2006-06-22 07:02:37 · 7 answers · asked by marissa s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stepfathers don't get enough time with the mom. Give them 2 more room, so they can be with each other, and don't be too needy with mom. What I mean is, don't be sticking like glue to mom and just be cool with the step dad. Don't get pissed off and jealous if you see them in love, (hugging and kissing and all that). He needs to go through mom with any problems between the both of you.
2006-06-22 07:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Marcel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to prejudge, even give him the benefit of the doubt, Mom must have seen something positive about him and I am sure she has considered this man is marrying into her family not just her...Every ones my friend until they prove themselves otherwise...you may hear something that bothers you about him, don't disregard it, but observe if you find that to be true of his behavior...everyone has a past, I'd like to think a second chance at marriage is a second chance at not making the mistakes one had in the previous marriage...this could apply to step dad / step daughter relationships...leave and learn how to get along.
2006-06-22 07:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um........... find wat u guys have the same interest in and hang out but if he is like my friends step dad and isn't that cool or doesn't do anything that u don't like 2 do then maybe he is just some 1 that u can try 2 talk to him about somethings or something like i don't know my friend thought that he was trying 2 take the place of her father but he wasn't he was just trying 2 get along wit her and get closer 2 her and her mother so they all could be happy so maybe u could try something like wat i said but if not that's okay cause i know that some time u will find ur answer it might not be as soon as u wanted it but it will come if u ever want 2 talk email me at bunny_perry@yahoo.com
i hope u find ur answer!!
2006-06-22 07:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by happybunnygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there can be alot of issues here but just accept him as a new member of your family, get to know him and let him get to know you, don't think he needs to compete with your dad because he doesn't, one doesn't have anything to do with the other, you can like your new step dad and that isn't disrespectful to your dad. take your time with it, give him the respect you should give any adult and talk to your mom about this, she knows him and can help you along with it most of all. good luck to you, congratulations to you for asking this question and considering how to manage this, it shows a level of maturity and character that is impressive! i would be proud of you for this if you were my daughter!
2006-06-22 07:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, get to know him. Don't have any expectations of him. Don't assume he's trying to take your dad's place. Assume that he wants to get to know you better. Ask him for advice about something. Include him in your day to day life. It's easier than it seems, really.
Good luck!
2006-06-22 07:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Judgie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a step dad to.it would take sum time to get into the dad thing he is wit us for 3yrs now i cannot call him dad..wat i'm sayin is take your time in gettin use to him..
2006-06-22 07:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by fazzy0323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i could answer ur question cuz im having the same problem and i don't know what to do
2006-06-22 07:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by jamaican girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋