2006-06-22 04:57:14 · 18 answers · asked by Mz. M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as he is doing it alone, and not actually meeting with this other person then how can it be cheating?
Is having a fantasy cheating? No.
2006-06-22 05:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by Rho Zeta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiding an email account is not cheating, although one should not have to hide their email account from anyone, just should not be obligated to give the other person their password. Jacking off on line as you put it is also not cheating, at least in my opinion it is not. Cheating is when there is actual physical contact with another person...on the internet it is pretty hard to physically touch the other person. It may not be right but it is far from cheating...
2006-06-22 05:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by TXDUDE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 'hurtinginside' too because of this very reason. No different email account, but the internet, yes. My husband tells me everyday how beautiful & sexy I am & how much he loves me, but then sneaks on the computer to stare at still photos of very young girls. I sit in bed wanting him while he's fatasizing about the picture staring back at him. All the good things he says to me just seem like a pack of lies. He could never want anyone but me-yeah, right. I'm a good-looking woman & I'm slim because I work out, but I'm 37-not 18. I can't compete. He refuses to talk about it, so how are supposed to fix it? I feel betrayed & hurt. Is it really cheating? Maybe not physically, but I don't think your heart knows the difference.
2006-06-22 05:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got divorced for that exact reason. He never paid attention to me...only porn on the internet. I caught him because he left a messenger open to the account I wasn't suppose to find. If he's hiding something, they know it's wrong. This person needs help to deal with it. I recommend counceling and constant communication. Tell him you know all about it, but keeping things from you makes it worse and now he needs to make sure you know everything else. It hurts when they carry on a different life and don't tell you. I felt like I didn't even know him at the end. Try and fix it before you both can't do anything to save the relationship.
2006-06-22 05:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by blonde0001-999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiding an email account is suspicious....why hide it if you are not doing anything wrong. Physical contact is not the only way to cheat....having an intimate relationship with another when you are commited to one is cheating. and even if it is not an intimate relationship but more like a hit and run affair, a one night stand is not appropriate with a marriage and neither is the jack off hit and run affair. Bottom line....if you are hiding it it is a secret and it is not conducive to a meaningful healthy relationship!!
2006-06-22 05:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call it cheating but I personally would consider it a mild case and I would be very hurt and I would not sleep with him for a very long time. I would be severely hurt by it. If you allow him to watch porn and stuff then it is no diff rent. So it really depends on your morals and how you feel, you do have every right to feel the way you might, betrayed, dishonored, and so forth, because when you take your vowels it is meant to keep sexual behaviors between one and other not the whole Internet. Does the person on line know what is going on?
2006-06-22 05:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first problem is hiding the email account in a marrige you should hide anything from your spouse. Second I consider it to be cheating if you jack off to someone on the internet. Just becuase you haven't gone to some other person and had sex with them in person, its just as bad as being online and talking sexually with another and even to top it off your talking in such a high degree of sexual remarks that you were able to please yourself. Best bet is just talk to your spouse and tell them what it is that is not satisfying your needs sexually. Same goes for phone sex your talking to someone else to gratify your sexual desire its wrong should only be done with your spouse
2006-06-22 05:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by millitary007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Cheating is intimacy with anybody else other than with their partner. In their mind they have already committed the offence. Every action has a thought over thought before it is an action of the physical. Just a matter of time, prepare yourself for maybe more suprises. All the best.
2006-06-22 05:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ms CMP5260 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately something wrong in the relationship if he(or her) gets their thrills (sexual or not) from the internet. If he wants wild sex....he needs to tell his wife or girlfriend....you might be surprised! It might be a spark your relationship needs.
If you go elsewhere other than the one you love...its wrong. Put the shoe on the other foot. If the only pleasure she got was thinking of some other guy...and not with you...Would that make you feel great? I don't think so.
Its cheating of a different kind and I (personally) think its wrong. Please stop and put your fantasies and efforts toward your partner.
2006-06-22 05:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by K's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is emotional cheating and it hurts. Internet addiction is very damaging to a relationship, and you will feel humiliated and inadequate.
Ask him to stop and make an appoitment with a marriage couaselor.
2006-06-22 05:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋