i'm not a good wife at all,i cheat my hubby,he love me a lot,i slept 5times with another guy,i felt ashmed ..

Question

what to do let me know...i love my hubby alot..i 'm 30 slept with a man who is younger then me..now i wnat to stop... did i do big mistake in my life????plz help me out give me a good answer..

Answer 1

You need to decide if you really want to make things work with your husband. I don't know that I would tell him if he doesn't already know, but that is up to you. If you want to stop having sex with this other guy, then stop. Tell him you aren't interested and that you are going to stay with your husband. You always run the risk that he might tell your husband but I think that if you and your husband love each other, you should be able to get over this given enough time.

Good Luck

Answer 2

Permit me to offer you some advice. Strap yourself in.

Sleep around once - it's a mistake
Sleep around with the same guy five times -- you have a heart problem.
The answer is clearly: You neither truly love your husband nor yourself.
And the very root of your actions prove that you are a very selfish person.
Your selfish living will destroy you and in the very end (when you become old and wrinkly - like we all will become), you will die alone.

Now, the bigger question is when you look in the mirror, do you like what you see? Do you like what you are becoming?

You are more than the fire in your panties. Bring your passions under control.

It has been said "Any fool can start an affair but it takes a wise person to end it."

TV, movies, Hollywood marriages and our society messages are lying to us as a whole.

Many people are marrying personalities only and not character. And marriage is God's place to building each spouse's character. My wife and I will celebrate our 15th year of marriage and I can tell you from experience, it ain't no walk in the park.

If you have the high sexual need in the relationship and your part is the low sexual need, then you will feel slighted. It's so easy to listen to the demons who whisper lies ever so softly in your ears. Be honest, you've heard them and countless others:
"I'm still attractive. I'll prove it."
"I can get my needs fulfilled somewhere else."

The moment we act on a lie, the death spiral begins.

In a loving marriage, each person has to be willing to look beyond the other's faults as well as have a honest desire to serve and submit to each other in love. We are forced to learn the "seasons of marriage." None of us is naturally wired to that. But that's where true love comes in. Not the nonsense you see on TV.

The reason why marriages end up in divorce is because the lust has quickly burned away after the sex becomes uninteresting only to reveal that there was no substance or foundation underneath.

Your choices are clear: Confess your transgressions to your husband and forsake them. At any rate, you must be willing to deal with the consequences of your actions.

Your husband may love you enough to want to salvage the marriage through counseling, or he may want to throw your adulterous butt out of the house and demand a divorce.

You said it earlier, "I'm 30." It's time to grow up. You're not a teenager anymore. Be a real woman, clean up your mess and take care of your husband - especially if he's a good man!!! Believe me, good men are quickly becoming an extinct breed. Most good single women would give almost anything to have one.

So, you have two choices set before you:
1) Life - Reclaim the glory of being a faithful wife and love yourself. Become your husband's crown and not his dagger. Turning away from your wickedness and save yourself from our wicked generation.

Or
2) Death - Your marriage ends horribly. Soonafter, your 'boy-toy' leaves you and throws himself into the arms of another willing woman - leaving you with only the ashes of regret whereby you pierce through your own heart with many sorrows. You enter and remain in that vicious cycle - never reaching your life's potential when you have someone to build it with. You so deeply wound your husband that he never trusts women again.

The choice is wise. Choose...but choose wisely.

Answer 3

Yes, I know its mean, but you made a horrible mistake. I can't really tell you what to do but I can give you a few options. You can make things right and quit having the affair or fo him a favor and get out of the marriage and let him be with a woman that will be faithful to him.

Answer 4

Watch the movie "Unfaithful" with Richard Gere, Diane Lane and Olivier Martinez. This is an interesting movie about a woman who had an affair with a younger man behind her husband's back. In the end, it led to disaster. This movie is a perfect example of what could happen if you don't stop what you are right now.

Obviously, you already feel guilty that you were led to temptation and you broke your marital vows. Once you have an affair and the sex is great, it's hard for you to stop. In order fo you to stop having the affair, you have to have willpower. Divert yourself and keep yourself busy so you get over thinking about your "boyfriend" and focus all your time and attention on your husband and your kids, if you have any. The other thing you have to do is to go get yourself checked out for any Sexually Transmitted Diseases and if it turns out you do have any, you need to tell your husband so he can get checked out for any STD's as well. If you stop having the affair on your own and get yourself checked out and you don't have STD's then you don't need to tell your husband about the affair. If you keep having the affair, the truth will come out eventually by either your husband investigating on you, or your boyfriend can threaten you by telling your husband, or you might feel guilty that it eats you up inside that it drives you crazy and YOU might even tell your husband on your own. If it turns out that your husband found out you had an affair, there is no doubt that he might get mad and/or go ballistic on you. If that is the case, he has the right to express himself but he will get over it. If he loves you, he won't leave you and will work out with you in your marriage but there is also a possibility where he might not forgive you and leave you. So either way, be prepared. You can also tell your husband that you offer to go to counseling with him or by yourself. By going to counseling/therapy, it means that you are willing to change for the better.

Answer 5

Just because you cheated on your hubby doesnt make you a bad wife. You found someone else attractive and you went for it. You are human and things like this happen....not to all but for 75% of us it does. Nothing to be ashamed of but if you want to work on your marriage then do so. Some things are better left unsaid. You will not be lying to your hubby just not telling him everything

Answer 6

The answer is obvious - stop it! Sounds like guilt is tearing you up. If you want to stay married you have to break all ties with your lover. No emails, IM's, phone calls, 'just happening' to bump into him, etc.

You're human - so you made a mistake. Correct it and move on, but if you keep making that mistake you may feel some serious consequences.

Answer 7

Stop now and focus your attention on your husband. If you really want it to work out there is no sense in telling him about the afair. Just make sure you don't make the same mistake again. You control what you do. If you don't love him and want to make it work get out, now! He doesn't deserve to have a wife that cheats.

Answer 8

Confess to your husband and see if he can forgive you, but it will take some time for him to trust you. You have a lot of work to do.Good luck girlfriend

Answer 9

you made a huge mistake and you should tell your husband what you did and get yourself into counseling if you are lucky he will want to work it out with you

Answer 10

well, just a question to ya - were you not ashamed the first time, or the second, third, fourth????? are you so shameless that you feel ashamed only at the fifth time???? damn, I guess keep sleeping with other men too and make their nights too then!

Cheers to ya!