your wife and your children. I bet you love them all dearly and wouldn't risk that for anything. If you love your wife, show it. Hire a sitter to take care of the kids and whisk her away for a romantic evening. A marriage can feel as fresh as it was the day the vows were said if you re-commit to each other and make the time for each other. Kids and work wear people down and it's important to make time for things for just your wife and yourself. And do something all together with the children. In time, you'll realize that throwing away this wonderful family you have created would not be worth it even for a second. It also might help for you to get a hobby that you like for yourself. Maybe you like using tools and putting stuff together. Or playing sports. Take the time for yourself too and you'll feel fulfilled all over again. Good luck!
2006-06-22 16:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off let me say that not persuing anything with her was a very wise decision. throw yourself back into your family life. maybe take a romatic weekend away with your wife or take the kids to an amusement park or somewhere they would love. spending time with them will help you appreciate all of the good things in your family and will help you move on. if you feel like something is missing from your and your wife's marriage you may want to try going to conseling to fix things and get back on the same page.
2006-06-22 16:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Hez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to start having FUN with your wife. You must schedule time out of your ordinary life for fun dates and fall back in love again. The only reason you still think of this person is that she is not involved in your "real life" you know, the boring, hard and sometimes ugly stuff of everyday life. Even though you don't think so, you are putting her first in your mind. Try thinking about her with bad breath and always asking you for money. Then put your wife back on the pedestal. I promise you will love life more that way!
2006-06-22 16:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Perils of Paulette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok mr w/e u do, do not cheat on your wife because its not right. i see you have strong attractions towards another woman but you got to control your feelings espeially if ur wife is good 2u....if ur wife treats u like shyt and doesent care for u then get a divorce and try to get with dis gurl just do wats best 4u and follow ur heart becuz allthough its on ur left side its always right. its nice to kno tha u rejected all da chances u had to spend time with this woman becuz you care for you wife but if your wife is good 2u theres realli nothing you can do depending on how strong ur feelings r fr dis woman becu ur feeings can control you and tae over you sometimes u just have 2try or best 2control them g/l with your relationsghip and wish you the best
krystina
2006-06-22 16:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats no good dear!!!!
you are taken,,, you have ur own famly!!!
u need to pray and ask for God's guidance!!!
well,,, try to avoid fallin in love to that other girl!!!
love your wife more!!!!!!
stop communicating with that girl,,,
you'll hurt ur wife and the other girl if u'll continue such thing!!!!
dont let any1 let your family tear your family a part!!!!!
God bless!!!!
l_e_a_h_02@yahoo.com
2006-06-22 16:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by l_e_a_h_02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best that you just tryo to stay away...time will do the rest.
2006-06-22 16:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by JoJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new babe. She'll be instantly out of your mind!
2006-06-22 16:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋