It started off as a friendship and is becoming more i can't stop thinking about him. I love my husband but i want him bad. switching jobs is not and an option. help me.
2006-06-22 08:45:52 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks guys for the advise I will stay prayerful and ask God for forgiveness and strenght. I don't know if i'll talk to my husband about it :)
2006-06-22 09:06:50 · update #1
If you want him SO badly you can't stand it, at least give your husband the courtesy of a divorce. If you're not willing to do that, then break off your relationship with your friend entirely. Believe me, this sort of thing can only end messily.
2006-06-22 08:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you need to switch brains with your husband. How do you think he'd feel especially if he's faithful to you. Don't lose your life you have for a moment of pleasure. If you look at it, ask yourself is it worth it???
With so many deseases around and condoms brake, beware of this cause that's a hurting feeling to be burnt (STD). Especially by someone you love. Think if your husband did it to you.
Talk to your husband and be honest, tell him of your feelings for this other man but DO NOT PERSUE HIM.
We people have a tendency to look past what we have right in our faces. All for a moment of pleasure.
There are consequences in all that we do and more than just one person gets hurt. Plus you maybe loosing a good friend in the process.
Sometimes friends should just be that FRIENDS.
GOD BLESS
2006-06-22 08:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by precious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you asked for advise but I guarantee the only ones you see are the guys saying do him. Write back after you screw up your life, destroy your marriage and drive your husband out of your life. Maybe you will be lucky and get an STD to boot then you will have something else to share with your husband. GROW THE F*** UP. I can't believe you asked such a stupid question. Type the word "affair" into the little window that says search and read all the notes from all the people who have been destroyed by their spouse screwing around. GAWDd!
2006-06-22 08:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by art_fart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me..He was a truck driver for the place we work, I knew he was a player but he was just soooo gooood looking, he knew girls all over the place. He said he wasn't married, and so we started a 2 year affair. Then during that time when the place we were employed at was closed for vacation, I saw him at a store by my house one time so I stopped to talk with him when all of a sudden a mini van drives right up to us and a girl about 20 years old comes out yelling, "Who the hell do you think you are!? That's my dad you're f***ing with!" Then his wife who had a missing tooth yelled, "We've been married for 25 years! Is this what you want!?" and all I could say was "He told me he was divorced" but all that time the wife was hitting her husband and he was trying to fend her off and while their daughter was yelling at me I got in my car and left... The next day I saw him at his brothers house and he was scratched up pretty bad from his wife. But we continued to carry on for about a year after that. I finally broke it off because I started feeling guilty about my boyfriend.
What I'm saying is you could be putting yourself in a dangerous situation.. I'll never regret the affair I had because every time I would see that guy it was like I was in another world.... But just think long and hard about what you might get yourself into
2006-06-22 09:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by L.A. Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what your thinking about doing is wrong so why even ask what you should do. You already know.......honor your vows. You may find this other man attractive and that is fine, but stop this thing before anything starts. Ask yourself these questions...Are you willing to lose your husband over this man? Are you willing to hurt your entire family for this other guy? If the answer is no, then dont do it, if it is yes....show your husband some respect and leave him first.
2006-06-22 08:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do it! If you do the friendship will end eventually, one or the other will have to leave the job and you will probably end up losing your husband who you say you Love. Not to mention the hurt you will cause his wife and family. It will destroy many lives, not just the two of you. Besides, how would you feel if your husband did something like this to you? Would it hurt? Would you leave him? Could you trust him again? Please, think seriously about what price you will pay for a quick roll in the hay.
I hope you make the right decision. Take Care and Best of Luck!!
2006-06-22 08:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by sam04m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a typical insecure ho. You claim you love your husband but i would say no....you may love what your husband does for you and the security he provides but beyond that you only love yourself. You should divorce your husband and just leave...you deserve no money, no property nothing except a boot in your azz....why you say...because you dear are a loser....you are part of the problem today...let your husband go find someone more deserving of loyalty and caring because you are the scum under people shoes....oh yeah lastly that guy at work isn't just porking you fool...he's out for all he can get and you are nowhere near enough woman to keep him from moving on again...it is his mo to keep cheating you fool. And you are a fool to let this guy undermine your marriage...what happened did he pay a little attention to you...whisper something funny to make you laugh...ahhhh...isn't that sweet......2 *******!!
2006-06-22 08:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back away from the affair and no one gets hurt. Literally. You are about to open up a bigger can of worms than you can imagine! Best to just leave things alone and stop being in a position where you are either alone with this man, or able to say private things to one another. If you and he are both married, you will do more damage than you can ever repair, all just to satisfy lust. Not a good idea!!
2006-06-22 08:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by themom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to honor the fact that you are married.
think about this: you will ALWAYS run into someone better than your husband, no matter at what, so does that mean you can just forget about your man and jump on another's d i c k?
think again.
you both have a very real problem, and you should see eachother as little as possible. it is VERY hard not to cease the moment, but you will pay dearly, even if your spouses do not find out, you will have a guilty concience forever, and your life will have one more dark spot to deal with
2006-06-22 08:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by eject911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical. Don't you know that most affairs occur between coworkers??
You are asking for a load of trouble when your marriage means SH_T to you.
I advise you to stoke some new fires in your own marriage before it ends!
Tell the married fella at work, "You know, I have let the flattery go to my head, but you and I both know this is wrong. We have to cool things off before it gets any more serious. I don't want you flirting with me anymore--so knock it off!"
Be firm and be a slut with your own husband!! HE will love you for it!
2006-06-22 08:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by garayfive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋