I've always wandered....how much can someone's heart stand the pain....I mean you can't have love with out pain. What i'm saying is...when do we know that we must stop the love when we know that you can't have love with out pain.
2006-06-22 07:32:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
love and pain are the same emotion. you just have different thoughts with each one.
2006-06-22 07:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Blonda 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That's a hard one to answer.....when you love someone so very much and you know that you would do just about anything for them, even if sometimes they don't appreciate what you have done for them or they don't love you in the same way that you love them, how do you know when enough is enough? I don't believe that if you have that much compassion for someone that it will ever be that easily turned off, you will always go on loving them, unless of course we are talking about someone that has posed a significant threat to you, either in an abusive way or being mentally abusive.....that of course is a major sign that the person needs outside help and that there is nothing you can do for them.....but what if the same person that causes you such sincere happiness and enrichment in life is the same person that causes the tears to flow from your eyes and moves you to such emotion that you don't think your heart can take it???
I don't believe that we will ever truly know the answer to that one but I DO know that I cannot give up on someone that I truly love, whether that be a man, my child or my family.....there is always hope there and somehow (not always) it gives you a little lift, you think that one day the impossible might actually become possible.
Good Luck!!
2006-06-22 07:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain mainly comes when betrayal occurs. Some times to stop the love and relationship is unnecessary and a bad idea. But some times only of the two people in a couple is smart enough to know when ending it is a bad, unnecessary idea. But the other person wont listen. So, yes, it's hard to know, some times. But remember- It's impossible for one person to be sure, and the other not to be. But some times the other person wont listen, and makes it end, anyway. Never forget that. And in relationships, give into pressure, to avoid getting hurt. Also if a man tells a girl he loves her, and says no to ending it, listen to him! Do what he says, girl!
2006-06-22 07:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love & pain go hand in hand. However, there are times when there's too much pain and you have to learn to let go. If you're in an abusive relationship its better to let go of that relationship. Abusive relationships can encompass those that are verbally abusive, physically abusive, emotionally abusive, etc. Those are extremely unhealthy relationships and if you stay in there you're risking bodily harm and sometimes even death. At some point, you have to watch out for yourself and be selfish. Have some self-esteem, at least enough to say, "I deserve better, I'm a good person and I deserve someone who'll love me without having to cause me so much pain."
In real, true love relationships, there is pain but not like that.
2006-06-22 07:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by bitto luv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a philosophical answer: pleasure and pain are motivating factors in our lives. This becomes an extremely important view called Hedonism in the academic branch of Philosophy known as Ethics. Many feel that the strongest form of hedonistic behavior is psychological.
Some feel that pain and pleasure (combined with intended consequence) fuel us to make decisions while others feel that it is only pleasure that serves this purpose (normative hedonism).
So in this case, love (in normative) or love and the pain combined with love (in motivational) provide ample justification to act. The flip-flop between these two serve as reason not to stop.
2006-06-22 08:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by enseen61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In relationships we must stop the love when pain starts to over power the love.
2006-06-22 07:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by kb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop the love when the pain out ways it.
2006-06-22 07:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Kellidoscope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Logically, we do not have to have pain if we love. I went on a creative writing course last Autumn on which one of the people went out of her way to write a story saying how she had fallen in love at first sight as a teenager and lived happliy ever after since. However, sadly in real life love often does lead to pain.
We fall in love because we are biologically programmed to, and for many people the results are worthwhile eventually. For the reasons it often leads to pain I fear you should look to evolutionary theory: we compete to propagate our genes. Most of us lose at some point in the competitive process, which hurts.
2006-06-22 07:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Philosophical Fred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not only the love and pain. All life is "structured" like this. yin and yang, good and evil, light and dark etc etc. If it wasn't the evil, the good would be impossible to be seen. So is with love and pain. You couldn't decide when love is love if there was no pain. All things have their values in contrast with their opposites.
2006-06-22 07:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by Ayce c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love without pain is no love. Love is a feeling and emotion. Only Heartless cannot feel the pain
2006-06-22 07:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by QISHC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always gonna be some pain in a relationship. Just watch for abusive relationships.
2006-06-22 07:36:39 · answer #11 · answered by funtooabc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋