my mother in law is misbehaving with me,but in front of my husband she behaves in normal way,i want to teach her lesson,but how,please tell me.
2006-06-22 01:21:20 · 6 answers · asked by anjulika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to your husband and express concern about her "split" personality. I bet she has done the same stuff to him while he was growing up. Maybe he can give you suggestions. Or, the next time she is over, confront her in front of father-in-law and husband. Give specific examples of how she treats you when no one is around and tell her how that makes you feel. Tell her that her behavior is making it difficult for you to enjoy her presence. Either she needs to shape up or you will just have to limit her visits. The other option is to never be alone with her. But, remember the old saying, "you can't teach an old dog new tricks"? I don't think you'll be able to change or without other family members helping.
2006-06-22 01:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by Chainsawmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never make the mistake of bring your man into a fight between you and his mother. Remember that she is the one who gave birth to him and blood is always thicker than water. Even if he realises your plight, he will only be in a dilemma about how he should confront his mother without being the insolent son.
Your Mother-in- law either suffers from insecurities of losing her son to you or she want you to know at all times who is the boss.
In my personal experiences, I have found that if you want to a family to be happy especially as woman, learn to give with an open heart. Make extra efforts to be nice to her, take good care of her health and food even at the cost of not spending as much time with your husband as you might want to. Do it with genuine concern if not with love. What goes around must come around.
Bend before her with compassion and respect but DO NOT grovel. Stand up to her but politely when you are confronted just as one deals with a boss. Don't play games. She will either melt or she will give up. She is an old lady, and she will need your support at times even if she doesnt want to admit it.... she needs more understanding in this age than you think.... open her heart even if she resists and then all shall be peaceful for all of you.
2006-06-22 08:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by suruchi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u might b going thru' when u have to live deliberately with some one you who is not compatible.
Alas, we cant choose our families.the only thing that u can do is to show her the same mirror.These people have lived their whole lives playing games, may b with their own inlawswho knows.They will only entertain you howecer good u b to them , if they have their own selfish needs.
What u can do is avoid confronting her whether alone or just walk out. If not possible just answer her straight forward bluntly. Do it 5-6 times .she 'll know by then u cant b suppressed.
2006-06-22 09:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by dolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your attitude.....
U will harm your married life if u think that u can or want to teach her a lesson
instead try to find what are her expectations.....try to adjust
plz dont do it......if u want to know what the repurcussions can be u can contact me.......plz u will spoil your married life
2006-06-22 08:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by sunil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
record, videotape her or ask your husband to hear behind the doors. Not a very nice thing to do, but what she´s doing to you isnt nice either!
2006-06-22 08:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by missp_rio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
video tape it
2006-06-22 08:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by elman411 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋