My neighbor is A gay girl and we've been chilling for the last 2 months. She broke up with her girl about 8 months ago caught her cheating. Last weekend she spent the night and I knew what to do but at the same time I was a bit shy becasue she said she was gay. We did some things not all the way, I'm cool with it. But she is chill we go to six flags, the water park I'm like a rollercoaster freak so I love it. Sometime we just chill on the deck having a beer. My b-day is coming up and she wants to make plans for all my friends to meet up and celerbrate. This is like my dream girl, but I can't catch feelings because eventually she's going to look for a woman or is that just a stupid generalization. I ask alot of questions to Gay people on here I know yall are getting annoyed but I'm trying to be open and protect my self at the same time. It's impossible. She seems real I talked to her about this and she told me not to overanalyze so I shut my mouth. Can't predict life huh? Sucks.
2006-06-22 07:15:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am enjoying the time spent thou no doubt there. Maybe thats all I should do. Weigh in if you want it always helps.
2006-06-22 07:15:59 · update #1
You guys have alll said very true things thanks, I'm just going to chill out and enjoy the ride. Pretend to be 18 again.
2006-06-22 07:59:15 · update #2
Hey,
First let me say you don't annoy me at all. You seem like a nice guy who is trying to understand things. I can and do respect that. My answers vary in length depending on the question and how much time I have.
In this case, I think you should relax. She may be gay, she may be bi -- but women are more flexible than men (that is actually proven, btw) -- and right now, she is into you.
Enjoy it man, and hug yourself for your good luck.
Peace.
Reyn
http://www.rebuff.org
2006-06-22 09:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if she categorizes herself as "gay" she may be a Kinsey4 or 5 and open to the right guy - however, if she doesn't want to consider those kinds of possibilities, there's not much you can do. I know that sometimes you get so busy looking for a good girl that you can overlook good guys who are into you. If you have any other questions (assuming this was helpful) feel free to ask aetetlytiettlym@yahoo.com
2006-06-22 08:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by oldwhatshername 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We tend to think things are either one thing or another -- especially sexuality.
In life -- you know, outside of our minds -- sexuality is more "fluid." It changes, it's not really "fixed." Straight guys will go on the DL, a gay girl will make out with a guy -- I've seen a lesbian make out with a gay man. I've never made out with a girl, never wanted to have sex with a girl, but I"m not going to say it's never going to happen. I don't know the future.
I would say go with the flow, what will be will be... but stop anything if you think it's going to ruin the friendship you also have. She probably will go to a girl at some point, though... sexuality isn't just about sex, it's about affection and attraction and romance, too.
2006-06-22 09:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by blueowlboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a gay guy and I'll be completely honest here: I have a notorious track record for falling for straight guys. For some reason gay guys are boring to me and don't interest me at all....I dunno... Anyway, I digress... the point is, that despite my feelings, I know and have to accept that a relationship with a straight guy is not a possibility (unless it involves a bottle of vodka *lol* jk).... On one hand she may be bisexual (have you ever asked her?) but on the other, she is probably a lesbian and you should just accept each other as friends. I think you should take a risk and be upfront and honest with her about your feelings and see how she reacts. You've got to be careful though, because this approach could potentially make her uncomfortable and it may do damage to your friendship. It's a fine line to walk... Good luck bro!
2006-06-22 07:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either go with the flow - or more properly "trickle" - and enjoy what you get while it lasts or, if it hurts too much to want and not get, make a point of looking for someone else.
It's quite common for people to break up and for the hurt party to seek a fvck buddy for a sympathy fvck (though granted not usually between a lesbian and a straight dude!). You've had two months of friendship and a night of w@nky-pokey. Ask yourself, is this enough?
When you've answered that, talk to her and see where she's at.
you'll then be better placed to make your choice how to proceed.
2006-06-22 07:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she said she was gay to protect herself, and now is trying to send you a message that she has reconsidered because she now feels safer with you than she did earlier. Perhaps she is gay, but has discovered that the straight life has something to offer. Perhaps you're over-analyzing, and should just relax and enjoy. Most likely, she likes you and feels she can be herself around you. Maybe romance is on the horizon, maybe not. It sounds like you're getting a little too serious too soon.
2006-06-22 07:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by jelesais2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be Bi sexual not gay....If she can "get down" with you or is attracted to men as well...shes BI....doesn't sound like shes into you in that way though.....at least not now.
Could be because she's still hurting, could be because of your friendship.... she doesn't want to mess up w/ sex, could be because she is gay and not BI.
If she is telling you to chill then that's what you need to do! ....at least for now. If its meant to happen, then it will....in its own good time.
Right now she seems to need a friend more than anything else so be that for her.
2006-06-22 07:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by spawnsmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to just kick back and let happen what ever will happen it could be that she is bi-curious. You know seeing if she can like a guy as well as she likes a girl. Just dont fall too hard for her. Keep the fact that she is into women in the back of your mind.
2006-06-22 07:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, i believe that you should first ask her about how she looks at you, because for you know she may be developing feelings for you and not know it, its is true that you cant make a gay person straight but who said you cant make them bi sexual? Try that out and maybe you will ge your dream girl, and let her know you cant knock it til you try it and that might go for you as well
~Jonathan's Wifey~
2006-06-22 07:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by PrincessKrissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should enjoy your time spent with her. You may be what she was looking for in a REAL MAN. I feel like she is tired of the whole lesbian thing and its not her. She digs you. If she was straight lesbian......she wouldnt have looked at you twice in that way.
Good Luck. Have Fun
2006-06-22 07:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by bunnicula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋