I'm still attached to my ex-boyfriend that I know I can't be with and that is the foundation of all my despairs. I feel like running far far away possibly to another country (from the US) would be the answer to my problems. I just wish I could be far away from the temptation to see him. I'm sure running would not be the answer but why do I think it would be?
2006-06-22 03:49:41 · 14 answers · asked by Alex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Instead of running away from your troubles face them with courage and resolve. After all; you're just gonna tell him that you won't see him any more. That's it. Just dump him and be brave, atta girl !!!
2006-06-22 04:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, don't worry. We've all been there and those who claim they haven't, have it still to come. It's hard to deal with. I started doing things i wouldn't normally have done like taking up different hobbies that interested me. This was a great way of keeping my mind occupied.. Whilst doing this, i met allot of new and different people who gave me advice from and orray of different perspectives. It was a great help to me when trying to get over things.
The fact is, if you loved this guy, it'll take time. But what you can be assured of, is the more time passes the easier it becomes. This is simply because, quite naturally you fill your life with other things and that will take you in different directions and will place you in the company of different people. You'll still think of him from time to time but as long as you can do that without feeling too depressed, you're on to a winner.
I know it's difficult, and there's not allot i can say to you because no one knows your feeling better than yourslef, but don't underestimate yourself, you are stronger than you think. You can still remember the good things that came out of your relationship. Rather than upsetting yourself thinking of the bad things that went on and why you broke u and how you might change it, etc, think of everything you learned about yourself and all the different things you done, and how you've grown in that time, and then remember... There is more to come... Keep reminding yourself of that..
You'll be okay honey... Take sometime to understand why things happened the way the did. If there's any changes you want to make about how you reacted to things, etc, then now is the time. If you understand something it will be less of a burden on your mind. Be strong my lovely... You'll be cool...
Hope you feel better about things... x
2006-06-22 11:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because you do a lot of things that remind you of him, things you did as a couple. try changing your routine, do something that you have never tried before and make friends while doing it.
it will take time to get over him but running away won't do much because you won't have all your friends around you for support so you would also be lonely.
like i said do something new and maybe get some of your friends to try it with you that way you'll be thinking about him less because you are having a good time without him. just get on with life and it will get better, don't let the though of him stop you from having a good time and doing what you want.
2006-06-22 11:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by i don't have a nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are very sensible feelings of self preservation. There's nothing to feel bad or guilty about. Of course you want to run and hide and occupy yourself with something else to block out thoughts of your ex.
My suggestion is that you follow this instinct through but direct it to something more workable, for example find a new boyfriend, change your circumstances, get a new job, find a new passion in life.
Don't dwell on your sorrow but don't feel ashamed to cry if you feel it welling up. Just look after yourself.
2006-06-22 10:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to think out of sight out of mind even though as you say you know it won't really work. What you need to do is continue to work on acceptance of what you know can't be. Sure, you will probably always have some feelings for him but that is normal. However, you can't live your life on hold for something that can't be. You need to focus on yourself and the things that make you happy and make your life into something special to you. Once you do that love will find you and you will have a life worth sharing with that someone special.
2006-06-22 10:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is you are going to need time to stop thinking about him, running away is not the answer, you will have to come back sometime, just keep yourself busy with whatever you can and eventually the pain will go, trust me!
2006-06-22 10:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sam k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always easy to think the easy way out, it's natural for people to think that way. But running only makes things worst. Try talking to him so you could clear things up, do some soul searching, and relax....everything's going to be alright.
2006-06-22 10:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by kristian121989 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear instead of being on answers right now, you should be in your bedroom taking out all the gifts, snaps and whatever that reminds you of him and have them burnt and tell yourself to move on and dont find a boyfriend just to cover this up, but deal with it yourself in your heart that you are done with him and would not go back to him again. move on my love.
2006-06-22 10:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you find a new love you'll be fine. Open yourself to new relationships. Don't run...smile and be happy and attractive to others. Don't be sorry for yourself. THAT is not attractive. Be a strong woman!
2006-06-22 10:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by suzycrmchz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why run away,just forget about him and live your life.
2006-06-22 10:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by Bob Mukonka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋