If your husband cheats, is it safe to say that he will always be a cheater?

Question

Mine has cheated twice that I know of. I have forgiven him and tried to move on, but I think he is up to it again.

Answer 1

I dont think once a cheater always a cheater, but a man is going to do what you allow him to do. You are allowing him to do this to you. Shame on him the first time and shame on you the second time. You need to walk away and let him decide what is more important. Just hopefully your still there when he makes a decision.

Answer 2

Nothing is safe to say. The odds are not in your favor, but that's not to say that he will definitely cheat again. The real issue is whether you can forgive him (again) and whether you can ever trust him again. He has to earn your trust, you shouldn't just blindly offer it up again to be abused. It sounds like he hasn't done a very good job of that if you suspect he's carrying on (again) as I write this.

The issues for you are: 1) why is he looking to other women to make him happy; and 2) why does he think this is something he can do without you kicking him to the curb? That thought is somewhere in the back of his head, or else he would never cheat on you. Any husband who cheats does not have the fear of being found out, because these days it's too easy to set him up. I would never take such a risk for the simple reason that I don't want my marriage to end, which would probably happen if I ever got caught cheating.

So the real issue is whether he's cheating on you now, and if you have empirical proof that he is, the "once a cheater, always a cheater" adage doesn't matter. If he's cheating, he's telling you something. If he's not, you still need to figure out whether you want to stay with a man you apparently and understandably don't trust, whether there's any reasonable prospect of him earning that trust, and whether you want to stay with this man enough to work all this out.

Whatever happens, you two need to seek counseling. If he refuses to go, you have your answer. Even if he goes, there's still a long way to go.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I really hate to tell you this but once a cheater always a cheater. And if he has done it twice it will not stop. Yes he may love you, but he loves sex more. I had a partner like that and the sex was way more important to him then me. And to top things off he made it my fault everytime i caught him. It was because i dont show him i love..... yah yah. The fact is he cheated and i drove him to it everytime. So deadless to say we are no longer together and i am so much happier!

Answer 4

I would say 9 out 10 times he will be always a cheater. I was married (before my wonderful husband now), and all he did was cheat we got divorced and he is remarried and he cheats on her the same way he did me if not worse.

Answer 5

If you think it, it is true. One indiscretion you may forgive; people make foolish mistakes, but two times cheating in a marriage shows a blatant weakness and disregard for you and your marriage.

Your husband is a cheater and will always be a cheater with you. Be strong and get a divorce.

Answer 6

If hes cheated twice and youve forgiven him then hes obviously going to do it again. He thinks youre soft and still take him back if he gets found out, so he thinks hes safe cos hell get to keep you anyway. Hes a liar, and nobody deserves that.

Answer 7

Never trust him again. The old saying is: "Once fooled, twice a fool". Cut your losses, hire an attorney, and leave this dirtbag. In this case, it is safe to say, that he cheated once and he will continue to cheat because he thinks you won't leave him. You deserve better. Good luck.

Answer 8

Every self respecting woman knows once a cheater always a cheater, no exceptions.

Answer 9

Yes it is safe. If he can throw away those vows he spit out in front of everyone, then he will continue to cheat. I dislike cheaters whether it is male or female.

Answer 10

Plain and simple. Once a cheater always a cheater.