slept with my ex today, not intentional, help?

Question

i met my ex today, we decided to be friends a month ago after he broke off our 5 and a 1/2 year relationship out of the blue (we didn't argue), i hadn't seen him for a week and we ended up in bed together today, he made it clear he wasn't guna get back with me and i know i'll always want him back. we're going on a pre booked 2 week holiday in july as 'friends' and i'v gone numb inside, i don't know what i want anymore, but we get on so well the holiday will be great, do you think he'll fall back in love with me? or is that fulse hope?

when i say unintentional, i mean i didn't meet him to do it, i took him to a dr's appointment,coz he didn't want to go alone and when we got back to his,one thing led to another. you can understand why i would let it happen.

Answer 1

hello sweetheart everyone is giving you a hard time right now, I agree with some of their comments, but your ex is totally out of order. Is he a man or mouse, he daren't go to the Dr's on his own. I think he intentionally set out to get you into bed today. You have to be strong and move on, and although it will be hard at first you will find yourself again and you will be happy again just give it time, I think I would cancel the holiday, but you alone can make that decision....If you do go away with him please dont let him take advantage of you again... know your worth sweetheart and dont be afraid to tell him to get lost Take care beauty, good luck and be happy !!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I think he made up his mind when he left you and then when he realised what he had just walked away from, thought... 'what if'. To be honest I think he might be thinking that he's going to get his wicked way with you on holiday and then as soon as the holiday is over, he wont want you in that way ever again.

I think you need to be strong and fight him off. In this situation sex is def meant to be in the relly not around the relly.

I feel for you because his indecisiveness is going to break you in the end. You need to walk away before he gets comfortable with this situation. As in, no need to be there when you need him just simply sex.

Deep down you wish he missed you half as much as you missed him... be sure to know the answer before you take anything further.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to tell you this...but it was just sex with someone he is familiar with. I have a friend who went through this similar break-up, make-up thing for 9 years. They were hot and heavy for the first 5 years or so, but when she pressed him for more of a commitment, he sort of left her hanging and returned intermittently for the occasional romp in the hay. She always had hope that he would one day realize that she was the one for him. That hope never materialized...For her the sex was great because it was bittersweet. You always crave the one you can't have.

Answer 4

Hi there. You know what would be good is if you could show him that you're so over him on the outside, and maybe try getting him jealous whilst on holiday and see if he comes running back. But it sounds like if that doesn't work you need to move on cos' if he snaps his fingers everytime he's horny you'll only remain a doormat.
Good luck!!

Answer 5

If he is blatantly going to sleep with you but tell you he isn't going to back with you - I would say please be careful. It seems from what you write that you are/would be in danger of being dreadfully hurt as you sound like you wear your heart on your sleeve and he knows what you think - and sadly seems to be taking advantage of that fact. You were together a long time and the "friends" thing cannot easily be switched on/off. It takes time and distance between you to create new boundaries. Good luck.

Answer 6

if most women are honest we have all fallen into that trap, well i have for sure! dont punish yourself but please be careful you are still holding a torch for him and it seems the only one to get hurt from all this is you.
men think very differently to us ladies they can shut off and move on with the blink of an eye, im not intentually putting all guys down but in my experience its true.
be strong girl you deserve the best and he doesnt seem to be it, time is a great healer and before you know it you would have moved on and he will be a distant memory. hold your head up high, enjoy your holiday, find a nice fella ( while your on holiday if you can) i hate to say it but he really is using you for his own pleasures. my thoughts are with you be strong x

Answer 7

Not intentional you say....?

What did you do trip over and land on his p.enis!?!

You know exactly what you're doing, and you know that you will end up hurt.

However, it is COMPLETELY YOUR FAULT for allowing him to treat you like this.

Frankly, what needs to happen is that he should hurt you very badly (emotionally) so that you get over your insecurities of being without him, and dislike so that you can move on with you valuable life.

Break off all contact with him NOW!

Save yourself from further guaranteed PAIN!

However, if you like PAIN....have a great holiday!

Answer 8

Sex with your ex is fine but it sounds like you're holding onto him too hard in the hope he'll fall back in love with you. In theory, you could stay in touch (if it isn't too painful) but it sounds like you might need a clean break.

Answer 9

I think he is getting his cake and eating it too. Wake up woman!....kick his *** to the curb. You will be doing yourself a great favour.
Otherwise, anytime he wants a little nookie, all he has to do is pick up the phone or take you on a holiday.

Please value yourself more than that.

Answer 10

you going on false hope and he is just using you because he knows you will let hip on false hopes fair enough there is a slim chance he might fall in love with you again but as i said it is a slim chance