2006-06-22 09:24:08 · 10 answers · asked by backed into a wall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It won't work.
2006-06-22 09:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by AlphaFemale 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You're going to think he's going to come back. But if you divorce him and he thinks you don't want him in your life anymore, then he might just leave you alone. I dont think you want that. It's very extreme. Besides, if you've been married for 20 years and are in love, I think it's a little late to be playing games. just enjoy the rest of your lives together. if he treally doesnt appreciate you, let him know how you feel. or take a vacation so he ha some time alone to realize what life is like without you. but a divorce? No. Good luck.
2006-06-22 09:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by Melonball 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you decide to divorce him, try taking away some of the things you do for him or as one of my friends would say - "Stop feeding him". Stop making the extra effort to make things easy for him. Start spending more time with friends and family doing things that don't include him. Maybe he will miss those little things and get a clue.
Using divorce as a mind game or threat is a very serious step. Only do that if you are prepared to follow through with it and deal with the consequences. I divorced after 25 years and it was the hardest thing I have ever done. It was the right choice for me - just be sure it's what you really want.
2006-06-22 10:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by msgirl_29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready for the consequences in case this was to back fire on you? This is a drastic step.....are these "that" drastic of times? Have you exhausted all the other ways there might be out there for him to realize this without a divorce? Please think this over carefully. You have 20 years invested in him, and at times they do take us for granted, and over look those special qualities that made them fall in love the first go around. I think you could get the same results, with out taking such risks, by totally emerging into something out side the marriage. Your job, a hobby, anything, where you would take your mental and physical focus off the marriage in a innocent way. Get busy, don't wait around for him, if he goes somewhere and you are left at home, you get out and do something too. Don't be readily available to the normal things you might do for him. Just re-program your priorties for awhile and see what happens. I know everytime I get caught up in something that takes me away from the house and my husband's attention, he gets more appreciative, caring and loving. Be careful, what ever you decide to do. I hope you the best!!!
2006-06-22 15:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your willing to accept being divorced, don't do it. Divorce isn't a game or a weapon, it is a serious thing that if you do it you have to accept the result which is that you will be single and so will he. How he reacts you won't know till you do it but more than likely it won't change anything between you and will only make it worse if you change your mind because it didn't have the affect you wanted.
2006-06-22 09:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absoltely not, because he might realized what he has as being single and not come back. Dont let someone else come snatch up your man, then she starts getting all the benefits that he never gave you. There is a better to way to go about it, and if your a christian woman prayer is the best way to fix your husband.
2006-06-22 09:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by Queen P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 12 years and he doesn't get it. I told him i was leaving and then he tried to "change" but i had already created a new life for myself.
He has now becom sufficating and thinks sex will cure everything. He won't go to counselling and he doesn't think he does anything wrong.
He won't let me go. He has said that.
If you can get out get out while you still have some living to do
2006-06-22 09:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by sharon h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it could back fire on you. If you really don't want a divorce, don't file for one, he just might surprise you and give it to you gleefully.
2006-06-23 11:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,.absolutely,. alot of guys tend to take for granted the most important things in there life,...and dont realize it til its too late!
2006-06-22 09:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by cris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...i would...it is going to be hard...and he may never get it...some men are dense that way...good luck!!!
2006-06-22 09:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by countrygirlcansurvive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋