She has asked her best friend to sleep with me. Her bestfriend called us lastnight and we put her on speaker phone and she said yes. she would do it for us. what should i do?
2006-06-22 06:08:48 · 33 answers · asked by RARE AIR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm totally confused!
2006-06-22 06:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by badpuppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really a good idea to sleep with your wife's friend - even if she's giving you the verbal go-ahead. Women are kind of freaky about stuff like that and I don't know her well enough to say, yeah, she really means it, or no, she just wants to know that you would stand by her no matter what. There aren't a lot of women who would be cool with this - although some would.
I guess it's hot to think about having sex with someone else - but did you and your wife really agree to that when you got married - and have you always had that kind of open sex relationship? Would you be cool with her sleeping with someone else once she's over her 'female problems'??
You should know your wife well enough to know what she really wants, but if you don't, then I would err on the side of caution and just tell her that she does make you happy. Then go beat off to some porn or something - but just all the dynamics of having a f**k buddy - girls can't f**k without feelings like guys can - so you're taking a chance on making drama...
Good luck. I know it's hard when you're not getting what you need and your partner says - hey go ahead. But you'll work things out.
2006-06-22 06:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by headshrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is sex more important to you than your relationship w/your wife?
Is your wife crazy???? Are you willing to put turmoil in your marriage for sleeping with her best friend? What if her friend gets pregnant?? Is your wife willing to be th other woman in the childs life? You guys have a lot to think about! There is help for female problems that can be taken care of by a doctor. And there are OTHER ways to help satisfy you. I personally don't think that sleeping with her bf is the answer. Is the best friend willing to lose the frienship of your wife due to jealousy, or if you decide to leave your wife for her friend. I have a best friend to, but wouild never ask her to sleep w/my hubby. She would think I was crazy. If you love your wife enough you should be happy w/her anyways. If you considered sleeping with the best friend, then I suggest getting a divorce. If the shoe was on the other foot, would you consider letting her sleep w/your bf??? Think about it!!!
2006-06-22 06:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by leslie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife fails to make something very clear...She wants you to have sex not to be happy because happiness is a state of mind and you are the one to determine if you are happy with this arrangement or not. By the way, would you give her the favor of such deal if you had a "man's problem"?
2006-06-22 07:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife first and find out what is going on with her health instead of worrying about sleeping with her friend. Something doesnt sound right. I hope your wife is ok and I hope this is just a fantasy of hers. But talk to her first, I don't want to scare you but something could be really wrong with her.
2006-06-22 15:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by domestic?goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally sick, why can't she wait until her "female problems" are over? There are a lot of things she could do to make you happy without sleeping with you. And if you really love her u could wait. U don't share the one you claim to love.
2006-06-22 09:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by caribbeangal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a trap !! don't do it .............
Stay true to your marriage !! Hey you signed up for the whole hog....
It's not a playboy mansion...!
Besides I think she wants you to be happy, but I am guessing that she's hoping you say NO.
It's a female thing to say that I will do this for you, but if you do go with it I'll kick your ***..... You know that whole thing with women going .... no it's okay you missed our anniversary you was busy... but deep down she's hating your guts for a loooooooong while.
Remember those days.... well it's still here and your married and it'll be ten times worse !!!
2006-06-22 06:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by swma76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would strongly advise against slepping with anyone who is not your wife it will come back to bite you in the *** heres what will happen your wife will become insanly jealous of her bestfriend which will destroy there friendship. it will destroy your marriage because sh'll think that you want her friend more than you want her.or accuse you of messing around behind her back. my question to you is r u happy with your wife the way things are now? is she trying to get you with her friend for procreational perposes? or just to satisfy your sexual needs? if its just for sexual gratification I wouldnt advise you not to do it she needs to realize shes the only one for you and If you do It that will open alot of doors you dont dare open. tell her that you would rather use your hand, her mouth ,or her hand then step out of the marriage.
2006-06-22 06:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this would come back to bite you! It may be in the form of jealousy because she is experiencing something with him that you aren't able to or it could be that she wouldn't comfortable being close to you like she is now. What if she ended up pregnant? This just sounds like a recipe for disaster. Run!!!
2006-06-22 06:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even think about it. Your wife thinks she's doing a kind thing for you but regardless of what she says or even thinks, she will feel betrayed and never be able to forget that you slept with her best friend.
2006-06-22 06:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in most of these cases it will end terribly. you are going to enjoy it alittle to much and not be able to stop,or your wife might like it to much and become involved with just women. what ever you decided think about everything befor you do it because it could all so be the end of your marriage.
2006-06-22 06:16:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋