We have been trying for months. My stepsis knows this. She just found out she was pg. She told me by calling and saying "Are you pg yet" and when I said no she started laughing and said I am. Her bf doesn't want the baby and is trying to get her to abort it. She even asked me the other day if I wanted their baby. Do you think she is just saying stuff like that to hurt my feelings because she knows we are having trouble getting pregnant?
2006-06-22 02:51:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Hello if she was excited she wouldn't be trying to give me her baby.....or discussing abortion
2006-06-22 04:00:07 · update #1
I don't know, but I would make use of caller I.D. (or get it if you don't have it) and just stop picking up her calls. What a horrible human being. Even if it's true and she's not doing it *intentionally,* to be that cruel and callous - the word I have for her would violate Answers code of conduct.
Tell your mom and dad how hateful she is and that you have no interest in being in contact with her right now. You have the right to not have idiots in your life. I'm sorry about this.
2006-06-22 02:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear you and your husband are having problems conceiving. It will happen when the time is right.
As far as your step sister goes I don't think she is trying to hurt your feelings. People generally are insensitive about things they do not understand. Tell her comments are bothering to you and to consider your feelings before she speaks. She doesn't understand what you are going through because it has not happened to her. People who have not been in your situation can and do say hurtful things not knowing they are doing so.
If she is considering abortion you should probably think about adopting her child. I don't know what it is, but people always get pregnant after adopting. Not only that, I think abortions are horrible and people should take extra precautions when they don't want children. Good luck and best wishes getting pregnant. I will say a prayer for you.
2006-06-22 05:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Pren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I am so sorry for what you are going through, not only your sis but not being able to conceive. We also have been trying for awhile....well a long time really just over 4 years and it hurts like nothing else in this world BUT.....
I hold my head up and I suck it in and deal with life....my sister who doesn't take care of her kids like I would got pregnant again while we were trying for 3 1/2 years (this is her 3rd), both of my sister-in-laws also got pregnant while we were trying and one of them for some reason didnt' want us having a child yet, then there are those women who dont' need kids popping one out every year or so. I know exactly how you feel and then to have it rubbed in your face like my sister also does me it hurts. My sister isn't bad like yours though at all so I am thankful for that.
I do think she is rubbing it in your face. I don't care what anyone says. She is being a butt about it. The only thing you can do is tell her that unless she will let you adopt the baby or she can come around and be nice then you don't want to hear anything about her or her pregnancy. Then let her go. She will come around and be better if she really cares about you. I hid my feelings for the first 3 years of trying to get pregnant but now I just let everyone know how tough it is because it helps me to deal with it and it lets people know how it feels so they will show compassion and understanding instead of judgment or pity.
And another thing is I don't know what you are doing to try to get pregnant but I suggest taking your Basal Body Temperature for a few months to see if you are even ovulating. If you aren't you can't get pregnant so try that. If you aren't having your period regular then most likely you aren't ovulating regularly. Try this website for lots of trying to conceive information and to chart your BBT. http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ Good luck!
2006-06-22 05:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by brm1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that your having a hard time and that you dont appreciate that she is putting you down and hurting you. She is your sister and sisters are to be suportive not mean about it...It took some strength for me to tell my aunt and uncle that I was pregnant because they couldnt have a child. But just try not to think about her and think about you and your husband!.. if you need anyone to talk to you can feel free to e-mail me @ Sjeboyce@yahoo.com
2006-06-22 03:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your step-sister knows you have been trying to get pregnant and having problems, and she *laughed*, then, yes, she is intentionally trying to hurt your feelings.
2006-06-22 03:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she just excited for her self!!! You would have felt the same way if you got pregnant and she wasn't, but you pry wouldn't brag as bad!!!
2006-06-22 02:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by luckee 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just ask her what she mean by that. Its not fair to you to feel hurt ahout somthing that mean so much to you. So don't let it get you down. Thing's will work out in the end.
2006-06-22 02:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by ogpeanut6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is clearly insensitive...I'm sorry about that. Who knows why she is saying it.....but it says a lot about the kind of person she is. That's very hurtful.
2006-06-22 03:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by NancyO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's being immature. She should not be raising the baby. Grab it at the first oppurtunity
2006-06-22 02:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by nakedandsucking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋