My two-year old has been spending a LOT of time with my soon-to -be husband. Her biological father doestn' have much to do with her other than call every couple of weeks and tries to see her every 3 or 4 months or so. Now that she is with my fiance all the time, she has started to call him daddy. she does this on her own, we have not encouraged it, however, we dont' correct her when she does it. and she isnt' getting confused. she will tell us "I have another daddy, but this(my fiance) is my new daddy. Is this ok? We have full physical custody and the ex doesnt' really make much of an effort with her. My fiance and her are best friends and I feel like it has just come naturally for her to call him that because he is in reality being her daddy in most senses of the word. what do you think?
2006-06-22 08:26:23 · 19 answers · asked by its still me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think she is completely normal and you both are doing a wonderful job with her. As long as she understands everything all is well. Congrats for finding a wonderful man like that.
2006-06-22 08:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by in love with superman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That actually sounds like a pretty good thing to happen considering you want to marry him. I don't see any reason why you shouldn't be comfortable with her calling him daddy. He is the man that is in her life she recognizes that she has another father but she seems more fond of your fiance. I would let it be for now because if your ex doesnt want anything to do with her for 2 months and then decides he wants her I would let him see her but explain to her who her daddy is. Your fiance has fallen into that place, and that should be ok with all of you. It sounds like she has loving parents who care about her and her well-being I wouldn't mess too much with your ex because when she gets older all he will do is let her down. Hope this helps.
2006-06-22 08:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wonderful. I am a Father and my girls call me Daddy or Dadda (for the 11 mo old) and I realized it is not because of my genetic contribution, but because I am with them every day taking care of them. I think your soon to be husband is her Daddy even if her Bio-Farther is still around. Maybe one day he will wake up and realize how precious an opportunity it is to be someone's Daddy.
2006-06-22 08:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by mattwbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer this one. If her real dad is still in her life he will be and should always be her #1 dad. She's too young to understand daddy #1, daddy #2, but with time you'll have to explain. It would be so hurtful for the real dad if he heard his daughter calling this man her daddy.
2006-06-22 08:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its ok. Anybody can be a father (donate their dna). But it takes a lot more "special time" to receive the title of daddy. That's a special name. She knows she has her father. But your future husband is the daddy because that's what she feels she should call him. Obviously there is something special there.
2006-06-22 08:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this a touchy subject,i am in a similar situation,our three have done the same thing,i feel its ok as long as the children in ur case child understand they have another dad and that is their biological father.its ok as long as ur fiance is ok with this also.your only problem would be the real dad,i know u mentioned he isn't a part of her life but he's stil her dad how does he feel or have u even asked him....its a tough situation for anyone..
2006-06-22 08:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by crazychris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is so nice for her to spend time with your fiance and he is a good man to give her time to b/c it really sound like her biological father do not want to spend time with her of give her the love that she needs , i would also say i would just like her call your fiance daddy or whatver u wanted to
2006-06-22 08:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that your daughter has this bond with your fiance. If it doesn't bother your fiance then just let her be. One day she will understand. But for now she's a little girl that wants to be close to her soon to be dad (your fiance).
2006-06-22 08:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by clnavarro82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that she has someone to call daddy who is in her life permanently. They seem to have a beautiful relationship, and she is smart and knows the difference between him and her birth father. It's fine! Be glad he is in your lives.
2006-06-22 08:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the biological daddy have a problem with it?
2006-06-22 08:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by Coz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋