I don't want to be a bug-a-boo but it seems that when a guy dosn't answer I constantly call in hopes that he'll pick up. It makes me look bad to constantly call. How do I just hang up and don't pick it up agan to call him?
2006-06-22 02:51:17 · 11 answers · asked by lovely 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Just do it.
There is no how.
He is avoiding you and its over.
You have to move on.
Many times in your life you will have to just move on from something that you had hopes for.
The quicker you do it and find something else, the better off you will be.
I know it is hard, very hard.
But, you can do it!
God Bless.
2006-06-22 02:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I know you want to call, but what you're doing is exactly the wrong thing to do.
Any guy in his right mind who has someone call him over and over when he isn't answering his phone would be driven to run away even further from the relationship. (Seriously. Guys hate feeling as if they do not have freedom.)
Either he has a good reason for not answering and you are showing him you don't respect or trust him; or he has a bad reason for not answering, and you've already lost him.
So repeated calling will have no positive effect on your relationship, and has the potential instead to trash it.
You need to find something else to distract you. It sounds like part of you really finds identity in being someone's girlfriend, and you feel most alive when you're with him. Your focus needs to shift, and you need find things you enjoy doing just as part of your own life -- craft, hobbies, helping people, reading, whatever you're good at and enjoy. Or build some better friendships with your gfs.
Right now, your bf is the center of your attention, and it's driving you nuts when he's not around.
2006-06-22 03:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You, my dear, sound very desperate for love, but he's not giving it apparently. Suck it up! Feel the pain (I know that 's really what you're trying to avoid) and stay gone from home most of the time so that you don't have to like of him and sit and wait and hope that the phone will ring. Where are your girlfriends, go to the park and meet more guys (that will take your mind off of him).
But you need to get with the program - he is just not "into" you. And he's a coward for not letting you know it. And for the future, learn to love yourself, for those who don't want to treat you right should be let go - this should apply to male or female. It's called loving yourself and rudeness should not be tolerated. Same as I tell my daughter - it's about you, not him because you are meant to meet alot more people in your lifetime then just stopping for him. To make someone that high on the pedestal above yourself is totally insane. Get your grips and fix your composure to get ready to meet other people to at least help to get him off of your mind. It starts slow at first because your energy level will be very, very low. But do it anyway. You will get stronger and then before you know it - boyfriend, who????
If you don't like the pain, start putting the plan in action or there is no gain.
Best wishes to you!
2006-06-22 04:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by rightbackatcha! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would agree and disagree with your other answers...it is NOT necessarily over. He might just be busy, on other calls, etc etc depending on his lifestyle, which I know nothing about. At any rate calling too much IS a bad thing, for him AND for you. You just need to find things to do to busy yourself so time doesn't move so slow 'til he calls again...it is easy to start obsessing, waiting for it to happen. (Trust me, I know. Sometimes I behave certifiably, lol.) But you have to try and preoccupy yourself. Answer yahoo questions, lol. Eventually you will find you feel more confident talking less often, as time goes by and you feel comfortable in the relationship. And if you two really love each other, your relationship will survive a little clinginess, honestly. Just don't let it get out of hand. Learn this lesson the easy way, and not the hard way, IE by making him crazy mad at you, lol!!!
2006-06-22 03:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by cooperslassie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're young because that might excuse your obsession to keep checking on your boyfriend. If you're more mature, then I would hope you know this is wrong to possibly be suspicious and trying to track his every move. If the trust isn't there, then this isn't the right relationship for you. He will pick up if he is available and not avoiding you, as it may feel like you're sort of stalking him. I think you already know that this is a bad habit, something not to be repeatedly done. Unless he gives you reason, and that doesn't excuse him or you, let it go for your own sanity. Be secure enough in your own self worth.
2006-06-22 03:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lorna M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-24 17:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard i've done that same stuff. But in my case it's been my ex-boyfriend so thats even worse. I try to get my mind on other things but I still couldnt resist the temptation to call him. I guess theres somethings you just cant fight.
2006-06-22 02:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing...why doesnt he answer in the first place?
Dont make yourself seem desperate, guys dont find it interesting, in fact it makes them run away. Play hard to get, and he will change for sure.
2006-06-22 02:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Nostromo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just stop do something else when the urge takes you to call .when leaving your house leave your phone at home
2006-06-22 02:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by rjryanir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋