how do you not let a serious situation in your life damage the rest of your life like lossing your child.?

Question

i lost my child and it makes it hard for me to want to love again.l

Answer 1

a friend of mine just lost his brother and when we went to his house we saw his parents and it made me so sad! they stayed active with everyone around them. they let their sons friends help them get through the time. of course they cried and what not but i think it helped them being around the people who loved their son the most. no matter what its going to change your life drastically and you cant avoid that. you are going to have times where you hate life, god, etc. but then you are going to have time where you think of that person and laugh. i hope this helped and im sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know things must be very difficult for you right now, but you've got to try to get back to life. Life is for the living and you've got to carry on in the spirit of your child. Some counseling will help and time in general will help as well. I suggest you find a counselor or they even have groups for people just like you who have lost a child and they can help you through this tough time in your life. When my mother died when I was a little girl, my father set up a scholarship at the college where she was taking classes. To this day, we get lovely letters from the people this scholarship has helped out. It's a wonderful way to carry on your loved one's legacy and give hope to others who need it. I hope all this helps and I hope that your pain eases more and more with each day. Good luck.

Answer 3

When you say "lost", do you mean that you lost custody, or the child passed away?? I'm going to assume that your child passed away, because loss is loss no matter what level it's on.

First of all, you need to allow yourself time to grieve. There are many steps in grief, anger, denial, bargaining - etc. and finally acceptance. If you can't move on to accept what has happened, then it's going to ruin all the potentially happy times you could have in the future.

I would HIGHLY recommend seeing a grief counselor and reading / learning as much as you can. There are MANY parents who have lost children, and if your local area doesn't have a support group, then why not consider starting one? The more positive things that you put yourself into, the less likely it is that you will have time to dwell on the pain. Do things in your child's memory and honor.

You have more life to live - it's more of a tragedy if the world loses you both. (And I always put a disclaimer in - if you're considering suicide - or having thoughts of harming yourself, please go to the ER immediately and get help. Sometimes extended periods of sadness throw off our chemicals and we start thinking things we wouldn't normally think).

I'm very sorry for your loss. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

It is so very important the you understand that there are things in life that we will never "get over" or "find closure". So many people look at life as it is intended to be a slick skating rink type of life. In reality, life is more like a tapestry. May threads and textures all combine to make the display lovely.

Horrible events are not the beauty; its how those horrible events mold and shape us that creates the beauty.

Please consider some grief counseling or group sessions.

I am praying for you!

Answer 5

Realize that everything has it's purpose everything has it's reason. Nothing can change what has happend, but it does make you stronger. If you know whay things went worng then you can make that change the next time around. Children are a joy and you should never give up

Answer 6

that is really very hard!! i lost my kid from my first gf when i was 22. then, my son from my 1st wife died when i was 28. it was really devastating!!
but what i did was, i never gave up on myself and just went on with my life, and started taking the days one at a time. i went on with my work, i kept myself busy doing a lot of things with my friends and family. just take it easy. you have to accept the fact that there is nothing you can do about your kid. but there is definitely something you can do for yourself. take care.