The man that i recently started dating has a 4 month old with his ex g/f. I have a 10 month old so i understand that he is going to go and see his daughter. BUT, his ex wants him back and has made in known. He says he doesn't want to be with her anymore but as a woman I know the types of things I would probably do to try to get an ex back. Now some men, not all, will sleep with the girl because he knows he can. At this point he hasn't given me any reason not to trust him but it crosses my mind when I know he's over there. Which causes problems for us because he thinks I'm accusing him of something. I try not to make it a big deal but at times I don't want to do "certain things" with him because the thought of him being with his ex. So of course he gets a little upset. Should I take his word that he's not doing anything over his ex's house but visit with his daughter or should I expect the worst and hope for the best. Am I a fool if I trust him completely?
2006-06-22 07:35:34 · 24 answers · asked by DaBeautiful1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you can't trust him , the relationship won't work. Don't try to second guess things you are not sure of, it will ruin you.
Be sure of your own abilities to keep him with you and it will work out.
Jealousy will ruin a relationship.
Trust and communication are very important.
Good luck and remember, as long as there is a child between them, they will have to see each other. It is up to you to make sure you are willing to live with that or not.
It's a long road honey.
2006-06-22 07:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just because your bf has a baby with his ex doesn't mean they are sleeping together. Unless he's given you a reason not to trust him you should trust him. Just keep the communication with your bf open - let him know how you feel, but don't accuse him.
Since you are both aware that his ex wants him back - make sure you are open about the situation - don't make him feel as if he needs to hide things from you about her/his child because you might freak out or fly off the handle.
2006-06-22 07:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should because he care for you - pick up daughter, share time with his daughter away from the ex's home. So the only ex contact will be the pick up and drop off time. Don't understand why he has to spend time at the ex's home to visit his daughter that would make me feel the same way your feeling. Maybe you should suggest this to him.
2006-06-22 07:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't trust him completely.. Guys just tell you what you want to hear.. I'm pretty sure that he will or has cheated on you with her.. His ex is just not another girl. That is his daughters mother!! Best believe they are still going to have something going on, especially if she wants him back!!
2006-06-22 07:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Am I a fool if I trust him completely?" Obviously you don't, or you wouldn't be posting here.
Have you simply asked him if he is? Directness is sometimes the best way to deal with men - no way out with sneaky talk.
But, you've only 'recently' started dating him - its not right for you to be putting demands on him and changing his routine. WHen you become serious, more than just 'dating', talk about this issue and your insecurity with it. If he loves you, he will try to compromise to make you more comfortable.
2006-06-22 07:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him till he gives you a reason not to. Also stay open with him about your concerns but never accuse him. Suggest that he bring his daughter over to your house also. he doesnt have to spend all his time at his exs house .
2006-06-22 07:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by sweeetkisses2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be best to possible slow this relationship down between you and him. I am sure if she has made it know that she wants him back then she will make some tempting offers to him. Plus it is important for him to go and spend time with his new child so as much as you may not want to hear it you really need to slow your relationship down.
2006-06-22 07:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there must b a reason why they broke up, if the fact they had a child together couldnt keep them together then u have nothing to worry about. If ur still worried do a bit of research to put ur mind at rest.
2006-06-22 09:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sexy English Blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Situations like this only get worse. I put up with a similar situation and trust me. You will really resent yourself and him for not coming first. Unless there is a wonderful amount of love involved, find someone else.
2006-06-22 09:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bern_CH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for your answer to my question earlier!
I have been in this situaton and I must say most women will still sleep with him. Just like men feel that once they have hit it they always can women feel the same. Maybe you should volunter to have the child come to your house instead of him going over to hers. This way you can control the situation.
2006-06-23 08:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by blacknbeautiful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋