how can i trust?

Question

i find it really hard to trust people from past expieriences any surggestions on how to be less paraniod and how i can over come this and trust people thankin you in advance

will thanks that helpt

thank you smith2004 thats really helpt :)

Answer 1

No matter what kind of relationship you have with these people that you don't trust. You need to understand if you can't trust them you will never have a good relationship.

You cannot judge each person that comes into your life and compare think they'll do the same thing.

For example: Say you've had a significant other that cheated on you (been there done that). You cannot continue to harass the new person you are dating constantly saying they are cheating on you. More often then not they actually aren't it's just you being paranoid. However, the more you harass them the more likely they are to do such a thing. Because, if they are "paying for it" anyways, they may as well commit the crime.

I was cheated on multiple times in my past relationship but, you have to look at every new person with a clean slate until they do something to destroy that trust. If they do then just break it off because you can't have a full relationship with no trust. I am now married and trust my husband more then I could ever tell you. We both believe and trust in each other (always remember as well it's a 2 way street)!

Good luck!

Answer 2

I understand where your coming from! It's hard to know who you can trust now a days. In my opinion, I don't trust many ppl. I do trust my closest friends. those who have been there for me no matter what. If you've been screwed over time and time again, by ppl that you trusted, then you should already know what to look for. If it doesn't feel right then don't put all your trust in at once. Trust is something that is earned, not given easily. Beware of those who you trusted, and who hurt you. Put very little trust in them. But you can't be paranoid and think that you can't trust anybody.. Cause there are some good ppl out there, you just have to rid the weeds to find the flower. I hope I helped, best of luck to u!!

Answer 3

i don't know the answer because i trust too easily and get hurt in the long run, these days i keep my guard up and trust a little at a time, then a little more, BUT if i had no issues of my own, I'd say you should always trust someone from the start...until they give cause to let you down.

Answer 4

Maybe you need to be more careful who you choose to deal with. If people violate your trust over and over to the point where you are feeling paranoid maybe you have made some poor judgements in character regarding the people you associate yourself with. If it's been family who have let you down in the past there is little to be done but as the saying goes...you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends. Best wishes to you.

Answer 5

Be sophisticated about trust. Don't judge a book by its cover. Don't rush in. Hang back until you think you may be able to trust that person? And then trust them with something unimportant and see if they are worthy of your trust. Finally accept we all make mistakes and get taken for a ride sometimes!

Answer 6

My advise would be dont trust. I have found time and time again that people cant be trusted. I too am now paranoid. It just keeps getting worse each time I try to trust someone because you eventually find out you shouldn't have.

Answer 7

Realize that those people who hurt you in the past were jerks and not everybody is like that. You can be cautious, but don't get paranoid. Yes if you trust people you may end up getting hurt, but if you don't, you will just end up alone and you deserve to be happy!

Answer 8

let me tell you something,long time agao in my past i had my mother and all my family and friends used me,now as i look back i tell my self im better then them and then i found god,god is the key if you dont trust anyone trust god because i do,hes the one that dont tell people what your going throw,hes the one that can help when you need a friend,i tell my self i may not trust no one and i may not have any friends but i have the lord,pray and seek god and you will fell better,if you dont trust no one trust GOD blieved me i know,and i tell trust him

Answer 9

Don't be so insecure and you'll eventually be able to trust again. Be patient it will not happen overnight!! Only you can make the effort to overcome this.

Answer 10

i feel the same but learnt this great technique to reduce the intensity. look at www.eft-talk.com read about the tapping points and listen to the pod-casts