I still love this girl, but we broke up. Within a week of dating a new guy, roughly 1 1/2 months after we split, she had to go get a test done. I feel betrayed but I don't know if I should sever ties or be there for her. The guy in question, ironically, suddenly has to go to Iraq. Please offer any and all advice you have.
2006-06-22 06:32:49 · 14 answers · asked by kiatzu_shutendo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Note that we never had sex
2006-06-22 06:55:58 · update #1
Well first things you are a very kind hearted man and should be proud at the fact that you know this is not your child since you say that you 2 never had sex..But if she still holds your heart then follow your heart but as a friend someone she can turn to for moral support and comfort unless she is ending the relationship with the baby's father in the case that they are ending their relationship and you know forsure you can handle the fact the baby is not your flesh and blood then make a good happy solid life together...One big question tho Does she still love you? I truely wish you all the best in the world you seem like a man she would be crazy to let go out of her life and you never know this baby could be a link that binds yous for ever....
2006-06-22 08:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by shell b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think u should ask her if she slept with the guy. and if she didnt then step up and take ur part as a Dad. Dont b scared just take one step at a time. If u still love the girl try talking to the girl and work it out.Talking is the best way in a relationships. If u later on have doubts then ask for a DNA test. GOOD luck!!!!!
2006-06-22 13:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good guy to even be considering staying,stay with her she'll need support.Show her that u love her by staying with her through this all,and get a blood test when the baby is born to see if it's yours,if it is and u don't stay you'll regret missing the pregnancy,but even if it isn't she'll sppreciate u being there for her and you will learn a lot!good luck
2006-06-22 13:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Earth to "Mr. Nice Guy": You are not the father of this child, you have a life of your own, you can be there for her but you are not the "father"..she has family and friends, I'm sure, to help her, but you have to watch how deep you get with this one. If her man comes back from Iraq, she's gonna ignore you and forget all the help you gave. Love is crazy, but don't you let it make you crazy. :)
I wish you all the best. :)
2006-06-22 13:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lyfeizbutadream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with you every child has the right to know mum and dad and im very sorry for your situation thats a tough one but by the sound of you, you might already know whos the bubs dad. be honest with your self go for the dna test and know for sure. that could be your baby and i will tell you this you have no idea unless u have kids how well it feels to hold that bundle of joy in your arms
2006-06-22 13:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was only with the other guy one and a half weeks and needed the test, I'd say the baby is most likely yours. Congrats
2006-06-22 13:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by irish_yankee51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what to say..
But..
If Iam in such condition...
I wont go near her initially...
She has to suffer for ditching me ( Saddism) Hehhehehe
Then after that... I will take care her if she is willing to be with me untill her boy friend comes back or she finds new starting in her life..
If that baby is found to be mine.. then no other way other than accepting her and our baby...
But I wont marry or I wont give my initial to that Infant...
Poor Infant...
- Jin
2006-06-22 13:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her like the plague. Trust me, you dont need the BS. If you are just looking to tap that a$$, its not worth it. Been there done that, its not worth the hassle.
2006-06-22 13:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by jeff the drunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say if u still love her then i would say u should help her through this and mayb even become close friends with her or more who knows but she could really use a good friend now more than ne thing.
2006-06-22 13:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by Aliesha B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off u should take care of the baby regardless of ur situation with her. if u wanna be a deadbeat dad go ahead you will regret it for the rest of ur life!
2006-06-22 13:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by tx80sgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋