I normally go through bouts of depression. My life has extraordinary stresses. But I usually seem to deal with it. I feel like everytime I confide in my husband, he only uses it as fuel against me. I really don't have any one to talk to. My Mom and sisters view me as the black sheep or the outcast or whatever. I am 29, with 3 young daughters and generally stay at home with the kids. I am below middle class, but not poor. I just can't find the motivation anymore.
2006-06-22 05:18:30 · 5 answers · asked by ♥jessica♥♥ 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Depression is a sign that something isn't working in your life.
You've stated that "extra ordinary stresses" ... "Husband uses emotions as fuel against u" ... and "separation from family" ... These each need your attention.
Depression does go way when you face it and make changes into what is causing depression. It will linger and intensify if you don't start to make the changes.
Remember, nothing remains the same, and your life changes needed your mental adjustments.
Baby steps to kick start a little motivation.
1. Meditation (quite time) - This is where you shut up!!! Work to turn off your mind; Yoga is designed to help you turn off your mind. You can't hear the greater being (God) or yourself if you don't have time away from family (husband, kids), phones, television, computers, etc-etc-etc.
2. Sunlight (get 10-20 minutes daily) ... SUNSCREEN ... Even being outside in the Sun with long-sleeves and pants is beneficial. Sunlight has endorphins that help us be happy.
3. Exercise: Yoga is great for quite time and exercise ... you can also make more trips to the park ... walks with the kids after meals ... games like 'Duck-Duck' Goose.
4. Smile and Laugh - Look into the mirror 3 times a day and force a smile and laugh ... pretend you're a movie star practicing for a real happy funny acting scene ... try it in different ways.
2006-06-22 06:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What you have descirbed is teh feelings of depression but situtaional. When you do not have an outlet to express your aggrivation or stress to such as a confident the pressures build resulting in you internalizing the feelings and when your mind can not cope with anymore your mind and body suffer from and imbalance. You need to find a confident that is a friend so that you can chat freely and know taht you will not be judged. You are a stay at home mom who craves the social atmosphere of being with otehrs your age. This is a normal reaction. Your husband uses your issues as weapons against you then that is a clear sign that he is not supportive of you and this should indictate to you that you are in a negative situtaion that needs to be resolved. Good Luck and know taht you are not alone.
2006-06-22 12:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by psychologist is in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant find the motivation anymore because you dont feel the motivation anymore. You have to find things you like. I know that your busy all the time with working all the time and having 3 young daughters. But find something like playing with them, taking a hot bath just yourself (to cool u down), make a smoothie (fruits means more energy and maybe better thoughts). I know that i get depressed all the time becausee im not happy anymore. I always have to find more things to change my routine, because i get so depressed because im bored with life. There are so many things that make you depressed buy a notebook or just use any pieces of paper and make a journal to keep all your thoughts in and maybe even throw them away so noone can read them. But as long as you feel like your venting your stress will go away and so will most likely your depression.
2006-06-22 13:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by starfari86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do dont give up hope.
depression is a dark evil thing that build a wall . there are some pills that might help you . but beaware of them , talking is always a help .
but you a have to try and find what is making you feel
depressed.
there are also group out there, good luck
2006-06-22 12:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by jane_run_run 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to find someone to talk to that has nothing to do with your family. That could mean a psychiatrist or just a friend. I also get bouts of depression. You may want to talk to your primary care physician. Just talk to someone. If you need to talk e-mail me at asheslynn812@yahoo.com.
2006-06-22 12:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by ASHESLYNN812 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋