Women.........?

Question

Do you still feel oppressed in modern society?
Does it still feel like a mans world?
Pressure to have children?

I'm just wondering, the other day i thought that society still doesn't "get" the needs of women.

Maybe it's just me!!! But i am a pro feminist person.

I live in the UK, a little town, so maybe that’s why i feel oppressed.

It's just i want to travel the world, write books and learn.

And i feel like people expect me to be a house wife.

My boyfriend has told me i could be a "lady of leisure" if i cook his tea etc.

But i like earning my own money!

Keep your views coming, good to hear what people think!

Answer 1

As a bloke, I feel that, in many ways, society treats women far better than men.

I have twice been deserted by wives who (it seems) wanted babies but not children - I have been a serial single parent. Even though neither of these women paid a single penny in child care costs, they both felt entitled to a share of my earnings AFTER THEY HAD LEFT ME TO LOOK AFTER THOSE CHILDREN. I am told that the second one also has a chance of a share of my house (to which she paid not a jot) and a share of my pension (even though she CHOSE not to work).

Both of those women DEMANDED the children that they later abandonned.

Also, health grounds; for every pound spent on men's health issues £20-00 is spent on women's health issues.

Most of my time in work (various places) was spent with women bosses and, boy, was I oppressed - even to the extent of suffering their dark suspicions for being a male single parent. The women had left but somehow it HAD to be my fault.

So I guess I'm rather anti-feminist.

Answer 2

I don't feel like any of those things.

I have never felt oppressed ... I feel pissed off that women still aren't paid equally, but that's about it.

I don't think it's a man's world at all ... I feel like I can do whatever I want, be whoever I want to be, and go wherever I want to go. Personally, I feel sorry for men ... it's always a joke on TV that men are stupid. It's always the fat, ugly guy who's "lucky" to have a beautiful and thin wife (how horrible must it be to know that people don't even think of your personality). Men have terrible standards to live up to ... must love sports, sex, beer and go all night in order to be a "real man." Can you imagine being worried that if you show emotion, your wife/girlfriend might lose respect for you?

Additionally, the women's lib movement has changed lots of things for men as well ... imagine going on a date and having no idea if the woman you're with would be offended or charmed if you opened the door/pulled out a chair/paid the bill for her? It's a confusing time for men, but I've never felt more sure of myself.

And while I do want to have children, sometimes I feel that I don't (very rarely, admittedly). And I would be fine with sticking with that decision if I made it. I don't believe anyone has the right to tell me what to do in that respect so maybe I'm just not made to feel any kind of pressure. Personally, this is an alien feeling to me.

And finally, I would never say I'm a feminist. I understand that originally it came to mean equality. But now, I feel it has a horrible aura of "putting men down to elevate women." And that's not okay. I hope that this is an untrue stereotype of feminists (as women who hate or are angry at men), but I don't believe I got this impression in a vacuum.

Thanks for letting me vent!

Answer 3

I wouldn't say we are oppressed. There is still definitely a need for society as a whole to see women in a different light. You cannot blame this solely on men. Although I agree that it is still a man's world but as the ad says "We've come a long way baby".

Women have to accept a lot of the blame. For instance there are many females out there who play the "poor me I'm just a helpless female" role because they think that is what a man wants to hear.

There are also women who endure plastic surgery because their man wants them to. I have nothing against a woman trying to improve her self esteem through enhancement but make sure you are doing it for the right reason.

Who is pressuring you to have children? A man? I think not. More than likely it is your mother, your grandmother, your sisters, your aunts, your female coworkers!!

As for society "getting" the needs of women. What does that mean? We are responsible for seeing that our needs are met, not society.

You are pro feminist. Go out and get what you want, don't wait for it to come to you. You will be waiting a mighty long time if you do.

Answer 4

I would like to add a little light hearted answer here about how women communicate with their men.

WORDS WOMEN USE
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FINE

This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up.
Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks - this will cause you to have one of those arguments.

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FIVE MINUTES

This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.

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NOTHING

This means "something," and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with "Fine"

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GO AHEAD (With Raised Eyebrows!)

This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over
"Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine"

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GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows)

This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care" You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.

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LOUD SIGH

This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing"

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SOFT SIGH

Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. "Soft Sighs" mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.

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THAT'S OKAY

This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised Eyebrow." GO AHEAD! At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.

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PLEASE DO

This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay"

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THANKS

A woman is thanking you. Do not! faint. Just say you're welcome.

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THANKS A LOT

This is much different from "Thanks."
A woman will say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the "Loud Sigh." Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell you "Nothing"


Send it to your women friends to give them a good laugh

Answer 5

You know things would be a lot more equal and pleasant between all of us, if people stopped trying to stir up the differences between men and women all the time.
Yes we're different - now get over it, men do some things better, women do others better. It all works out in the end. It isn't true that there are more opportunities for men. There are more opportunities for those who create them, or go out and find them, regardless of whether they are men or women.
There are places in this world where true oppression still exists. If you don't have to live with that reality in your own life, then be grateful and make the most of the opportunities around you.

Answer 6

No I can't say I really feel that way at all.
I got to finish school and went to college. After college I started having children. Tried at 1st to be mommy and work and wasn't happy. I came home after a few months. I feel lucky to have a man that can support me and my kids. I am not treated less in life or in my marriage.My hubby treats me equal. I think women have came along way . I have always lived in one state maybe it's different in other places tho.Not sure.
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Maybe that is the differents and the reason you feel that way. You don't won't to be a housewife....There isn't anything wrong with that. Live your life the way you want too.
I don't know then cause I do live my life as a housewife......lol
Good luck to you and I hope you find everything your looking for
hugs

Answer 7

I think women are sometimes pressured to have children, all this stuff about waiting too long to have children, maybe some of us don't want children. Not all women desperately want children, and want to get married.

Anyway, to Slippery, maybe if it were the other way round, how would you like it if you weren't paid equally, or not given a job because you might end up getting pregnant?

Answer 8

Actually, no.

Do people say and feel a lot of things that are against what I feel?
Yes, absolutely.

But when I choose to go to school, get a job, travel, not have children just yet, there's no one telling me I can't!

The pressures of the world are purely mental.
When you tell yourself that you are not oppressed, you will be.

Answer 9

So much has changed in the world of women! Now instead of being wives and mothers and doing domestic chores, they have been "empowered" to fight like a man in the workplace while still doing the domestic chores and taking most of the burden of child care.
Unmarried young women have the illusion of thinking they are equal to men and ruining their livers in the process.
I studied and was part of the feminist movement but when I see the result of our efforts, I think we made a fundamental mistake. We should have pursuaded men to join us instead of forcing them to accept us joining them.
We live more than ever in a man's world. Take today's announcement by Gordon Brown than he wants to continue and spend billions on renewing our missile programme despite the fierce opposition of hundreds of women on Greenham Common. (Hats off to Clare Short for saying she wouldn't support him). Take yesterday's call by the head of the catholic church (surely the most mysoginistic organization in the world) that there should be a review of the abortion laws.
I'm afraid it very much feels like a man's world and we have given away the few privileges that we did have

Answer 10

I don't feel to much has changed except for more absent fathers. Which makes it harder on us women. Children, Jobs, and men that seems to be the only thing on a womans menu of life. Doesn't seem fair does it and it never will. Women can't walk away from their children like men can. We have too much of GOD within us. Regardless of our pitfalls I love being just what GOD made me, ALL WOMAN