if you get raped should you have an abortion?

Question

well just that everyone knows... i didn't get raped and im not pregnant was wondering what people would do if they get into such a situation and if it is still wrong if you do get a abortion even if it was rape...

Answer 1

comin from experiance....im 2 months pregnant and a victim of rape.i would never get an abortion....the baby didnt ask to b conceived like this and its not their fault. i cant do adoption because im already attached to my angel and i dont know the sex or anything and i know without a doubt in my mind that i cant give birth and then give my baby up....i oculdnt...so im havein my baby and thank god for the support of my family or i would NEVER make it!

Answer 2

If you are pregnant from rape, I am so sorry. I was raped at a young age, but did not get pregnant from it. I still remember it sometimes and it hurts even though it was 20 years ago. When I pass the place where it happened I just shudder and almost want to cry. That place will always be there. I can't burn it down or nuke it can I? I can't imagine having the pain from the rape and the pain from an abortion too. It is not the baby's fault that it was conceived in such a violent and horrible way. I think that the baby deserves to be born and given a chance. If you do not want to raise it then give it up for adoption, sweetie. God be with you.

Answer 3

It's a hard decision, emotionally, to make.

The mother has been horrifically violated, by a man who she might not even know and whose child she probably would have never wanted to carry.

The joyous time of pregancy and birth is now more a punishment or enslavement.

The child that is born will probably show some visible traces of the father and is a tangible symbol of how the mother was used and damaged. She loves the child because s/he is hers; she hates the child because s/he is also HIS.

And yet the child did not do anything wrong. A child is a child. S/he did not ask to be born, nor did s/he ask to be a product of rape. Why should the child have to be punished (with loss of life) due to the sins of his/her father?

All I can say is that a woman who can go through with the pregnancy with the right atttitude and love this child, who embodies so much that has been both good and painful in her life, will be amazing healthy, a spiritual giant, some who is transcendent in her beauty and grace.

But it is not an easy road to take, and no one can force the decision.

Idealistically, I would want to give the mother the choice, and I would hope that she could find the strength to love the child -- and I would hope that the community would rally around her and turn what began as a tragedy into a magificent triumph of the power of love and grace.

Answer 4

Not necessarily. It depends on what you're thinking. I've never been in that position, but I would think that maybe a baby is the good that comes out of the bad. A baby could make that horrible, horrible thing not totally as horrid. I hope this doesn't sound like I'm making light of the rape, I don't mean it that way. It's just that a baby is such a blessing to come from such a terrible thing.

Answer 5

You have asked a very difficult question that needs to be answered in the broadest possible light.

It would be best to discuss the matter with the clergy, a personal physician and members of the family.

Life does not come with a book of rules and regulations where one could go to page five, third paragraph from the top, for an answer.

Too often, we are placed in a very challenging situation where innocents are involved. So, we have to make decisions that may not be right or wrong, but, what is acceptable and what we can live with.

Answer 6

Im torn on this subject. Ive discussed it with friends before and I still have no idea what I would do. Im not a fan of abortion unless it puts the mothers health at risk. One of my close friends from childhood was date raped and got pregnant. She hid the pregnancy until she was 7 months along. Her parents ended up adopting him and raising him as their son. I would consider adoption. But if its too much of a mental strain on the mother, I would seek counseling first to deal with the trauma of rape then make an educated decision with the support of her family.

Answer 7

absolutely not! adoption maybe but not abortion. you already have to deal with the fact that you got raped but then you have to deal with killing an innocent life. think about it - you will always wonder what you would have named it, what color its eyes would have been, what sex, would it have played sports? i have a 4 month old that i wasn't ready for at first but after you get through the first 6 weeks you will be soo glad you kept it. and don't worry you will not think "i was raped" everytime its laughing or giggling or holding onto your finger. babies love you regardless of how it got here. please don't do this. i have a friend who aborted a baby 6 years ago and to this day is still not over the horror of it. you want to see something sad! go to abortme.com i believe where people encourage others to have abortions for the fun of it. and to "recycle" the fetus. go to the doctor and listen to that tiny heartbeat. keep it!

Answer 8

I've lost my child through a miscarriage, so i can't just come on here and say, yes get one ,becuase just the thought of someone killing a baby before it has a chance hurts. HOWEVER, if you're always going to remember that rape every time you see your baby, if it's going to haunt you forever, and then come back again when you have to explain to your child that they were REALLY a mistake, then I'd suggest either aborting it, or, having the baby and giving it up for adoption. It's not fair to make the child or you go through that.

Answer 9

Well I have a friend who was raped & she got pregnate she decided to keep the baby but it causes her problems sometimes because she doesn't know the father of they baby. I wouldn't think I would keep a baby if I was raped because it would be a constant reminder of a bad time in my life but many people feel differnt ways about that so it is really up to up. I hope you make the choice that is right for you.

Answer 10

I think that is the only exception!!!! I agree with pro choice but i also agree you know what your doing while in that moment, you know... But yes, a rape is different. You did not get a choice whether that happens or not. I am sorry, i know the feeling i was raped lucky my bc prevented it any further to be more than a memory but if i had to look at that baby and think of that all the time. I would be so depressed. ITS ALL YOUR DECISION!!! screw the raper and his opinion.

Answer 11

No, definitely not. Should an innocent child be killed for the crime of his or her father? Furthermore, aborting her child will only worsen the suffering of the woman who has been raped. She will become the aggressor, perpetrating a crime on another innocent victim, and the knowledge of what she has done will haunt her long for the rest of her life. In a recent study of rape victims, most women who aborted their child said that the abortion increased their trauma and grief. In contrast, no women who chose to give birth regretted their choice.

See:
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/Victims.html
http://www.afterabortion.info/Victims/index.htm
http://www.afterabortion.info/PAR/V2/n1/RAPESUM.htm