I saw him once and I fell in love with him, i got his number and I strated sending him sms, we became friends then he started to love me too. A year passed, I was really feelling great with him, but he got married and hid it from me for more than a month. When he told me the truth I broke down and decided to leave him, he told me that he doesn't love his wife and that it was a mistake, that it's just a matter of time and they'll getting divorce. It has been 9 months now, I feel lost, I can't imagine living without him, all my dreams depends on him. He keeps telling me to wait, he wants to find the good way to get divorce without touching his wife's feelings. He's the only one perfect for me. Shall I wait and see what he'll do, or shall I break up and face the truth. The problem is that I don't have anything to do after him, all my life depends on him, now and in the future! help me please!!!!
2006-06-22 09:21:13 · 8 answers · asked by Nina Moore 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Firstly, you CAN live without him (he is not the air that you breathe)! However, it may take a while for you to accept that its over. It is very rear that a man leaves his wife for someone else, especially in this case where he got married while you were around. You need to accept that you were lied to by this man who does not deserve the love and commitment that you have offered to him. Leave him alone until he makes a decision one way or another. In the meantime, have fun with friends, etc and good luck.
2006-06-22 09:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by stacy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ther is no such thing as your future depends on being with him. You pursue your own future. You never let a man or woman depending on gender be the soul source of your future. Relationships are not meant to last always. Some do most DON'T. You need some self esteem so you won't feel down about yourself. I am sure you are a very beautiful person inside and out so never let the opposite sex hold that much control of your life. And for him to get married and not let you know means he is not the one anyway. You deserve better. We all do. Don't put your life on hold waiting for Mr. Wrong when Mr. Right could be around the corner.
2006-06-22 16:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by michelle43343 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life does NOT depend on him - you control it!
Why would you still want to be with someone who obviously does not have the same feelings for you that you have for him? And don't say he does feel the same way, cuz if he did, he would NOT have married someone else and then lied to you about it. He's not going to leave her, and even if he ever did, do you really think you could ever trust him again? You're his back-up plan, darlin' - is that really good enough for you?
Move on and find someone who will love you - and only you!
2006-06-22 16:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He won't leave. He got married for a reason. He hid it for a reason. He wants to have his cake and eat it to. There is no "perfect" person out there. You will find someone better and who isn't decieptful. Let this one loose. If it is truly meant to be leave him, he will either get divorced and pursue you or stay with his wife. But if you stay you will never know how he truly feels or what he wants.
2006-06-22 16:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by sharon h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your life depend on him? You need to leave him alone. He was not honest with you and honest,trust and respect go hand in hand in a good healthy relationship. There are a lot of other single honest men out there..be patient. Be smart and do not depend on a man. make your own way, if things don't work out between you and your man..you can make it on your own.
Besides lots of men do not like needy women, they like independent women. Face the truth
2006-06-22 16:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by backed into a wall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him string you along. I know a girl right now who's been waitin' for over 2 years. Think about it any man can say what he want he knows you want to hear but actions speak louder than words. I suggest you back off let him make a few decissions. And I'm sorry but wanting you to help is plum crazy. If he truly wanted out he would find a way.
2006-06-22 16:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by volleyball55morrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you feel like this man is your whole reason for living, and while he may be one of the nicest guys on the planet....honey, you DESERVE better! it is that simple! I am sure everyone has told you this time and time again, but it is sadly true.
A good way to deal with it is to let him know you are better than it. Tell him it kills you to walk away, but you know you have to. IF and only IF he chases after YOU, (leaving his wife for good of course), will it EVER work. You are making it wayyyy too easy for him to use you. That IS what he is doing.
2006-06-22 16:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by briarsmum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on with your own life, and leave him on the curb.
2006-06-22 16:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋