I'm gay and my father abuses me. What should I do?

Answer 1

You should find some adult who is unconnected to your family, School counselor, head teacher, ....

Tell them exactly what is going on and ask them to help refer you to the proper agency in your area who can deal with this.

Take action now, or you face being traumatised to the point of lifelong discontentment. Take action now and take pride in the fact that you had the courage to stand up for your rights. Take action now and recognise the depth of emotional resilience and strength you have.

Do you see where I'm going with this?

TAKE ACTION NOW - TALK TO SOMEONE

Answer 2

Hey,

You need help, but what help is available varies by your location.

If the abuse is extremely physical, or violently sexual, or also involves other younger members of your family -- and you are in the US anywhere -- call Child Protective Services for your state, or the police. Insist that they have to intervene. At the same time email a log of what has happened and what you have done about it to someone you think you can trust. Include your address in it -- simply to guarantee that intervention can occur if you become inconvenienced or pressured. Ministers from the United Church of Christ or the Unitarian Universalists are both good selections. Both churches are strongly pro-gay, so unlike some groups they won't attack you -- and they will keep an email you tell them not to read, unread until whatever date you set for them to open it if you don't contact them again. Call your local Unitarian or UCC pastor, explain the very basic situation (do not mention sexual abuse in conversation or the pastor must go to the police at once.)and tell the pastor you want him or her to hold your documents -- I don't know your age, but set up the situation, make certain that they understand you are scared, and that you have a reason to be. Reform Jewish Rabbis are also acceptable choices if you are not Christian, or, if you are Wiccan, I can give you the email address of a ranking member of the Correllian Natavist Tradition hierarchy so that you still have an ordained minister of your own faith to deal with.

If the abuse is less serious, physical but not dangerous or periphrally sexual -- you have more time (Im my opinion) -- so figure out how you want to deal with it by talking to friends that YOU TRUST.

These are only my suggestions on how you deal with the situation, but they are the best I have. If you need someone not involved to talk to -- contact me at the email address I give at the end of my signature block.

I hope that helps some (*hug*)

Warm thoughts,

Reynolds Jones
http://www.rebuff.org
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Answer 3

If your father abuses you, you need to get out and get some help. I am not gay, but I had a friend who was going through the same thing that you are. She was abused by both of her parents for being a lesiban. She doesn't talk to them anymore because got out. Listen, if you have friends that will help you out, go to them. You should not take in any kind of abuse from your father. You are an unique individual. So what if you are GAY!!!. Be proud of who you are. If my friend can do it, honey, so can you.

Answer 4

I agree 100%.

First, find an adult person (friend or relative) that you trust and can talk to about this.

Secondly, I would file a police report.

Alternative care with Human Services would be far better than an abusive home or father.

Answer 5

You need to involve some authorites. Have you told anyone else? Do you have a Mother? A school teacher or counselor? A religious person such as a minister or a nun or a father or a preist (not sure what Kabalah has...)

Answer 6

Do you have an adult in your life that you trust and can talk to? If not, depending on the type of abuse, I would file a police report. Foster care would be better than an abusive home.

Answer 7

You need to get help, preferably from a national organization that is more likely to listen to you (if you live in a very conservative area). Try the Child Protection Agency or just look in the phonebook for helplines, even the wrong ones can usually get you to the ones you need.

Answer 8

How does your father abuse you?? Verbally? Physically? Either way, what's your living situation like?? Are you living with your father? Are you of age to get out? If not, maybe you should contact social services and DHR...Get outta there...

Answer 9

I agree that you should report him but you have to consider what he will do when you are alone with him again. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Get out if you can. There are hundreds of gay people that will let you stay with them that wont perv on you. Just be careful. Let me know if i can help.
Im handymanbrandon1983
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Answer 10

You need to contact the Department of Children and Family Services in your area...immediately....assuming that you are a minor. Or contact the local Police Department. Tell someone as soon as you can.