women,,,,,,, if you divorced your husband which would bother you the most. him looking like a whipped puppy and always sad. or to see him doing well and is happier now that he is over your . And doing better than ever financially and spiritually, and being in a relationship with an amazing woman???
2006-06-22 03:07:01 · 33 answers · asked by bigblock_475_hp d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would just wish him well and think of the wonderful life ahead of me. i dont care if he is happy or not, that is none of my business now.
2006-06-22 03:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were to divorce my husband, it would be because I no longer loved him and could no longer live together. I would want him to go on with his life, just as I would with mine. If he is more successful then, than before that would assure me that we both made the right decision. Now if it seemed that he was looking like a whipped puppy, then I would have to wonder if he missed me. That would only prove that I was the best thing that happened to him. Either way, I could not hold a grudge.
2006-07-05 13:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've divorced someone, generally the idea is that you have no interest in his life anymore. In other words, you wouldn't care whether he was with a busty blonde or completely miserable. If you wanted the divorce too, jealousy should NOT be an issue. Now of course if you have kids, appropriate interaction between you two is neccessary, but the idea still remains.
Just worry about yourself, and YOUR life. What direction are YOU going in? I have learned that if you are always comparing yourself to others, you will never get ahead in life. Be the best that YOU can be.
2006-06-22 03:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest about this...how the woman feels about his happiness afterwards depends on two things:
...how she felt about the divorce in the first place. If it was her idea, she may be happy about his success because it means he won't be coming back and asking to try again.
...and how she feels about her life now depends on how her own life is.
If she's happy, with a new love, successful etc...then she will want to see him have the same happiness. However, if she is unhappy, single, unsatisfied with her life etc...then she is most likely going to hope he feels the same.
All the ladies that say "I dont care no matter what"....come on girls. We DO care ...even if its only temporary. How many would turn down information on how an ex is doing? You wouldn't. Curiosity is a powerful force.
2006-06-22 03:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by kenda_girl75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to see that my ex is doing even worse without me. Sometimes it makes me feel guilty but I think I would have had a nervous breakdown if I had stayed with him. I still try to help him out by paying his auto insurance and giving him money since I work more than he does. After all, he is the father of my children. I truly wish that his life was better and that he didn't have so many health problems now and that he had a good woman in his life.
2006-07-05 22:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by runningviolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if we decided on divorce, we must take on the aftereffects of it. Of course it hurts to know that your ex-husband has been better without you, but it will be selfish for us women to feel something like that. I don't think one would also want otherwise - where he seems helpless and all, so I should be happy for his newfound happiness, as he would be to mine. And once the divorce is done, both live single lives again so he should be out of the picture, because I also have my own life to live, and it would be unfair that I dwell on the divorce. I also deserve to be happy. WHat happens to my ex should not be a basis for my happiness or loneliness.
2006-06-22 03:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by kia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest it would bother me more to see that he is doing better than he was when he was with me because it would only make you think that you were the problem from the beginning. However, if he was doing bad when he was with you, sometimes it is better to let someone go so that they can better themselves. If your a good person, then you would be happy that he's happy. Now that he has moved on and is in a better place in his life, get yourself together so that you can live happily ever after yourself!
2006-06-22 03:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by shawny2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does this have to do with either low self esteem or self confidence? If I were divorced from my husband I wouldn't care one way or the other how he's doing. I wouldn't give it a second thought.
2006-07-05 09:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I ever did divorce my husband, I would only do it because I needed something that I wasn't getting from him. If I found happiness for myself, of course I would want him to be happy too and it wouldn't serve any purpose to see him mope around. If I didn't find happiness and he did (with or without someone else), then I'd honestly probably be a little resentful.
2006-06-22 03:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by headshrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if he's doing better financially, then more child support for us! He can have his own life - I didn't want it if I divorced him, right?
I would hope he is well though because he still has a responsibility to his children to be as good a role model as he can be in a tough situation. Kids depend on that support and strength.
2006-06-22 03:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by melissa_lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a man and about five years ago after a ten year relationship we decided to split up, there was no hurt or anything because we realized that we were just not the marrying kind. after we split we still saw each other from time to time just as friends. and we talked about other relationships we were having. you know the good the bad and the darm right ugly. and although now we have lost touch. we must admit it was the best for us both. life goes on.
2006-06-22 03:45:12 · answer #11 · answered by andymuzic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋