How come some mother are so good at thier jobs of being single parents and fathers became so lazy and selfesh?

Question

Example:My mother is a single parent and she has a job,three children,when my father was around he never cleand up the house and it made my mother even tiered more.

Answer 1

okay,sweetheart...I'd be willing to bet your Dad was lazy and selfish before that divorce...surely you did not expect him to change his ways after...Your mom divorced him for serious reasons...You should also thank her everyday for what she sacrifices for you.And tell your Dad exactly what you think of him,too.No matter what that is....Take Care....

Answer 2

In this day and age, everyone must take care of their own. Usually both parents are working, both bring in some kind of income. No longer the traditional.. wife at home with children, husband only working to pay bills and everything else. Of course there are exceptions like stay at home dads, or one partner has a really great paying job, so insists other to stay home and look after things and such.

As for single parents, its just evolution. With cuts to social assistance, more job opportunities, just a general increase in everything, the person has to step up and make the best efforts.

Answer 3

Men in our society are becoming more and more marginalized. Women think they don't need men to help raise their children. But children need both a FATHER as well as a mother in the home while they are growing up.

Men are angry at how our society is dissing them, pushing them out, and expecting them to be nothing but sperm donors and child support checks.

The fact your father was lazy and left the home could be the result of two things. Your mother may have not expected much from him and pushed him out, figuring out she'd be better off without a man around.

Your dad may have been raised by a divorced mother who hated men, married a scum and then ditched him as proof that men are no good. So your father, raised without a decent father became a lazy louse and fullfilled your mother's prophesy that men are all no good.

Pretty sick. Women marry scums, have sons by them, divorce the scums and the sons are picked by women who hate men because of their bad experiences with their own fathers!

But single moms hurt their children by shoving out the fathers.
Boys rasied without full time dads have all sorts of problems growing up.......and have trouble becoming decent responsible fathers themselves!

Its a vicious circle.

Answer 4

It is some sort of natural instinct that just kicks in for most mothers, its called good parenting. A women knows what she has to do what she has to to provide for her child. Most single mothers will work their butts off to give their child everything they deserve and can only afford to give them the bare necessaties. Anyone out there who is a single mother or whose mother is a single mother, i want you to know; the struggle is hard and constant but when you look into the face of your child or children, it makes it all worth while. Kids don't put added stress upon your parents, and any guys who are soon to be dads or is a deadbeat dad, please look at a single mother and ask yourself can you endure that. if you were placed in that position would you be able to handle it as well as that women?

Answer 5

Maybe that's a bit of a sterotype? I'm a single father, and my place is MUCH cleaner than my daughter's mothers place is. My own mom raised 4 kids while dad worked, and I never remember it getting as dirty as my ex would let the house get with our 1 kid while I was at work when we were together!

Answer 6

That is not necessarily true in many cases, but we can understand your point especially if this is what happened in your situation. Don't judge the rest of the world for your issues. Just do the best you can in life to use your circumstances in a beneficial way that will help your life be better. Life is all about learning. Stay true to yourself and don't judge everyone on one person's mistakes.
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Answer 7

i am also a single mum of 3 young kids, they are 9, 7 & 5 years old. My youngest was about 3months old when we split up, and to be honest, once i'ld got over the upset of having a baby and then splitting up with their dad, i suddenly realised what a lazy, messy git he was when he was at home!!
Yes, he worked a lot of hours, that was why we split up-his work was more important than our children, which he proved to me when our youngest was rushed into hospital at about 6weeks old with a heart problem and he expected me to stay in the hospital and for my mum to babysit the others so he didnt miss work!!
I dont think my ex suddenly turned lazy (at home) and sefish....i realise that he was always like it, i would have his dinner ready for 6pm, take it to him while he was sat down watching tv, take in the knife & fork, salt & pepper-while he waseating i would run his bath, put his shaving stuff in reach of him, get a towel ready and his clothes ready for when he got out of the bath....wash out the bath when he finished, picked his dirty clothes up of the floor (he would just step over them!) take them down to the washing machine...and in between all the stuff i had to make sure i done for him, i had to look after our 4 & 2year olds & a new born baby!! Even now, when he comes to see the kids, the kids get fed up cos he's here for 3hours but sleeps on my sofa for most of it!!
What is lovely, is the way you talk of your mum, saying that she is good at bringing you up, hold down a job and that since your dad left, your mum isnt as tired!! I hope my kids can have the same attitude & respect that you have for you Mum when theyre old enough to understand!!

Answer 8

Rasied by a single father, I don't know my mother. Generalizations aren't good. People are bad parent, there are Moms that can't ge thier act together as well as Dead beat dads.

Answer 9

That would be a matter of opinion, instead of an actual fact of a question. Be glad you have such a wonderful mother, and try to live up to that.

Answer 10

That's not always the case.