I know females are supposed to be the one not interested in sex, but my husband is the one never interested???

Question

Anyone else out there having the same problem??
we are 24 and 25 yr. old

we have spoken about this and he tells me it is because we fight too much..
this is the first guy who i have been with that didnt want it all the time.
Even if we are in the shower or if i walk around naked .NOTHING..
It is not because i am ugly or out of shape.
i take very good care of myself and try to look hot for him..
nothing is working..its always some excuse..
i wonder if he is gay sometimes...
any guy guys out there know what signs i should be looking for??

anyone know anything about how to tell if someone is gay

my husband does not watch porn, does not go to strip clubs, does not like sex toys, is always too tired ...he is not sleeping with someone else..i know this for a fact because i know where he is all the time.
he works with family and then comes home and always answers my phone calls

i didnt mean that females are not supposed to be interested in sex...they are just usually thought of as the one who says no more often..

Answer 1

if a guy in his twenties isn't interested in sex, maybe he's with someone else. he's probably interested, just not with you anymore. guys in their 20's are fickle. they want everything.

Answer 2

My husband is the same way, I don't know why, this has been an issue for us for quite some time. We have not had sex now in over a month, and before that it was close to 2 months. The only time we do it is when I initiate it and to be quite honest the way I feel now I have no desire to initiate anymore. I'm thinking of just getting it somewhere else. Good luck with your problem.

Answer 3

I'm not saying it's not POSSIBLE he's cheating on you.... BUT..... Even in the 20s... not all men eat, sleep, and breathe sex. MY husband.... he's 35 and we have sex once a week... sometimes less. We cuddle and do other intimate things... but sex isn't high on the priority list. I have recently discovered OTHER women with men that are the same as mine (one inwhich IS only in his 20s). Did you ever consiter that you're married.... he can "get it" anytime he wants to... and now it's just not as important to him?? Please don't fly off the handle and go accusing him of things because those acusations can be very hurtful and hard to forget. Just talk to him. Tell him how you are feeling and what you're thinking. Be careful though..... when talking about THIS subject... things you say can sound accusitory (even just... don't you want me??? can sound like there's no sex and you BLAME him). When men feel you're blaming or accusing them, they'll withdraw and nothing gets solved that way. Good luck to you. Keep your chin up. I'm sure you're a beautiful woman and your husband loves you very much :)

Answer 4

Is your husband into porn? There is a whole series of problems that come with that even the soft stuff. It is not normal for a man not to want sex. He may have a hormonal problem but that is pretty rare.

It is sadly more common than you think because of the internet porn. But I have good friends that have dealt with this and their marriage is very good now. It took a big commitment on both parts.

If this isn't it, have him have a good and thorough check up.

Answer 5

WHAT??? Females aren't suppose to be interested in sex? Who told you that lie?

If you are both in your 20s, healthy, and childless; there shouldn't be a problem.

Without knowing you, I could only speculate: 1) He is not interested in you 2) He is seeing someone else 3) He is gay

Before jumping to conclusions, talk to him and find out. Perhaps he has a really juicy sexual fantasy and doesn't know how to approach you.

If you can't talk to each other and you're not banging, why be married?

Good luck and Be well.

Answer 6

This is not a highly unusual problem. It is merely an incredibly embarassing situation in our society so it is rarely dealt with.

Many times a man's testosterone level declines below normal levels. I would suggest that he talk to a doctor frankly about this. If low testosterone is an issue, there are other health issues that could be at risk as well.

I hope that this helps a little.

Answer 7

Same problem with my 24 year old boyfriend. We hardly ever do anything physical, and when we do, he NEVER initiates it. Its kinda weird. Not used that at all. Im currently seven months pregnant, and when I got pregnant I thought "How'd this happen?" LOL I mean I know how but it just seemed impossible considering how often we had sex. LOL Basically you'll just have to go after it but he's just not the aggressor. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

you're not alone... same goes over here and surprisingly, we're the same ages...

we do have sex more often than not it's just that i always have to initiate it... i know... it sucks!!! but i'm certain that there's no third party involved... at least on my part and i hope yours too... don't get carried away by people saying that he's seeing someone else, it'll just make things worse (although you shouldn't put that possibility aside, just don't jump into any conclusion yet). try talking to him, might work... if not, you two just have to compromise on one way or another...

goodluck to us both!!!

Answer 9

He is either a under cover brother or he might be tired when he gets off work or you are not spontenous about what you do to him or when you and how you do it or last but not least he's about to leave you because he is have sex with some one else

Answer 10

I can honestly say that if he is in his 20's and isnt interested, then there is a problem. Either he has some health issue or he is screwing someone else. Men love sex..... this is screaming not normal.

Answer 11

He needs to see a doctor.

the lack of testoterone could be a sign of testicular cancer, which usually develops in men aged 20-35 and often show very few if any symptoms until it is in terminal stages.