One of my friends are very impolite when she comes to my house she walks thorough my whole house to open the fridge without asking. Thats not the only problem, many times she drops by my house(without calling) only to use the toilet and make a phone call.This gets my mom extremely mad because she has to disinfect the whole bathroom because it stinks. Another problem is that when me and my family go out to eat, i tell her that she has to go home but then she asks if she can come too and buy her a meal. I avoid going to eat with her because she tricks me in believing she has money , but when she orders she does not even have a single penny in her pocket! I dont think her mom ever taught her any manners because she always thinks she can freescape off people. Its one thing to be poor but its no excuse to take expect your friends to GIVE you money. She has never lent me any money and i never ask her. So how do i get her to realize that she needs to learn some manners?? she's 19!
2006-06-22 09:14:06 · 6 answers · asked by Lorrane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why do you think this person is your friend? Real friends don't use you like Kleenex! It sounds like it's time you got some backbone and stopped letting her into your house and your life.
2006-06-22 09:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recommend you read your question back to yourself, but instead of picturing your "friend" doing these things, imagine a total stranger doing them. Would that person be someone with whom you want to start a friendship? Probably not.
So why do you consider this person who does all of these things a friend? Does this person have any good qualities?
You need to sit down with this person and explain that you cannot be friends with them anymore if they continue doing these things because it is disrupting not only your life, but the lives of your family members. You need to set the ground rules for the friendship if it is going to continue (i.e. no coming over unannounced or without invitation; when you tell her it is time to leave she has to leave without protest; that you have instituted a policy that you will no longer give or lend money to friends because the end result is resentment).
People will continue to take advantage of you as long as you allow them too. It is time to close the purse strings.
2006-06-22 16:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ponderous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why are you even friends with her? a good friend respects their friends, not uses them. Your "friend" needs to learn some serious manners. If she asks for money, tell her no. If she asks if she can come with u and your family to eat, just tell her no. and if you worry about it being "rude", don't. bcuz it's is ruder for her to keep on treating you like this. or even better, tell her that she is being rude and drop her "like its hot". Next time she tries to talk to you, ignore her or tell her to back off. I think she might eventually figure out that she is rude.
2006-06-22 16:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ching Ching 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what they say, "You can't teach an old dog new tricks". She is 19 and should certaintly know better. Stop being her friend.
2006-06-22 16:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by BunnyRabbit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave that girl my bad woman alone she is just going to use you the rest of your life. you class her as a friend . if theres know respect homegirl gotta step thats my advice
2006-06-22 16:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by lovelaungauge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to tell her how you feel about what she does and that you don't like it abd she needs to change her wise because your getting tired of it
2006-06-22 16:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋