He dosent want me to weare makeup to work, only when we go out together, he says why do I want makeup on for( we work together) I say Sometimes it makes me feel good. but he still dosen understand Some women should understand, I know for some wont even go out without it , I had wore makup since I was 13 years old (now 27) and then suddenly he thinks I wear it to look good for someone else, but I want to wear it for myself.
2006-06-22 03:30:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In any marriage communication is the key. His insecurities show he loves you and clearly cares deeply. Let him know that it was your choice to be his and his alone. He must learn to trust you regardless of where you are. He does not own you. Marriage is about commitment and trust. Look good for you and feel good about it. Be your own person and in doing so you will learn to grow and respect one another for who you are. Save this conversation with him for the bedroom. It'll make great pillow talk.
2006-06-22 03:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by teamplayer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him why he wears that baseball cap or hi fi althletic sneaks-because he wants to feel good and look good. make up is not different. its like pretty apparel on the face. he has to understand that when you go to work you need to feel confident and feel good about yourself in order to be the most productive you can be. If wearing makeup increases your self esteem and you do a better job at work and get that raise or promotion because your self esteem and confidence are booming than more power to you. and when you two go out i'm sure you want to look good-not having that just rolled out of bed look. if you feel good and look good around your boyfriend with makeup or no makeup than its showing other people that you appreciate him and that your relationship is well and makes each of you happier. he should just get off his high horse and stop being jealous of how good you feel. he is intimated that someone else will fall in love with you because he knows how wonderfully gorgeuos you are without makeup and knows that with it you are even more stunning. he has to understand that he is not a woman and may never understand the makeup thing. maybe you can experiment and put some on him and than maybe it will shed some light-like get all kinky and have a spa night with him or fashion show.
2006-06-22 03:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by RACHAEL R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I had this problem with my exhubbie. He hated make-up and did not want me to wear it at all. He preferred the natural look. Well I did not like me natural only when at home. We both know that they think it looks too good and someone will steal you away. Do you dictate to him what cologne and clothes to wear? Like you I have been wearing makeup for years about the same age as you and I certainly wont go out without it. I just feel good with that. So if it makes you feel good ..just do it.
2006-06-22 03:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him honey, he is just being a jerk. My mom has worn makeup her entire life and will not leave home without it, that is a part of who you are and if he cant except that, then you need not be with him. He got with you that way, fell in love with you this way, he is just being jealous because you are probably a beautiful woman. Don't pay him any mind, keep on looking beautiful honey!
Hey who knows, maybe he wants to wear it himself...LOL (Just a little joke) nothing to worry about, once he see you wont stop, he'll get over it!
2006-06-22 03:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by shawny2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you go out, before your date tell him your going to look great for him. And do so put on you best outfit and some makeup not alot. Maybe he likes you the way you are. Or he's jealous. But don't take you eyes off of him all night. Make his eyes light up again. I bet when you met him you had make up on. some guys are insucure and you need to make him think your doing it for him.
2006-06-22 03:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Natosha T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it gives you self-confidence. Makeup isn't merely for looking good, it enhances the beauty we women already possess. It doesn't hide it.
You wear it, so it should be only your decision.
Sounds like he's a bit possessive, and it needs to stop before it's out of hand if it isn't already. You'll both be happier.
2006-06-22 03:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by garayfive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think hes a bit jealous well the best way to tackle this is stop him from doing what he likes for example something special he does before going out like he applies cologne or something stop him from doing that he will repel than tell him the same thing that you cant take him from stopping you wear make up
2006-06-22 03:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horribly controlling and a major red flag. I would look closely at other things that he is jealous or controlling about and try to talk to him. He made need counseling if this isn't the only problem, and I'm guessing that its not.
2006-06-22 03:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by coconut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an insecure moron. Women want to look good for themselves, other women, other men. It doesn't mean you're going to leave him. If he still complains, tell him to wear ratty, smelly clothes when he goes out without you.
2006-06-22 03:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in a relationship you both are now one, you aren't your own person anymore I think that's what it's all about being in a relationship, you should try to tell him what you tell yourself, and if that doesn't work, I guess compromise with him...
2006-06-23 06:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by theodorais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋