My husband and I had sex last night. I know when he cums in me and last night he did not. That usually doesn't happen, but when it does and I ask him about it, he just gets mad at me. The ONLY time he is away from me is at work, but he can leave on his lunch break and he works around women. Should I spy on him? What should I do to find out the truth?
2006-06-22 03:48:41 · 20 answers · asked by Karma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl don't be blind to love. Believe me he was my first and I loved him with all my heart. Had 2 beautiful children and a wonderful life I thought. Wasn't the case It only takes 1 home-Wrecker, who is well, (nasty) ya know. Any how It doesn't hurt to check up on them or just be out front and ask him... If you have been together long then you know when he lies.... God Bless...
2006-06-22 03:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
Go with your gut. Don't jump to any conclusions because you don't want trouble in your marriage where there's none to be had.
If your intuition IS telling you something, instead of confronting him now, yes, do spy on him. But be careful. Check his wallet for phone numbers. Check his ashtray in the vehicle for "foreign" cigarette butts. Drop by his work discreetly during his lunch break and watch. If he often comes home for lunch this may not be a good idea, unless you can give some "explanation". Now, don't become obsessed because he will become suspicious of you!
Always cover your tracks when you do play detective. If you gather enough evidence, make copies if you can and then confront him.
Meanwhile, keep being yourself, keep up your everyday routine, and keep making yourself happy with self-improvements. And you have to ask yourself, "If I were him, would I be cheating?" Are you the wife he can be proud of, brag about in many aspects? Are you there for him emotionally, sexually, spiritually, etc.? If not, no matter what he's doing, if you improve upon yourself, he won't even think of cheating.
2006-06-22 11:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by garayfive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He could have been tired or distracted by things at work .
2. Sometimes things physically hurt or get "dry" and don't feel as good, and he just wanted to quit.
3. Maybe he masturbated earlier in the day.
4. Sure, maybe he's cheating on you.
I can't tell you which of these it is, you know your husband better than anyone who answers this question.
I'm simply pointing out there are lots of potential reasons why this might happen, not just the "cheating" angle; and if you actively mistrust him and he realizes you are snooping around, it could put a rift in your relationship.
Besides, you yourself said it's only a rare occurence. I'd be more worried about cheating only if it was a habitual thing.
2006-06-22 10:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't go around driving yourself nuts trying to catch him doing something. Aside from making you frantic, it could cause problems where there might not be a problem. Unless other than his lack of ejaculation is making you suspect cheating, leave well enough alone. The amount and consistency of ejaculation varies with stress, frequency, and other factors. So, he may have *** without you realizing, or he may have had orgasm without the presence of ***...he may have been too damned tired to go on anymore. Don't jump to conclusions. Ask him instead if he would like to try something new...or surprise him with sexy lingerie....but don't assume he's a cheat...that would piss anyone off. Good Luck.
2006-06-22 10:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by getrd2go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be silly and give the guy a break, it doesn't necessarily mean that he's had an affair with another woman. Maybe it's the pressures of work or other related matters. What if you were not in the mood and faked it, would he, too, consider it as cheating?
2006-06-22 10:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have other reason to suspect he's being unfaithful?
There are only a few reasons guys don't finish. Either they've already done it, they're not turned on, they're too tired or they aren't in the mood. Don't assume the worst until you've eliminated the other possibilities. If you have reason to believe he's cheating, confront him carefully. Remember. . .you're married till death. Treat with care. You're going to have to live with every word you say.
2006-06-22 10:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do that to yourself. You must be a sperm reader or something. You know the thing that drivers men away is always being suspicious, there might be a logical explaination to all of this. Why go digging for something that might hurt your relationship. Try work on your relationship with your man.
2006-06-22 10:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by dawgbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? He doesn't shoot his load and you think he is cheating? No lipstick on the collar? No strange perfume on his clothes? No last minute late night meetings?
You are paranoid. If you spy on him, and accuse him of cheating, he will leave you.
2006-06-22 10:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by chadmcasselman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't seem like a problem. He probably gets mad at you for asking because he feels bad not being able to finish.
2006-06-22 11:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by d-nice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't mean he is cheating. Maybe their is a medical explanation for this. Ask him if when he urinates it hurts or bothers him. He may need to see a doctor. Don't be so quick to jump to the conclusion he is cheating.
2006-06-22 10:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋