My boyfreind of six years does not want to get merry. Marrage is very important to me and he doesn't care. He says it just a legal binding, i'm aware of that but I love him and I want a marrage. All his friends have gotten merry, we are the only couple of four who has not done it. Last knight he said if i was not happy with our situation that I should find someone who will make me happy. Now my head is pussle because i think he doesn't love me or why would you say that. What do you think? should i look for someone else?
2006-06-22 07:08:08 · 8 answers · asked by MIRACLE2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If marriage is what you really want then you have a right to seek out a mate with similar interest. If he really loves you and cares enough about how much this means to you, then marriage would not be that big of a deal. If marriage is to big of a commitment to make then you can bet that any other comments that he has are on as shaky ground as a marriage proposal. You have given him 6 years yet you have not mentioned how long you have be after him to get married. If the marriage proposition has just recently came up then give him some time and if he has responded in a positive way it is not unreasonable to put it off for a little while as long as both of you are working toward the same goal. Be warned though that if you feel that he is just putting you off with no intention of ever getting married at all then you are going to have to make some tough decisions. There are people out there that you can and will fall in love with that have the same interest as you. Unfortunately you will never get the chance to meet them while hanging onto a relationship that is going nowhere. Good luck
2006-06-22 07:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by tobmall 1 · 12⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's trying to make you do the break up. My husband use to say he's not getting married either, but he took the plunge right out of the blue after 4 years. (but I was young, only 22 when we married)
How old are you? under 25, maybe he's just not ready yet. Over 25--you may want to find someone else to treat you better
2006-06-22 07:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to be so blunt but, what a jerk. So if marriage is nothing and just a bunch of legal stuff then why would he be so against it?
Same old story; different chapter. Women are attracted to jerks and are surprised when they prove thier character.
Your decision is to either content yourself with being what the jerk wants or find someone who sees the world somewhat like you do!
2006-06-22 07:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by RunningUte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6 years and no commitment from him and now he is telling you to look for someone who will make you happy...:(....Sounds like he has not intention of marrying you and I know it will be hard to move on, but it better to find someone who will marry you and care for you more than this guy. Good Luck....
2006-06-22 07:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by beaderlovinglife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years later he still hasn't changed his mind. Time to move on and find someone who has the same ambition and goals as you do about wanting to get married.
2006-06-22 07:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should just move on and forget him he told u he doesnt want to get married but u do so just move on and find someone that loves u for who u r and what u believe in
2006-06-22 07:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by killsummor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He's obviously either too immature to get married or simply doesn't love you enough. If you're set on getting married, move on.
2006-06-22 07:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Six years is long enough for you to wait. He's not going to marry you, and nothing you say will change that. Drump him and move on.
2006-06-22 07:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋