im 18, and i want to have a baby with my boyfriend...is that right?

Question

We've been dating almost 3 years..should i try and get pregnant? or wait awhlie

ok, let me revive this, i am working as a accounts receievable clerk at the community college making 11.00 a hour.

Answer 1

save money for 3 years to hekp pay for the baby. 3 years isn't that long and you'll be 21.

Answer 2

If you two are truly in love with each other, will get married, and can support your baby financially, then why not? Everyone loves babies...they're so sweet and cute and smell so good. However, you have to realize that you having your own baby isn't like when you go to a friend's house and play with her baby. At the end of the afternoon or evening when you leave, you don't kiss the baby bye and go home to a peaceful, quiet house, or take off for a movie or what have you. Once you have that baby, he's yours forever. That's not to say that you'll NEVER go out again, but to be a parent, you not only have to be financially ready, but mentally ready, as well. You'll have to grow up really fast and get your priorities in line. Once you have a baby, that's it...that baby (should be!) your entire world.

People say raising children is difficult. I don't know if I agree with that. It is difficult in that it's non-stop work... You FINALLY get your three month old colicky baby to sleep after rocking her for 2 hours non stop, and just as you're about to sit down and take a breather yourself and flip on the TV, bzzzzzzzzz...there goes the dryer buzzer. You HAVE to fold the clothes, because it contains all her onesies and she's a spitter-upper and doesn't have any clean ones left, so you have to fold them. Just as you finish folding the laundry, you realize that it's nearly 6:00 p.m., your boyfriend will be home soon, and you haven't even THOUGHT about what you're making for dinner, much less started cooking it. So, you get up to try to throw something relatively nutritious together, and just as you're about to get it in the oven, the phone rings or someone knocks on the door, and it wakes your baby up and she starts screaming...

This is mild compared to what can/will really happen. Just remember this...your priorities will have to change if you want to have a child. They're not like puppies or kittens...babies need constant attention and rely on you for everything. :)

As for your job...$11.00 per hour is nothing to sneeze at...BUT, babies are incredibly expensive. Diapers (even the generic ones), formula (if you choose to formula feed), clothes, toys, doctor's visits, etc. don't come cheap...

Answer 3

it doesnt matter how much money you are making. having a baby takes you life away! you no longer can go out at night to parties you cant sleep in and if you stay up late its bc your baby needs you. Some of your friends that you think are you friends wont have anything to do with you anymore because you will have all your time on your baby. A baby at such a young age can affect you and your boyfriends relationship a lot. My parents had me at a YOUNG age and after seeing what it has done to their life I will never do it. I hope this helps. Just make sure you put A LOT of thought into it before making a mistake that will affect you LATTER in life! This is also my opinion. If you think you are ready then talk to your boyfriend about it and think about everything that will happen

Answer 4

You want to be a mother at 18? What sort of jobs do you have that you can provide a stable environment for a child? You should be out having fun at your age. My advise is to first get married in a few years if you are together with the same guy (50/50 chance) and then have kids after 25.

Answer 5

It's fine to want a baby and all, but having a baby is not like "another one of those personal lifestyle choices" that some others make it to be.

If you had these other things, you'd would have mentioned them, but since you didn't, then I guess you're not ready to have a baby.

Other things:
1. I'm married
2. We're on the road to financial security.
3. I'm 18, but I have the full support of my extended family.
4. We've been married a few years and want to take the next step.
5. I'm mature, even for my age.

Answer 6

Wait until you have a career and a house and a life. You may get out of highschool and find out he's not really the one you want to be with for the rest of your life.

A child is not a doll. It's a real person with very expensive needs. That child deserves the best possible chance at a life. When you have a child with someone it links you to that person, like it or not, for the rest of your life. You have plenty of years to have children. Having a child will force you to put your life on hold for the next 18 years. Gather your life first before you have to take care of someone elses.

Answer 7

Not until you are married. You see, the proper name for a baby born to an unmarried couple is B-A-S-T-A-R-D. I read a book about a boy who was called that because his mom had him with a man while she was prostituting. Think of what might become of your baby. consider marriage first. Premarital sex is a sin anyway. Also, you might want to have quite a bit of cash before you do that. Do you have a career? A healthy lifestyle? A suitable environment for a child?

Answer 8

Why don't you think about the babyand get married to a man that loves you and treats you good and one that you do the same to if this guy is scared of marriage thats not a good sign! a baby needs parents as in 2

Answer 9

You shouldn't be asking strangers if that's right. You should be able to tell for yourself. Talk to you boyfriend about it. Talk to your parents about it. 18 is a young age (although girls get pregnant much younger than 18) You do what you feel is right. If you two plan to get married soon, I'd wait, you don't want to have to care for a baby while you're on your honeymoon do you?

Answer 10

I say no it's hard taking care of a child. It takes money and time. And 18 is young live a little first. Get married. Enjoy the rest of your teenage years and a little bit in your 20's!

Answer 11

!No it's not right....u should wait a while! If u havea child now then lata when your friends r out partying u might wanna go & no 1 would volunteer 2 take care of your chil & u will b at home baby sittin while your friends r havin ALL the fun...! Holla back!!! Ya girl, Miss *Princess* $Diva$ !Jade!