my husbands best friend sent me flowers at work and told me to tell my husband that i was going to be his wife and he is accusing his woman of wanting my husband do you think he is just trying to get to me and should i tell my husband about the flowers or handle it and keep all peace?
2006-06-22 05:15:57 · 70 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PLEASE tell your husband, just think what if he was keeping something like that from you? You need to tell him about everything and anything that was said. There should be NO secrets in a marriage. Plus some "BEST FRIEND" your ol' man has. He is showing no respect towards your husband, and if you dont tell your husband whats going on your not showing him much respect either. What business does he have sending HIS "bestfriend's" WIFE flowers and then wanting YOU to tell YOUR HUSBAND that HE'S going to COVENT his best friends wife. If thats some SH!T i've ever heard. YOU shouldn't even have to ask wether or not to tell your husband what is going on. OR are you taking this situation like some kind of joke?His wife also should be notified of the situation. You think she will appreciate her husband sending his best friends wife flowers?
2006-06-22 05:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you do not tell him it is going to come back to bite you in the @$$!!! Believe me when I tell you!!!
The fact that you didn't tell him already is going to be suspect. The longer you wait the more at fault you're going to be. Your husband's BEST friend has no business sending you flowers (What type of **** is that?!) Your husband knows this.
So when you go to him do it in a saddened, calm, worried, loving manner. Explain to him that there was no easy way to tell him this but no matter had ugly it's going to get you just had to tell him. Tell him word for word moment by moment what happened.
Then let him speak on how he feels. If he is angry just reassure him that you love only him and that you were saddened and outraged by his friend's behavior. Depending on his reaction:
A. He gets mad and snaps on you Solution - you let it go (he crazy)
B. He gets mad but not at you & wants to talk Solution - listen
C. He wants to go fight his friend Solution - Let him whup his ***
D. He's calm and/or nervous & tries 2 assure u nuthin is goin on Solution -Investigate Somebody's lying
It could very well be that his friend is jealous and just wants some of you. Maybe his girl does like yo man but that doesn't give him ANY right to overstep the boundaries with you as his friend's wife. Tell that ***** to come with some evidence of yo husband doing dirt. Don't take NOBODY'S word for ****!!!
In any event you have to tell your husband. When you tell him post the results so I can further advise. Thank you
2006-06-22 05:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by sxyjjust4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the first chance you can. It will come out later and you do not want your husband to accuse you of hiding something - not even for a month, week or day. If you tell him up front and just what you told us here, it will be easiest on your relationship in the long run, may even bring you closer together as you are showing him your trust him enough to be able to discuss such sensitive things. Remember, and this is important, it will come out sometime, be proactive and discuss it now.
2006-06-22 05:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jim G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell him. If his woman really did want to get with your husband he would be hurt and want nothing that would remind him of your husband. He's manipulative and not really a real "best friend" to your husband. Tell your husband so that he can cut all ties with him. Give those flowers away...
2006-06-22 05:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well would you want him to hide anything from you. Personally I say yes flowers doesn't always have hidin agendas. I think that if it makes you nervous enough to put the question on here then you might be thinking that there is something else going on so your best answer is to come clean. I hide nothing from my wife hell I tell her about every answer I put on here and how most of them I just reflect on how either of us would feel in the situation. So talk to your husband discuss the appropriateness of his best friend
2006-06-22 05:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by millitary007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell your husband!! His friend is way out of line and really isnt a friend at all. You must make sure that you didnt give his friend any signs that you are looking for a relationship with him. Marriage is forever and it should be cherished so do whatever you can end whatever you have with his friend. Your husband should find a new friend as well.
2006-06-22 05:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should tell your husband. Because if your husband finds out he is going to wonder if something is going on. and then he is going to ask you why you didn't tell him and it could really turn into a bad situation. And about his woman wanting your husband it could be true and it could not be true. Just talk to your husband he should understand. And that way you are in the clear of any wrong doing.
2006-06-22 05:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by babyface_2400 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands best friend sent me flowers at work . should i tell him or not?
2014-12-13 00:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does not really seem like a friend to me... Man Law: Never hit on best friends, girlfriend, wife, sister, mother. I would tell him, you are married and you should share everything. What if a women sent him a gift would you want to be left in the dark? I don't think so.
2006-06-22 05:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by pumkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband's friend is interested in swinging. I would let your husband know about the flowers, it's best to be completely honest.
2006-06-22 05:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋