if ur a parent what would u do if ur kid called u a dick?

Answer 1

how old is your kid? MY sons are both grown men and they never called me any sort of name...if your kid is young, you need to teach him to never call ANYONE a bad name...no matter what...If your kid is old enough to know better then he is very unrespectful....and if you don't respect your own parent then who do you respect? I never called my parents names either...In your case...have you been letting your kid get away w/ name calling and it just got worse? The only kids I knew that would be so disrespectful is because they were spoiled...But if my kid ever called me a bad name, I'd take away alot of privelages...

Answer 2

First off how old is the child and where did the child learn the phrase?

If the child picked it up at school I would be talking with the teachers and principal....

If the child picked it up from a friends house (older brother or such),,, I would talk with the parents and restrict the child from that house for a period of time...

If the child picked up the phrase from within the household, I would take a serioius look at how I speak and how everyone else speaks around the children and start there...

however, no matter where the child learned the phrase - I would explain tot he child it is not a nice thing to say and that it should never happen again - for punishment his time I would restrict the child to his/her room for a week and make them go to church every Sunday and Wednesday - or whenever your religion meets....

Explain to the child if it happens again - punishment will be more severe second time around.....

Good luck!

Answer 3

Wow! A plethera of answers. Hitting should never be used as a punishment--it merely tells a child that physical abuse is an acceptable means of telling someone you did not agree with what they did or said.

Definitely discuss this whole issue with the child. Where did s/he hear the word in the first place?

Depending on age:

Old enough to read--hand him/her a dictionary! Then discuss the different meanings and when (or IF) it's appropriate to use the word!

Unable to read yet--you'd be surprised at what they understand. Explain that name-calling hurts feelings and makes people feel bad about themselves.

Always end on a positive or funny note--something on the lines of "I'm sure glad you called me that name instead of Grandma so I could have a chance to explain what it means to you!"

Answer 4

A lot of the answers here exhibit a strange inability to understand the difference between children and adults. Children learn things and try them out because they don't yet understand appropriateness. Think of the number of times any of us makes mistakes using words that don't fit a given context or situation. If you're a kid, the only way you're going to learn certain boundaries is to cross them.

Remember: the child probably hears this kind of language all the time, even among people who have a basic affection for each other. In a kid's world, being called a name like that is not the end of the world - it's not even the end of a friendship. Sometimes it's playful; when spoken in anger, it's certainly not the worst thing that peers call each other.

What I would try to explain to your child, though, depends on a couple of things, one of the most important of which is your attitude towards that kind of slang. If you don't use any foul language and want your child to follow your example, then it's important to explain why you think that certain words are always off-limits, in any situation. I know a lot of people who aren't prudes who just don't swear. They express their thoughts and feelings without resorting to expletives. (I'm not one of those people, I'm afraid, but I admire them a lot.) Helping your child avoid swearing is tough, but I think it has to be based on a fundamental rule: that all people are worthy of respect, and that we should try to be our best selves no matter what situation we find ourselves in. In this case, the fact that the child and parent are related is irrelevant, since in that world, NO ONE calls ANYONE ELSE a bad name.

The more liberal approach would be to try to explain that we all use different kinds of language in different situations. When we're with friends our own age, it may be okay to swear in jest or when you stub your toe. However, in most situations and with everyone else, it's better to be able to control yourself to the extent that you think about the effects of what you're going to say before you say it. Calling one of your parents a 'dick' is a mistake for many reasons: (1) it's not true; (2) it's not the way you would want your parent to talk to you; (3) there are better ways to express your anger; (4) it doesn't help you get what you want; (5) you may not owe your parents much, but you do owe them the kindness and consideration required to address them the way they ask to be addressed. Explain that we all occasionally have trouble controlling ourselves, and that we'll all sometimes say things that are wrong, but that we have a heavy obligation to make sure that we do that rarely, and that we should recognize and apologize when we've crossed these boundaries.

If the child is very young, you may need to take a little time and actually tell them about the words that they hear. They need to understand what they mean and what situations - if any - you think it would be appropriate for them to use them. You can be pretty sure that any child over the age of 7 has heard and/or read all of the swear words that are and aren't in the dictionary. I don't think you have to worry about inciting them to swear more by giving them knowledge.

Because of the complexities of the use of language in public and in the media, this may be an opportunity for you to explain to your child why it's sometimes possible (and profitable) for some people to swear (Chris Rock and George Carlin spring to mind), and that, in certain contexts, it can be dramatic, hilarious, and even poetic. But the child needs to know that most jobs and ways of life don't require that we swear, and many opportunities depend on conveying to other people that we respect them enough to keep language clean.

I wouldn't punish the child. I might put a "cuss jar" in the kitchen. Whenever ANYONE in the house says a swear word, he or she would have to put money in the jar. At the end of a predetermined period, we'd donate the money to a charity, so that none of us would be profiting from misbehaving. The rules have to be just as strict for the parents - if not more so. And the penalty should be higher. This is most assuredly NOT a "do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do" practice. The parents have no right to expect their children to be any more ethical - or polite - than they are themselves.

Answer 5

First I would ask him where he heard the word and then I would punish him by calling him a dick so he can see what it feels like to be called one. Punishment has to be strategic so the kid has a learning experience. Slapping and shouting will make things worse.

Answer 6

my kids are almost all grown now one left at home I am 40 and
have had alot of this kinda stuff happen with all 4 , I have washed mouths out with soap, to spanked , and even put in corners, even had them threaten on cops, I just let em know whos boss and told em cops are slow by time get here there will be a reason to go to jail, I never have abused my kids and they agree, but now a days kids rule us not the other way, keep a strong mind

Answer 7

if it were a boy, rough him up. dont let that slide, you are the alpha male.

if its a daughter, then tell your wife to do it. she deserves a good slap.

and then give them a lecture on how they can't even comprehend why you were a dick. that they have not even felt one onehundreth of the pressure that life will bring, and that you were "a dick" because you have to protect them.

and that even though they will hate you for the decisions you make, YOU amke the decisions, and YOU know whats best, and that THEY are the children, and have NO IDEA what they are talking about, because they have not even seen a glimpse of the adult world.

Answer 8

Get some ice for the swelling. That's what any good parent would do after slapping their kid. Okay maybe not. Try grounding and stick to it. If the child is old enough to speak like an adult, thy're old enough to face it like an adult. straighten up or get out.

Answer 9

first i can't believe the abusive way these Moran's are telling you to handle this... all of you shut up!!!
now how old is the child?
does the child know what that word means ?
is it something the child has heard at home? class mates?
it this the first time ever said to you or anyone else?
before doing anything ask your self these questions
then don't beat the child!!!
grounding sure(age appropriate time)
e-mail me
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i can help been there done that
i raised my children
my grandchildren
and the children of others
i have the experience

Answer 10

There's some issues here, you need to establish that you are the one in charge. I would spank him and send him to his room. Damn but america is so hung up on saying that's child abuse and what not. A simple spanking ain't abuse, it's discipline. How else would you deal with a situation like this, you can't just talk to him, they won't take you seriously, and since when do I gotta listen to someone tell me how to raise my kids.