I dont know what to do.. I feel like my man is cheating but everytime we talk about the subject he ignores it...like seriously...he wont even say a word...hell just turn away..he tells me that he loves me and if i love him ill trust him and never think wrong..but i tell him that they never tell him anything about me so why all the time about him...its every week a different story...and when we talk about it then we end up arguing and the situation goes by unresolved and that leaves me with a big ?..and i feel i need to finish it..should i trust hgim and leave it like that or try till i find out the truth..
2006-06-22 05:17:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you should just keep pushing the subject cause if you don't then he will just keep on cheating.
2006-06-22 05:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by SocasteePrincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I would be worried if he keeps avoiding the subject -- if you are not doing something bad why act that way?? Maybe you can get a friend or someone to keep an eye on him. Yes, spying is not the best thing but what can you do when he refuses to talk -- be careful with this because it can make things worse. I am sorry but the "if you love me then you will trust me" is not the best reason not to be paranoid. There is always that show Cheaters on tv... Maybe go see a relationship counselor on your own and ask what you can do. Good luck!
2006-06-22 12:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by blink182fan117 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First listen to your gut. If you feel he's cheating then he might be. Obviously asking him isn't getting you anywhere. Some men will still lie even when they are caught with their pants down. You have to do some investigation. That is the only way you will know but be ready for what you find. Dont ever just trust someone because they say you should. Women intuition is huge.
2006-06-22 12:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something inside is telling you not to trust him...since he avoids the subject, and says if you love him you'll trust him (they all say that), then I would lean to think you are correct. However, don't ever ASK a guy if he's cheating, cuz he won't admit it and he will turn it around to make it look like your insecurities. Do a little investigating yourself...say you're going to be somewhere so he knows you won't be around and watch from afar and see what he does. Women's intuition is a wonderful thing.
2006-06-22 12:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man that believes he has hurt the woman he loves would turn and walk away. You need to ask yourself why you believe he is cheating and tell him exactly why. If he gives you the cold shoulder he is either cheating or emotionnally unavailable for you, so either way you should break up with him.
2006-06-22 12:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by stillshyneing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts. It sounds like what I just went through. I didn't listen to my gut feelings because of my feelings for him and my life was put on the back burner. I was the only one truly hurt in the end. You must investigate if you can enlist your friends for help. You have to do whats best for you.
2006-06-22 12:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know the truth but u don't wont to believe it he's cheating I've been there done that and the longer you stay in denial you will hurt and always be stuck I got out of it .It hurts for a while to leave someone you love but it was for a while but its better to leave now and hurt for a while then to stay a be hurt forever
2006-06-22 12:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by yoyoluv27910 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really love him is the question you have to ask yourself? sleep on it
if you do love him your just worrying he reali loves you!! and if you try and find out the truth hes going to get mad and split up with you so dont do anything stupid if you reali love him!!
if you dont love him then talk to him and say that you need him to be trustworthy because you feel he is not being trustworthy! if he takes it the wrong way hes not the man for you!
2006-06-22 12:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by jenni4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you wanted girls help, but if he keeps changing the subject than maybe its something. if you got some real proof or something than watch out. but if not, then just look for some, it might just be ur imagination, don't nag him though
2006-06-22 12:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by Chuck'n Da Deuce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is cheating on you but why dont you go take a lie detector test to see if he has or not? my mom used to do that
2006-06-22 12:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by dolphin_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋