What is the best age to start having kids?

Question

Do you want kids? How many is too many? What if you had kids and got in a new relatonship with someone, would you have more kids?

Answer 1

About 25, at that age you are still young enough to enjoy them and run around in the yard. When people have children really late in life I always think about how they are lessening their chances of seeing their grandchildren. I am 32 and I have a 71/2 y/o son. I'm divorced now. If I remarried I would consider having additional children if my mate wanted them, however, I really don't think that another marriage or other kids are in the cards for me. When you become a parent the focus is not on you and your needs anymore, Its all about what is best for the child. To me anything above 3 kids is too many. I would not want to have so many kids that we couldn't ride in a regular car. I know families who have big vans just to fit all their kids, that would suck.

Good luck and think hard before having kids, you can't go back! ;)

Answer 2

I don't believe there is really a "best" age to start having kids. One must be ready mentally, emotionally and most importantly: financially. Kids cost money - a lot of money.

Starting a family right out of college is NOT a good idea in my book. You should find yourself a good job and keep it for a few years - save up some money and find a good man. I'm not saying that you HAVE to be married or anything - I just think it's a lot easier and it's really better for the child to have two parents in the same house who love each other.

I, personally, am not really interested in having kids right now and I'm 28 years old. If I ever do have kids it will be after I am financially secure and have met the right man - and then, I only want one, but I could deal with two. How many kids you have is really personal preference. If you can afford to have 10 kids and you have the desire to raise 10 kids - go for it, honey! I can't say that I would want to have more kids if I got into a new relationship, but my plan is to be with one man for the rest of my life once I find him.

Answer 3

The best age to have kids is after 20 and when you are financially and mentally ready. Kids need a lot of love, work, and attention. If you aren't ready to do the commitment, you are not ready to be a parent. It also helps if you have some siblings around so you know how it is to have a brother and sister around. If you've never had a child, you have to find out whether you actually like kids.

As for having a kid and getting into a new relationship, I would wait to see if the relatioinship is working. You are bringing in your child into the relationship and you expect that person to accept your child. How can you expect someone to accept your child when you first go out?

Kids have a funny way of reacting to strangers and it takes awhile for them to get used to that person. I would wait for a little bit before I start trying for more kids.

As for how many, it depends on how financially stable you are and what kind of things you want for the kids. If you want everything for your child, you probably cannot have a lot of kids. Kids cost money and kids can be a lot of responsibility. So I would think of what you want in life and how much you want to spend on having a child. You make a lot of sacrifices and no one knows that better than a parent.

Answer 4

Best age? This really depends on your intention in life. I would suggest after you have graduated college, especislly since I did not wait. It also depends on how many you "think" you'll have.

Do you want kids? Yes, I have 4.

How many is too many? Some people relate this to money, how manny can you afford. That's a crap excuse. I was always worried about money when deciding to have another, but I now realize that things will just work out. For me, it comes down to how much time do I have to spend, and what's my breaking point. Four seems to be a good number. My time gets stretched sometimes, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

I might, just depends on how old I was, how many I already had, and if the other person wanted kids.

Answer 5

Finally- A good question!

I definately wants children! Too many is 4 or more than 4. Nah, I wouldn't get in a new relationship again, but i would have 2 children with the newbie :).

The best age to start having kids is 21-26 , this is because you finish learning college and have a high education level, you should earn a little bit of money by working and then consider having children.

:)

Answer 6

I think in your late twenties is a good age to start having kids . . . or five years after you've been married, or in a very stable relationship. By waiting five years, you have probably figured out everything that is essential for parenting, and seen everything habit wise about a potential parent.

I think more than two or three would be too many kids. Every situation is different; can you afford a dozen? Think you really want that many? My mother remarried when I was six and they decided to have one child together. My younger sister has 10 siblings total (she was 6 for my mom, and six for my stepfather).

My best friend also remarried, she already had two from the first marriage. But due to health considerations, they decided not to have any kids.

You have to really think about your situation, and consider all the critical issues before having a child. Children require a lot of emotional and financial resources, and it is a lifetime commitment. One child is enough for me!

Answer 7

I believe that your early twenties is the best time to have children. For many reasons. First reason being is that YOUR YOUNG...so its easier for your body to snap back into place. Also you will have more energy to actually get up and play with your kids.


As for the other questions.... yes, I want kids(pregnant now). I think 2 is the most I want. If I had kids and go in a new relationship....I probably wouldnt want anymore...for the hurt it might cause my children. yet...if things are good between the new someone and my kids...then maybe one more. Possibly!!!!

Answer 8

Do you want kids? No

How many is too many? Anything other than two. It pisses me off when there's a single mother with like 5 kids. Its ridiculous; USE A F UCKING CONDOM! Geeze.

What if you had kids and got in a new relatonship with someone, would you have more kids? Nope, I would adopt.

Answer 9

yes i want kids. i think that 4-5 is getting to be too many unless you and your spouse can support that many. I know a few ppl that have 4-5 kids and they do fine but thats too much for me. And it depends how much i like that person. The best age would prolly be around 25-30

Answer 10

Yes I want kids, but I also want to feel settled. With my job, career, house, financially. I would like to have at least 2. I don't think there is a certain age, but I do think that teen pregnancy should be taken seriously. We need to provide our children with the knowldedge of some type of Birth Control so they can provide and be at a point in their life so they can easily provide for their child.