i`m13 my mom divorced my dad a long time ago but i still can`t get over it?

Question

she has had alot of boy friends since then but they`ve all turned out to be jerks , the divorse happened soooo fast my dad has done evry thing for us he even bought us a really nice house after my mom left him,evry time evry time my mom or me & my sisters need any thing he`s always there to help us but i just don`t see how or why my mom did this they hardly ever even faught when they were togather

Answer 1

Some people just grow apart. Your dad sounds wonderful, maybe you should ask why they broke up? Discuss your feelings with them.

Answer 2

Adults go thru a lot that kids shouldnt even be involved in..but unfortunatley for kids in a divorce, they are involved too much. Usually its a competition thing. Your mom will tell you what you want to hear, and your dad will do the same. If you think your mom is picking jerks, its because she may not have self esteem, and needs help. But that doesnt mean your dad is a king either. He may look good in your eyes, but adults sometimes have much bigger problems. Dont take any of it personal. Its not your fault. Just be a kid, and enjoy your childhood. When you grow up, and get in the dating scene..remember that you are a good person, and you deserve the best.

Answer 3

I know it's hard on you, my mom and Richard divorced when I was young too, maybe about when I was your age. To be honest, it still hurts, especially when I don't know who my real father is, it would be nice to have two parents.

The thing is, people don't have to argue to show they're not happy and that's a good thing, that means that had a healthy relationship to be able to talk and discuss things calmly and rationally. If you can find a way, try to be happy that you have 2 parents who seem to love you and don't fight. Try to be thankful that they don't fight and argue. You still have 2 parents. They sound like they both care for you and take care of you. I'm 28 and it still bothers me that my mom and Richard divorced, but it's mostly because I don't have a dad now, 2 of the 3 had passed on due to cancer. I hope that you can find a way to break through this and try to think about their happiness, I'm sure they are probably happier now and I'm sure you want to be happy. You can try to compare their happiness now to how they were when they were married. If they seem happier now, try to be happy for them, if they seem to be more miserable, talk to them together and just explain what you are seeing and suggest maybe they work something out and try to get back together. Good luck

Answer 4

Well sometime when we are kids, we really don't see what goes on between our parents. Most parents have enough decency not to expose their kids to that. Another thing to consider, is if your mother married to young, she may feel as if she hasn't lived her life. Just be grateful that you still have both of them, and that your dad still comes around to help all the time. She'll realize what she lost sooner or later. Some parents actually reconcile after a couple of years.

Answer 5

My parents divorced when I was 8. That was over ten years ago. I felt so hurt that they would do that when we needed them the most. I realize now that it was the best decision they ever made. My mom just got out of a bad egg relationship that she was in for 9 years. You have to let them make their own decisions and realize that they are trying to do what is best for you and may hurt themselves in the process. That's what parenting is. It's looking for the right person to play a positive role in your life even if it puts them at risk. Your mom will go through a lot of relationships from trial and error. But if any of her boyfriends hit her or abuse her in any shape or form. You need to report him!

Answer 6

Sometimes people just fall out of love. It's not your fault. There are many different kinds of families, and it just doesn't have to be father, mother, brother, sister. Love doesn't have anything to do with money or how much a guy gets for you; it has to do with something much deeper than that, maybe your mother just fell out of love with him. It could be a bunch of different reasons. You shouldn't blame anyone about it, though. My parents are divorced and they still talk to each other. Maybe you should talk to your mom and tell her how you feel.

Answer 7

U really need to sit down and talk to ur mom, and if u don't have that type of relationship with her why don't u talk to ur dad. Even better try to bring it up with both of them at different times. And always be honest ask them what u want the answers too. And don't ever be afraid to talk to ur parents.

Answer 8

I know exactly what you mean, my parents divorced when i was 16 and it took me like 3 years to get over it. Similar situations happened with me and my mom. Give it time, talk to somebody about it, it helps to let it out. Good luck.

Answer 9

she may not be in love with him anymore. it's very hard for someone to be with someone if they don't have feelings anymore. when she realized she wasn't in love with him, she decided that she wanted to explore with other men. it's selfishness. but also you see a lot of couples that try to stay together just for the children so that they can have a family and sometimes it's not so happy cause you mom wouldnt be happy when she wants something else.

Answer 10

hi at 13 i understand that you need both parents to be there for you but unfournately your situation turned out different.
i will suggest that you spend time with friends and other family members because it will help you overcome the divource okay