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Why does society still frown at interracial dating or coupling and yet parades itself as being civilized or open minded?

2006-06-22 07:08:11 · 54 answers · asked by Konero 1 in Society & Culture Other - Society & Culture

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i don't think race should EVER be an issue in marriage and dating, however, ethnicty might be. even two people of the same race who were raised completely differently might have issues, where different races raised the same might not.

i dated a black guy who really valued education and family and we got along great but then dated a white guy from the bronx who was raised to think that women were second class citizens and that, needless to say, didn't work out so hot.

but i say forget people and their closed views, because they won't be there when you need them anyways.

2006-06-22 07:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by lucifer devoison 2 · 1 0

I am Black and I would so love to be with many different races. Although in my community, there have always been derogatory statements thrown at different racial groups, that would never stop me from being interested in or dating other people outside my race. I believe that God made everyone and all people should be given the chance to be known by their own personality traits. As a society, we are by no means "open-minded". I'm not sure about mixing religions in marriage , but racial diversity is great!

2006-07-01 14:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No its not better to stick to your own race as you put it. Yes you may have things in common because of your culture, tradition, ancestory but that doesn't mean you automatically going to be a match made in heaven. Opposites attract as they say!

My mother is Brazilian (Black) and my father is Irish (White) and when they got together there was lot of racial prejudice particurlary when they moved from Ireland to England (believe it not!). They remember the signs in the 1960's saying "No Blacks, No Pakis, No Irish" outside rented houses & shops etc...so things have definately improved since then.

Society will never rid itself of racism completelly and it really depends on the area & country you live in when it comes to mixed race relationships, eg London is v.multicultural. I reckon in 50 years time they will be more mixed race children than today.

2006-07-06 03:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by Keira 6 · 0 0

As a senior citizen I would have to say yes. Being raised in a black dominated neighborhood I was not a racist nor am I today but thru life I have seen the after effects of numerous interracial marriages that did not last and the children of those marriages are the ones who have suffered the worst. I seen it not only in the United States but in Japan, Korea, Vietnam and the Phillipines. Cultures are definately different in all races and most cannot adjust to the others. It doesn't bother me one bit to see an interracial couple together but it still makes me wonder how their kids are doing. So color has nothing to do with it at all.Try talking to a child of an interracial couple and see what they tell you.

2006-07-05 12:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by AL 6 · 0 1

Your question is generic and begs to have somone argue with you. You can just as easily substitute the word "sex" for the word "race".

Frankly, I don't know that society "frowns" on it at all...in fact, it's become common among 18-29 year old males/females in particular, and younger teens are following suit.
I think it's a societal fad personally, and when those who do it realize it has no shock value anymore, it will not be such a big deal to them (or anyone else)anymore.

The problem is that anyone who expresses any opinion contrary to that of the leftist liberal view is labeled a hatemonger or a racist, etc. so the problem isn't really with "society" as you claim; it's with the people who want to parade their choices (whatever they happen to be) in the faces of everyone else, dare them to say anything...then cry 'racist' when they actually do say something. So much for freedom of speech...unless the speech happens to agree with THEIR views, of course.

Just because someone doesn't agree with a certain view doesn't make them uncivilized or closed-minded...it just means they have a different opinion, whether it's right, wrong, or indifferent. If someone wants others to respect their choices, then they should do the same in return.

2006-06-22 07:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by answerman63 5 · 0 1

It depends on your preference. If you wish to date/marry someone who speaks the same language, has the same cultural values and beliefs, and has shared a similar life experience ... than yes.

But race is not always the only determining factor for a good match. When I choose a mate, race does not really factor into my decision. My main concerns are: compatibility, similar interests, attraction, kindness, tenderness, and an open mind.

2006-07-02 22:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Bay Area Gal 2 · 0 0

I personally don't think that it should matter what "race" or ethnic background couples come from should matter. I also don't think that a babies "race" should have anything to do with wether they are cute or not. I have seen cute babies of all different races as well as some bf ugly ones from all different races. The couple that is truly in love makes the best babies. The reason for the frowns is because some old black farts are still passing hate on to their kids and some old white farts are still passing ignorance and hate on to their kids. Society is the few pushing their beliefs on the many through "governmental funding"

2006-07-04 20:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by YODAWASHERE 1 · 0 0

No. Society frowns upon interracial dating/coupling because society hasn't grown up yet. Hypocrisy.

2006-06-22 07:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan Temperle 1 · 0 0

The heart wants what it wants.

Socially, it is easier to stay within race and class when mating, but love is what it is and it's up to the people involved as to the trade-off between love and having an easy time with the family.

I think that too many people get caught up in how they expect other people to feel or react, and then adopt that expectation as their own feeling or reaction. For instance, family members - sons and brothers who disapprove or something because they think their father would disapprove.

Sure is easier than confronting your own thoughts and feelings.

2006-06-22 07:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas F 3 · 0 0

Our "civilized" and "open minded" society is made up of a lot of ignorant and narrow minded people.
Think about this...
What is race besides the genes that were passed on to you by you're ancestors? So, is the point of non-biracial dating or marriage to preserve your ancestors skin color? Sorry but genetics aren't that predictable.
People were taught by their parents that the color of a person's skin matters and they will inevitably teach their children the same thing. Our society may be civilized and open minded but we still have a lot to learn.

BTW: Race is not related to culture.

2006-06-22 09:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by Misty 3 · 0 0

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