He is married when he was in his late thirties, according to him married due to peer pressure. Regretted his decision, his lifestyle is kinda lonely as in before he met "mistress" :
- Mon - Fri (Working from 8 - 5) Reach home 6pm
- Sat and Sun (Out of house after 10am to 6pm alone for coffee and reading books outside cafe or window shopping alone)
Age of people involved :
Wife : 40
Man: 42
Mistress : 27
p/s: I am not the mistress, just asking on behalf of a friend.
2006-06-22 03:25:51 · 39 answers · asked by devil22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Someone ask how he and mistress met ?
Met during work place. Working together for 2 years, according to my knowledge happen to have feeling with each other all along. Both were struggling between guilt and etc..
They know it's wrong, but couldn't control the feeling.
But my friend left the man for another boy before, one round she is back to him after her broke off cause what goes round come around. Her then boyfriend of 2years betrayed her for another girl. MBA company her through out 2years the season when she discover her boyfriend betray "She has been tearing and struggling in this 2nd relationship for 2years before decided to left".
(Her reason for leaving MBA (Married but available) because she wanted out of this sorrow relationship. She use to tears infront of her msn waiting for her man to appear in the night to chat with her.
2006-06-22 03:46:02 · update #1
No, he won't leave his wife. As the saying goes...After four years, with or without children....."It's cheaper to keep her."
Alimony is a b.
2006-06-22 03:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion cheating is wrong, he should either talk to his wife and let her know that it's not working out or he needs to stop seeing the mistress and work on his marriage..How would the mistress feel if she were in the wifes shoes..And if he leaves his wife for the mistress how is she going to trust him, he already cheated on his wife because he wasn't happy so when he gets bored with the mistress what is he going to do go find someone else..Tell your friend she is better off finding someone who is single and that will love her 24/7 not only when he can come around..
2006-06-22 03:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am speaking from personal experience here - first pressure or not he married the woman - and please let me tell you that you are only getting one side of the story - you have no idea what is really going on it that home - he has reached a point in his life that he needs to feel like he is young again and the young mistress is doing that for him - he will not leave his wife and trust me everyone will be hurt in the end - get out while you can.
2006-06-22 03:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kat K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He'll never leave the wife. He might be bored, they all say that but never leave. If he's so unhappy why hasn't he filed for divorce there is nothing holding him back unless it's financial security. Hasn't your friend heard the saying "once a mistress always a mistress" I've been one for the last three years and I'm happy with my situation but on public holidays I wish I was the wife. The best advise if she can handle being # 2 then go for it but if she can't she better cut her loses.
2006-06-22 03:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not leave his wife (if he still has a sense of responsibility) neither he will never leave his mistress. As a result, the mistress will gradually become his 2nd wives without any permission from 1st wife.
I'm a good example and I do live happily with my husband and children. I was his mistress for 1 year and we married on 2nd year till now.
2006-06-22 04:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt seriously if he will leave her permanently for your friend. If he does, it could be the worse thing that ever happens to her. Should that happen, and they get together, will she ever really be able to trust him? After all, he was cheating on one and that's the way she found him. She may think she can "change" him, or that he will change because of who she is, but he won't. Your friend may as well face it.....she's a "young" mistress for an "old" guy. She'd be much better off if she just cuts her losses and runs in the other direction.
2006-06-22 03:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the husband could not have "regretted" his marital vows if he stayed married for 4 years; so there has to be someothing there in order for him to hand around for that length of time. If you are a true friend you will bow out of this situation as it has the potential to blow up in your face(sorry but it is the truth, no offense intended). If I were aware of the fact that I was somebody's mistress, I would not let the door hit me in the butt on my way out. Once a cheat; always a cheat................and peer pressure is an old excuse, not a REASON !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This dude sounds like he is the master of manipulation so he will always have HIS own way & screw everyone else; I pity him cause that is pretty flippin shallow................does he kick puppies, too?
2006-06-22 03:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by betharoo63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the majority of cases, he will not leave his wife. The mistress should leave him alone as he will never be fully committed to her. Besides, me and my husband are happily married and we do not spend 24-7 with each other. On the weekends, he goes with his friends while I take care of the kids, etc.
2006-06-22 03:28:58 · answer #8 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, he is pulling your friend's leg. He made the choice to get married, he was not "peer pressured" at 38 years of age to do so. Point two, he is 42!!! What an ego boost for him to get some hot 27 year old to choke his chicken for him while his wife's 40 year old body is showing signs of being over 40....Give your friend a reality check. She's fooling herself. What does she want with an old geezer like him when there are plenty of hotties out there closer to her age. Your friend is showing bad judgement by getting involved with a married man to begin with. This mans wife may be nuts and kill both of them. You never know. You should convince your friend, if she is a friend of any kind to get out of that dead situation. Good Luck.
2006-06-22 03:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no people rarely leave their wives or girlfriends for a mistress. many of my friends have had their hearts broken because they thought a man was going to leave his girlfriend or wife for them. Men just like to have options sometimes. Plus how could the mistress expect him to be faithful to her if he is cheating on his wife. He obviously doesn't value relationships
2006-06-22 03:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by bloomingflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shouldn't have a mistress, its better to end it before getting involved with someone else, otherwise the wife really gets the crap end of the deal. - its not fair to her
I hope the guy grows up & realizes he isn't in high school anymore.
I don't know if he will leave her or not, but the age level may affect the realtionship later - maturity differance
Good luck I guess....
2006-06-22 03:31:09 · answer #11 · answered by River rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋