Should I home school my daughter or not????

Question

I have a ten year daughter would is ADHD and has other problems also. She has been held back once and this last year was i nightmare the principal just wants to give up on her and send her to an alternative school. She went from being an A student to being a C and D student. Do I try to send her back to school the next school year or do i just try to homeschool her?

Answer 1

That's a hard decision ,I would try home school,but that takes away the social aspect,it also depends in a way what your daughter wants to do,but it's your choice,I wish you all the luck in the world,I have 2 Daughters its hard.----Bob

Answer 2

I would use homeschooling as a last resort. I am in the teaching profession and recommend looking for a special needs school which would fit your childs needs, if you feel the current school is not. Homeschooling does supply some social contact with others students, but not on a regular enough basis to aid in the necessary social growth of a child. I understand your fustration with the principal, however, maybe the principal isn't giving up, just suggesting an option where all of your child's needs could be met, since the current school can not meet the needs. It is worth looking into for the sake of your child.

Answer 3

I think homeschooling, charter school's, continuation school's are great! When I was going to school I went to a high school but had nothing but trouble so I got transfered to there continuation school, I was told that's where all the troubled kids go. This was a school it had 3 teachers 4 classrooms. I went to this school my 11th and 12th grade year and let me tell you on first hand will never forget the 3 teachers that stayed after at all hours and that help'd me get to my goal and that was to graduate early from my class and I had to make up 3 yrs. But I worked hard and got the help I needed and graduated a month early of my class. My sister she is 18 yrs old she is your all around good student she got good grades all through school when she got to her 2 last years of High School she was have'n some what of a problem at school to where it was affecting her learning so she went on homeschooling and she got the proper help she needed to in order for her to graduate. On June 9 th at 3:00 p.m she crossed stage with a class of 20 kids and is starting College in the Fall. Your child will get the care, the help, the attention that she would need. See at High School's the give up too easily on kids but with Alternative School's they don't they believe in you they will help you get to what you want no matter how much of a pain your child is they stick with you and they push you to do better. I know a lot of kids and Parents that choose Homeschooling and Alternative Schooling over sending there kids to a regular High School. I have another sister she attended the same school I did and she is in Medical School doing just fine!

Answer 4

I would seriously consider if you feel qualified to teach your child all the subjects. Are you strong in Math and the Sciences? Even though your child had problems at this particular school, school districts have resources available to help with special needs students. (Contact the central office of your school district.) I am an educator and I know that an ADHD student can be successful but it is a matter of finding the right resources. Also there is the socialization issue, I firmly believe children need contact with other children to develop social skills

Answer 5

Before embarking on homeschooling, you need to do your research. What once was the "insane parent who couldn't deal with the system" solution is now becoming more and more common...however, not everyone is ABLE to be a homeschooling parent. My uncle's first wife, for example "homeschools" her children. This means to her that they simply do not go to school and in the state of Wisconsin, this means that the state largely ignores them (the state Department of Public Instruction HERE deals with homeschooling by ignoring it). Her children couldn't read or count at the equivalent of second or third grade. It's a rather big mess.

To be a successful homeschooler, you need to start by looking into the regulations for your state. Find out what you MUST do to make the state happy, and then talk to other homeschooling families in your area. What do they do? How do they do it? You will also learn what services your local district must continue to provide to you (ie. sports teams, band, selected classes still at school, and even special educational services) and what you can do on your own. You will also begin to learn what you can handle yourself, and whether it might be better to engage a tutor instead. You might be pleasantly surprised to find a retired teacher or another homeschooling former teacher mom who wouldn't mind taking another. You never know!

Once you learn the regulations and what other parents are doing, you might find it's better to just be the best advocate you can for her needs while keeping her at a public school, or you may even find a private or parochial school will serve her better. Homeschooling is a good, sensible option these days, but you have to be sure you're ready to do it...and make all the connections you can to ensure this will be a successful venture.

Talk to other parents in your district of students with ADHD and/or special education needs, too. It may well be there's a problem in the district with not meeting individual students' needs This problem is typical in the public schools...until a child gets a special education label (ADHD alone does not qualify for "special education"). Since special education is state and federally mandated, these students get sometimes the best service in the school. If a child is gifted or not special ed "enough" he or she never quite can get the help necessary.

If she DOES have a special education label, then get ready to fight because you have more laws to back you up than anyone else. It is also not uncommon for schools to let a child fail one year in order to expedite special ed testing, particularly in the elementary grades. Since your daughter sounds otherwise intelligent, this would be somewhat useless in her case, but it does happen as a way to catch students with L.D. or C.D. (cognitive disabilities). Since most students who are Emotionally Disturbed (ED) also have a learning disability, this system often works, as scary as it sounds!

In short, while it's tempting to snatch your daughter from the public schools just to get her out (and believe me, I empathize...I'm a firm believer in anyone could teach your child better than the public schools), you don't want to teach her that when you're not doing well, you just quit. You don't want this to be an "escape" from the system only. She needs to feel successful again so she doesn't give up on learning all together, but she shouldn't have A's just "handed" to her either. You want next year to be a successful experience, and you may find that learning what you can do to advocate her needs being met WITHIN the public schools is your best bet.

Answer 6

Is a private or Christian school an alternative? I would use homeschool as a last resort. She needs the social interaction as well as the learning. I would stay on top of her and work every evening with her for her school work. Is she being treated for the ADHD and other problems? Is she seeing a phychologist?

Answer 7

i would switch her schools, the principal should never give up on a student, no mater how difficult they are, adhd is no reason to take her out of school, unless she wants to stay home i say switch schools and see how that goes, also why did her grades fall????

Answer 8

i think that that you should her back to school because an environment which can be provided in a school cannot be found else where.and for her degrading perfoemance you can try to provide her with some tutions . you can also monitor her studies and keep a check on her daily routines but do not miss her school life.

Answer 9

I really don't think that you should homeschool your child. It would deprive her of her social needs and also she might not know what to think of you as, a mom or a teacher. There are medications that she can get for her medical issues.

Answer 10

I would try to homeschool her, it's worth a shot. I just worry about the lack of social interaction she'll experience.

To the person above me - if you're going to complain about someone's grammar, learn to spell it first: GRAMMAR.