Im so inlove with a guy who is 22 and im 36 we are so good together. do u think its worthwhile to continue?

Question

We have been together for 3 yrs and we are so in love but live opposites side of the world. We see each other as much as we can and I know he is scared of a huge committment because of our age difference. i want US to be toghether for ever he is all i have ever wanted . we love most of the same things and get on so so well. We are in constanst contact everyday its just magical. Im actually with him right now and i know he loves me so so much.. We have discussed the future and he is frightened of what might be ahead, but know one knows what lies ahead for anyone...I just wish i knew we would be together forever...

Answer 1

Hey love has no limits, love has no age, love has no color, love has committments. If this man makes you feel every bit of desire, then you hold on to him, forget about what people think or say. If he has you glowing then keep on shining girl. I wish you the best of wishes sweetheart. You Go Girl!!

Answer 2

What caught my eye most is that you say that live on opposite sides of the world. Since you only see each other periodically, your meetings will have a better chance of retaining that magical quality because there won't be a routine, and you'll always get a break from each other. You're far more likely to ignore his little (or big) irritating habits (and he yours) rather than make a fuss and ruin what time you do have together, but things may not stay that way once you're together every day (if things get to that point).

The other thing is that at 22, your "guy" is still basically a boy. (I'm not criticizing you or your choice, but am trying to look at this realistically.) As a general rule, women mature more quickly than men, so that age gap will feel even wider than the 14 years it is. Only in very rare cases will a man so young be prepared to make a forever commitment (and it's surely to his credit that he takes the idea of commitment so seriously that he doesn't make promises that he doesn't know whether he can keep just to make you feel better). And trying to wheedle, argue or strong-arm a commitment out of anyone is never a good idea. (It sounds like you're trying to find ammunition for your argument by even asking this question in the first place.)

I think a lot depends on whether or not you want children (or more children, if you already have some). By the time this young man is ready to make a commitment, your eggs will be pretty far past their "best if used by" date (I'm 35 myself, so I'm not picking on you. I'm just sayin'...), and you'd probably be better off calling things off now and trying to find someone else who will commit to you sooner rather than later and who also wants kids.

If you have no biological clock imperatives, you can afford to let this ride a little bit, but try to keep your eyes open for other options.

Answer 3

I think that is great to find the love you are describing,however it must be hard at times for you both with the distance that stands between you both,i hope things really work out for the both of you.Love is love and if it is true love nothing can prevent it and nothing can hold back the future that you both desire to have with one another.Your right no one knows what lies ahead of them,but isn't it worth the blind faith to follow your hearts?You will never know till you take the plunge in doing so.As far as the age,that is something totally between the both of you,it shouldn't matter to anyone else or to the world either.People but to much into issues that doesn't need to be examined to begin with.I wish you both the best,Good Luck!

Answer 4

There is a HUGE emotional and psychological difference between those two chronological ages. I'm sure that he is probably scared because he hasn't lived as much life as you have lived and doesn't want to commit to anything until he's had a chance to see and do more. I'm not going to say it's impossible, but it will definitely take more work for both of you to keep things going. I wouldn't put as much weight on age as I would emotional maturity - and if you both match up more there, then things could work. I've personally known a lot of younger guys and they've never been mature enough to handle things. But if you can make it work, then more power to you!

Answer 5

Jordan, this is a candy poem which you wrote for him. right that's my propose for you. do no longer instruct him all your actual thoughts good away with the aid of fact in case you do then he will think of he has you and there'll be no longer something to benefit from it. sometimes a sprint secret is exciting to the different individual. Its okay to bare which you like the guy. yet save the poem and since the relationship grows that must be some thing which you may save and if he's "the only" you may keep as a marriage present in case you and he have been to start relationship and get serious. does not that be cool to assert to him that's how i think approximately you the situations we spent at the same time and then supply him the poem. (i comprehend i'm leaping the gun somewhat) yet you get the message the concerns of the middle are a soft ingredient in case you pour out all your thoughts at as quickly as then if issues do no longer artwork out the variety you like them to you cant take those words back and your heart is the extra to be broken. basically inviting him to a minimum of a few thing casually and spot if he excepts (do no longer even call it a date) and doubtless ya'll could have lots relaxing he will ask you out. :)

Answer 6

That is beautiful!! But have you stopped to think that when you turn 46 he will only be 32. He is only 22 now he really hasn't lived his life to it's fullest yet and besides you live on opposites sides of the world, I don't think you really know much of each other. I think you are setting yourself up for heartache. God Bless you both and good luck. I hope you make the right decision.

Answer 7

If you had said that YOU were the one worried about the age difference and not him, then I would say it's not as big of a deal (although 14 years is a very large gap). But he's the younger one and he's worried about it -- I think that sounds like bad news. If he's already apprehensive about your age, think how he's going to feel when you're in your fifties and he's still in his prime (if it lasted that long). I hate to be the pessimist, but I sense that you're going to end up very broken-hearted. I'm sure it's fun right now, though. My advice would be to enjoy him, but just don't expect too much.

Answer 8

It doesn't matter about the age. It is nothing wrong that man married to an older woman. he should know that. Ask him why is it wrong? Is it bacause no one does that he might get embarrass? Adam and Eve did not make up the rule that man can't married to an older woman. It's just that most man married to a younger woman The point is that you guys love each other, and no matter what people say you guys belong to each other.

Answer 9

Where are you from - where is he from? I am 33, from USA, in love with a woman from South America, whom I plan to marry this year, who is 53. We have discussed the many aspects of life and what we want for our future together, and we are willing to work through all the challenges and difficulties ahead.

Sounds to me like this guy is having doubts - cold feet, if you know that term. He's wondering if he should maybe try to date women his age, in his local area, or at least from his culture. You have to accept that love must be willing to let go, to let the other person pursue their own idea of happiness, even if it means the (possibly temporary) end of the relationship.

Basically, to answer your Q: yes, Yes, YES, it is worthwhile to continue, but only as long as BOTH of you want to be together. Right now your emotions are in overdrive and you are scared to death of losing this "love of your life." You may need to see a relationship therapist/counsellor/advisor (alone or with him) to figure out what kind of future you have (alone or with him).

Have Faith! But be open to reality - his reality may not equate to your own. In that case, accept that Fate has dealt you a blow you may never fully recover from, but you are strong enough and lovely enough to realize Fate has another guy for you somewhere.

Answer 10

If you love each other than there is no reason you two shouldn't be together. In my opinion age is only a number, and as long as you're both legal, then it's a wonderful thing that you have found happiness in each other. It's rare, don't let it slip away.