Me and my best friend have just recently, and maybe still, gone through some rough times. Well I said some stuff about her to this guy who's supposed to be like a big brother to me a month or more ago. Then me and my friend were hired to work at this coffee shop where her aunt is the asstitant manager; me and her aunt aren't too close either and if we talked it's been small talk. Well, my so called "brother" went and told my best friends aunt about my problem with my best friend, and some other things I had said about her aunt, like she was annoyinig. So her aunt has twisted some of the things that I said into other things, and me and my best friend had a "screaming compition" on the phone earlier today and made up, but her aunt is still mad at me. Should I trust my "big brother" again? What should I say to my best friends aunt?
2006-06-22 09:11:52 · 9 answers · asked by plain me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should apologize and mean it, some people say they are sorry when they are not. And say it was a mistake and that I didn't mean it that way. Just give her some time and maybe she will be okay.And you might not want to tell your brothers personal things, he may snitch or tell someone else. There are people like that and I know how it feels. You feel really guilty and don't understand when you have done nothing wrong and didn't mean it that way. It will be okay, like I said apologize and give it time.Good luck, hope she forgives you.
2006-06-22 09:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sophia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the right thing to do (just remember life isn't easy): 1) Stop talking about people behind their back. It doesn't matter how much you trust the person you are telling, it is wrong. If you have a problem with your friend, talk to your friend about it. 2) Apologize to your friend's aunt and admit to her that you should not have been talking about people behind their back because your words can be twisted in the translation; and further apologize for disrupting the professional work environment at the coffee shop. 3) Apologize to your friend for talking about her behind her back, and tell her that from now on, if you have a problem you will come directly to her so that the two of you can work it out. 4) Apologize to your "big brother" for dumping on him when you were having problems with your friend; promise him know you will never do it again; and ask him to stop you if you break your promise.
Hpefully, you have learned one of the important lessons in human relationships: Don't talk about people behind their back.
2006-06-22 16:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ponderous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhhh... the drama, drama, drama.
Take a deep breath, be honest, and go with your gut/instinctive feelings. Don't let this bother you. Take it lightly, don't over-stress about it, and you will come out further ahead. Realize that you cannot always tell your "friends" everything, even if they mean well. This is what life is all about. Living, making mistakes, and learning from them. Just remember to stay true to yourself and continue being honest. Tell your bf's aunt that those were just some of the feelings that you were going through at that time, and your intentions were not to hurt anyone. Apologize if you feel you need to, but don't feel un-necessary guilt. Chin up, and one day at a time!
; )
2006-06-22 16:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by boxergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First apologise to the aunt and explain what you did say. Then go to your best friend and tell her the problems you have. If she is a true friend, she will understand. And never tell your problems to the guy because he is obviously not going to keep his mouth shut.
2006-06-22 16:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by Adventures of Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never trust a man. (just kidding, I would watch what I say to him). But you should never talk about a best friend or her family. That is just wrong. Best friends do not stab each other.
dp
2006-06-22 16:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by mikemadie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody who twists details is wrothy of trust, nor is such a person a good listener.
2006-06-22 16:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust brother and tell your friend and her aunt htat you are sorry
2006-06-22 16:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
appologize but tell her why she is annoying. big brother is a big azzhole and a troublemaker. kick him to the curb. and honey learn to spell. competition and assistant :)
2006-06-22 16:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE THE BIGGER PERSON AND GO TALK TO THE AUNTAND THEN LET IT GO AS FOR AS YOUR BROTHER DONT TELL HIM ANYTHING ELSE
2006-06-22 16:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by dorthy w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋